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Three Steps to a More Enjoyable Life

To have a more enjoyable life firstly you must know joy.

Do you know joy in your life?

To have a more enjoyable life firstly you must know joy. I consider joy to be more than happiness but not as great as bliss.

In Ancient Egypt they believed that upon death you would be asked two questions which determine the continuation of one’s journey into the afterlife. The first question was “Did you bring joy?”. The second question was “Did you find joy?”

You are born with joy.

Witness the unconditional joy of a baby gurgling and laughing. What happens to most of us is that we chose to bury that inner joy and we seek the shiny things of life to satisfy our ego’s needs.

Those of us brought up in less affluent times remember the unbridled joy of our first car which was usually a “cheapie”. What joy we felt when driving our car and the freedom it brought us. Freedom is an ingredient of finding joy and once you find joy you want to share it. The feeling of joy is contagious!

Joy is found in sharing, giving, serving, feeling worthwhile and finding happiness in the smallest of things. Feeling gratitude for all we have and choosing to ignore what we don’t have enables this gratitude to unearth our inner joy.

There are three steps to take in most endeavours in life. These steps are non- resistance; non- judgement and non- attachment. In finding joy and giving joy these three steps remain constant.


1. Do not resist joy when you find it.

Believe, know and experience joy even if it lasts a second or a day or even longer. Don’t say why do I deserve to be joyful when the world is in such a bad way and thousands of people are dying daily of starvation. Don’t resist the joy that has found you. This joy has come to you and wants you to share it with others. You have been selected as a messenger of joy, don’t resist this opportunity to be joyful. Simply be joyful.

2. Don’t judge joy or your joy or anyone else who is joyful.

Don’t judge whether they or you deserve to be joyful and especially don’t judge the choice of joy to alight on you. Joy has chosen you whether you feel worthy or not, it is immaterial. Any judgement of joy and your feeling unworthy of being joyful is simply a judgement that lacks total understanding as all judgements do. Judging someone or something means that you have chosen not to understand them, or it, fully, and you are simply being too lazy to investigate. It’s much easier to simply judge anyway. Don’t judge the joy you feel, embrace it for this moment of now! 


3. Let joy be who you are as your inner being and express that joy outward.

However, do not become attached to joy and hold it tight so it can’t escape. Joy is a feeling and feelings are usually fleeting. Only a well trained mind, in a meditative sense, can prolong the feeling of joy through gratitude and acceptance leading to develop joy into bliss. Accept that for this moment of now you are joyful and don’t attach yourself to only wanting to be joyful. Simply be joyful now.

In the world of duality that we live in on earth the counterbalance to joy is sorrow. If we didn’t know sorrow we could not recognise joy, its opposite. Expect that the see-saw of your life will alternate between joy and sorrow as it does with so many other dualities. Accept joy but let it go where it needs to be next after alighting on you. Be thankful for the moment of joy and express your gratitude in and for such joy.

For those on a spiritual path knowing that your Higher Power is only Joy, that your soul is a part of such a Higher Power and that you are joy as your inner most being. This inner joy is bursting to come out into your world but the mental obstacles your ego has placed in your way by doing, acquiring, defending its position and so many other ego -based actions are suffocating this inner joy expressed as your soul. Recognise these ego-based thoughts, words and actions and know that ego equals failure and learn to become more egoless and humble and joy will find you again and again as it lives within you in your soul.

For those who are interested I have written a free book found on my website PersonalEmpowerment.co

Ego = Failure subtitled learning to become more egoless and humble. Reading it will unlock your inner joy.

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Neville Berkowitz

Neville Berkowitz is a global businessman with over 45 years experience, a loving father and Spiritual Author of 18 free books found on his two websites, personalempowerment.co and guidespeak.com. Neville is described by world famous author, Dan Millman, as a ‘Renaissance Man’ being able to blend his proven business acumen with a spiritual way of being to benefit many people. Personal Empowerment’s Facebook page ‘Path to Personal Empowerment’ has in excess of 1.2 million Followers after 3 years.

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prabhakar rajarapu
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prabhakar rajarapu

THANK YOU

Jackie Wilushewski
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Very nice article, it was great to read this because I could really feel your emotions and authenticity here. I just love this way of looking t our lives and a way to help us slow down and really look at what we are doing (or not doing) to bring joy into our own life and the lives of others. Thank you for this! <3

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Charity

I’ve learned something new today about judgment. Well written article. Amazing. Shared via twitter

Fran Merkh
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Joy with constant criticism does exist. Inner joy cannot be erased when your joy is Christ. We listen to critique, insults and accusations, look them in the eye to check what’s true and what’s not true, correct behaviour by God’s help, let go what’s not truth and move forward.

Gail Liming
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Gail Liming

Be yourself and joy will follow no matter what the circumstances bring. Joy isn’t laughing all the time its felt inside the soul our innermost being. And it can be a good belly laugh occasionally to know that we are human. Thanks for sharing this article.

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karley

thank you for the books 🙂

Manachaleg
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JOY is the bases of Love… one cannot love out its fullness without the bubbling side of JOY… BEING JOYFUL BRINGS THE BEST OUT IN A PERSON, PEOPLE, PLACES AND THINGS… NO MATTER WHAT… JOY MAKES THE WORLD BRIGHT ALL AROUND YOU… LIFTING PEOPLE AROUND YOU REGARDLESS IF STRANGERS OR NOT.. SO LIGHT YOURSELVES UP WITH DELIGHT AND SHINE OUT WITH A JOYFUL HEART, MIND AND SOUL… ALLELUIA… HURRAH… XOXOXO!

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Sherryramlogan9

Thank you Sir…it was a great article…joy is something that really comes from within and sometimes it lasts and goes in a blink of an eye…but we must welcome it on arrival..

Robina fazal
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Nice ,inspiring article..💖💐Sir Neville..Really true..and authentic..We have to trust our own selves.. our inner instincts..as much we love ourselves.. we nùture..the best of ourselves.. in our Soul and mind..and this will lead us to an amazing lovely world of Joy and contentment in wht ever we are doing..we do it with more love..passion..energy…zeal ..zest and enthusiasùm..This is real joy…Life is once we Should live it love..and joy…Be a loving Soul for our own selves…and love other Souls..with full joy.. love..compassion.. care and respect…This wht God wants from us..to be a Pure Human.. and love all..💖💐Amen

Eveliina Aitakangas
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Eveliina Aitakangas

Joy means that you can enjoy every little things life has to offer…
That you notice even smallist things…and feel good about it…