There is nothing more spiritual than freedom and it is very spiritual to violate old beliefs for new values.
Accepting a person who is not consistent is difficult because it means you cannot depend on them to have unchanging values and ideas, which is another way of saying you cannot “understand” them. People often want to “understand” others to “know their place” for strategic self-positioning, which is ultimately about control and safeguarding their advantage. If you make a big life-change it may literally shatter those around you because they can only accept and “love” you “their way.” They may judge you as unstable, but really they are unstable, which is why they may fall-apart as you move forward. It is really their illusion of knowing and control that has ended.
Who says you have to be the same person tomorrow that you are today?
The inconsistent person is free, and freedom is really what people fear most. Who says you have to be the same person tomorrow that you are today? It is a ridiculous notion. Change is inevitable. Your personal and spiritual evolution will always be seen as a betrayal by those whose values you abandon. You have a right to change your values, beliefs, and ideas. The discomfort you feel when you attempt to change is just the social control that surrounds you becoming more obvious and bearing down on you. There is nothing more spiritual than freedom and it is very spiritual to violate old beliefs for new values.
Changing yourself takes time, it is incremental and can seem like hypocrisy to judging observers.
Changing yourself takes time, it is incremental and can seem like hypocrisy to judging observers. While developing yourself you may reverse opinions, contradict yourself and seem inconsistent with your beliefs and actions. Don’t allow people to control you with the consistency trap. Consistency has been weaponized. Don’t let consistency be used against your holistic being and full-spectrum intelligence. You are not illogical. You are not stupid. Being ‘smart’ is a total spectrum of behaviors; it is about balance — not just intellect.
Your opinions matter, and you can even change them! You can say things that are completely wrong and still be a part of a legitimate dialogue. You can do things that are completely wrong and still be a part of a legitimate evolution. You are an amorphous being and can change your views, opinions, ideas, and beliefs at will and as frequently as you desire. You are allowed to be inconsistent, contradictory and unbound by conventions such as sanity, intelligence or making sense. When you reserve the right to total contradiction, you reserve the self-acceptance to be human.
— Bryant McGill
What is the purpose of spirituality if not to transform our lives? Consider the following examples:
- Malcolm X was a self-admitted petty criminal whose religious conversion turned him into a voice for black empowerment.
- Muhammad Asad grew up a Viennese Jew but left Europe behind to become a champion of Islam.
- St. Augustine lived for cheap entertainments and sex, but after great soul searching became a father of the Catholic church.
- Richard Alpert, professor of psychology, gave up his Harvard career to become Ram Dass, master meditator and guru.
- Francis of Assisi was the son of a well-off businessman who threw away his inheritance in order to restore ruined churches and commune with nature.
- Margery Kempe was a prideful harridan whose visions of Jesus made her into a woman of God.
- In Somerset Maugham’s novel based on fact, Larry Darrell turns his back on material comforts in favor of a life-long spiritual search.
While most people are content to raise their standard of living and carry on a program of incremental self-improvement, none of these figures was content with the values that their original lives had given them. Each came to the realization that nothing less than a complete change of identity would suffice in order for them to shift from psychological fragmentation to spiritual wholeness. Their stories are inspirational because they demonstrate the possibility of utter transformation in the human character. While skeptics view a conversion experience as taking away the person they knew, for the convert just the opposite occurs—now existing for some higher purpose and not only themselves, their potential as a person is finally realized. (Source: Spiritual Classics)