What excuses do you hear yourself making to other people and to yourself on a regular basis? Have you ever taken the time to analyze why you are making those excuses? Ask yourself: “Is this a genuine excuse?”
Or, is it you trying to hide behind a lie because you are uncomfortable with the truth?
Authenticity doesn’t just mean being real with other people. It also means being real with yourself. Be honest with yourself. Cut through the BS that you tell yourself. Look beyond the stories that you tell.
At times, there seems to be a gap between who we think we are, who we want to be, and who we actually are.
It feels nice, to sometimes dress up the truth instead of doing the work. It feels good to convince ourselves, that we are something that we aren’t. However, when push comes to shove, when we have to put the action behind whatever story we are telling that’s when the excuses start.
The excuses start because that’s not actually the truth. It’s not a truth we are prepared to live.
Looking at your excuses can really help you to cut through the illusions of Ego. It can help you to figure out who you really are.
While doing this, take time to focus on and to practice self-love and self-care.
Work on self-acceptance. Work on learning to be OK with who you are. To be OK with not being a perfect person. To be OK with not even trying to be a perfect person.
Understand that it is OK to have things which you want to work on, to have flaws, and to make mistakes. Give yourself the freedom to be honest with yourself. You have a choice in how you want to live your life. You have a choice in who you want to be.
You have the right to be who you are. Be true to yourself.
Instead of making an excuse, exercise the courage to be truthful with yourself and others about the truth of who you are, and how you want to live your life.
Set boundaries for yourself. Set boundaries on how you want to live, on what you want to do, and how you want to do it.
Authenticity can be difficult. It requires a lot of courage. It can be challenging and uncomfortable to be so honest and to share that honesty with others.
Remember to practice a lot of self-forgiveness. It’s perfectly OK to not want to do what everyone else does, or to not want to do it in a way that everyone else wants you to, expects you to, or that you feel they expect you to.
It’s OK to walk your own path. It’s your life, your choice.
You don’t have to fight all battles with yourself at one time. You might see 20 things about yourself that you don’t like and want to change. But, you have to be realistic. Your focus can’t be on 20 things in 20 different directions at the same time. How can you possibly be effective if you’re trying to do that?
No. Your focus can only be one thing at one time.
This means that you have to learn to be OK with saying: “Right now, I choose to work on this and that means that I also choose to be OK with not working on these other things.”
Remember, if you try to work on everything you will be effective at nothing. A sacrifice must be made. Be forgiving of yourself, love yourself, and look after yourself as you work on self-acceptance.
It’s your life. Be yourself in your life. If you’re pretending to be someone else, or a different way than you truly are, then you are giving some of your power away and you’re giving some of your life away because you are not actually living your life, you’re then living someone else’s life.