When You Feel Like Something’s Missing, Look Here…

Do you ever feel like something's missing in an area of your life?

Relationships, business, passions… it's a nagging feeling most of us experience at one time or another.

Long ago, I learned from A Course in Miracles that when you feel like something's missing in any situation, the answer is what's missing is what you're not giving. I've found this to be powerfully true in so many instances. It's an idea that's changed the way I show up in many areas of my life for the better, and keeps me focused on always doing the best I can, asking, “What more can I offer?”

But, I've recently learned there's something else that can help us shift that feeling that something's missing — connection. Deep, soulful connection  to other like-minded people, the Universe, nature, a higher power. It's something so many of us cruise through our days on autopilot without paying much attention to or consciously inviting into our lives. But that's the thing… it must be consciously created.

What happens when we go without this for too long is that our soul starts to feel there's a gap like a vitamin deficiency of the spirit.

Lack of deep connection in our lives can feel like driving a car with partially deflated tires.

The result can be that familiar, empty feeling that something's missing. It can cause us to feel a bit sad, stressed, hollow… even depressed… without really being able to pinpoint the cause. 

It takes conscious effort to nurture that part of us that is in need of deeper connections.

It takes reaching out, deliberate effort, mindful communication, and precious time out of our day… but when we create the habit of seeking and nurturing these connections, the empty feelings fade and those spaces are filled with powerful joy, peace, happiness and purpose. It also takes making time to be off the computer and connecting more with people we care about face to face. If we shift to live this way regularly, we can reduce or eliminate that “something's missing” feeling, and become more connected to Love, the Universe, to each other, and create a stronger sense of community at the same time.

Deeper connection can mean different things to each of us, and the connections we desire can sometimes change. It's all about going within and listening to what kinds of connections your own soul is craving. Deep conversation with friends? Prayer? Meditation? Brainstorming with people who share your passions? Art? Touch?

A few areas where I'm looking to create deeper connections in my life are with my garden (I love growing my own food), with friends (It's so easy when you work from home to go weeks without seeing loved ones), and with the ocean. The ocean, to me, is such a powerful place of magical connections and reminders of things far bigger than we can imagine.

So, I invite you to join me in seeking and creating deeper, more meaningful connections. What's your soul longing for? Maybe it's a more regular spiritual practice, or maybe it's simply spending more sacred time with a beloved friend or pet. Let me know in the comments section. Whatever it is for you, always be seeking. Always be making the time.

Connection to love, passion, and to higher energetic vibrations is the master key to filling life's empty spaces.


Kristi Ling

Kristi Ling is a happiness strategist, transformational life and business coach, and author working to help others create joy and realize their dream life.

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Melissa Rose Rothschild

“So, I invite you to join me in seeking and creating deeper, more meaningful connections.”
I will accept your invitation and I love all of the ways that you suggest.
Thank you Kristi ❤️

Gail Liming

Yes, what Robin stated would probably be an issue for me too, finding like-minded people that are fun to be around and like to do different things, my only outlet or solution is to do more volunteer work to defray from the mundane, otherwise, I’m spending too much time on the computer. I love creating so was thinking of maybe taking an art class of some kind. Thanks for your words Andrea.


This is so beautiful


I would like a deeper connection with the world. I just retired from a toxic work situation and am transitioning to another career in customer service. This profession makes my heart happy. I’m interviewing and taking the time to choose which position to take. I’ve been without a partner for so long. Dating sites are so empty. I want to embrace museums, shopping; more open places to strike up conversations and like you said, find like minded people. Thank you for letting me share. Any advice or encouragement is greatly appreciated!


Sounds like you’re on the right track Robin! <3


Thank you, Andrea! I’m trying