Changing yourself takes time, it is incremental and can seem like hypocrisy to judging observers. While developing yourself you may reverse opinions, contradict yourself and seem inconsistent with your beliefs and actions. Don't allow people to control you with the consistency trap. Consistency has been weaponized. Don't let consistency be used against your holistic being and full-spectrum intelligence. You are not illogical. You are not stupid. Being ‘smart' is a total spectrum of behaviors; it is about balance — not just intellect. Your opinions matter, and you can even change them! You can say things that are completely wrong and still be a part of a legitimate dialogue. You can do things that are completely wrong and still be a part of a legitimate evolution. You are an amorphous being and can change your views, opinions, ideas, and beliefs at will and as frequently as you desire. You are allowed to be inconsistent, contradictory and unbound by conventions such as sanity, intelligence or making sense. When you reserve the right to total contradiction, you reserve the self-acceptance to be human.
“In every or any situation, regardless of the mitigating factors, you can always change your mind. If what you are thinking, saying or doing in response to any person or experience is not bringing you peace, change your mind! Changing your mind about anything or anyone transforms how those things or persons impact your life.”
— Iyanla Vanzant
“Forgive the past. It is over. Learn from it and let go. People are constantly changing and growing. Do not cling to a limited, disconnected, negative image of a person in the past. See that person now. Your relationship is always alive and changing.”
— Brian L. Weiss
We so easily sling judgements on others, yet we don't want judgements levied against us when we change our ideals. Everyone just wants acceptance. Accepting others is really about accepting yourself, because when you accept others you are freed from your own inner-conflict. When you quit judging others you can be your true-self, rather than being emotionally embroiled with other people's lifestyles and beliefs. Your spiritual journey is about freedom, but not just your freedom — everyone's freedom.