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Self-sabotage — Find Out If You Are a Sabotager

One must recognize this without feeling shame in order to overcome the inner battle.

Stress is a signal that you are self-sabotaging or being restricted by someone else’s self-sabotage. If everyone around you is sabotaging you, you are the one most likely stopping projects from being completed or are avoiding finishing them.

Resisting completion of projects is a signal of fear. Not just any fear, hidden fear.

Your mind is lying to itself in an effort to self-sabotage. The behavior of an individual may be obvious to everyone in the room however, do you really think its obvious to the individual?

Unconscious self-sabotaging causes the individual and you stress. If you do not call it out, you are also self-sabotaging by not bringing it to their awareness. That friend who tells you “if you want to know what turns people off” is priceless!


Unexplained stress or waves of panic can be a signal to you that you are self-sabotaging.

One must recognize this without feeling shame in order to overcome the inner battle. The denial to recognize the behaviors comes from avoiding shame.

Shame is what prevents us from recognizing our own self-sabotaging behavior.

So now what?

  • Declare the completion of a project or goal.
  • Identify the vision
  • Identify the goal of the vision
  • Identify the values that will achieve such goals.
  • Create a priority checklist with deadlines
  • Have someone hold you accountable
  • Give yourself grace
  • Celebrate small achievements
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Noelle Dodge

Trauma-Informed Psychotherapist, Intuitive Healer, Simple Reminders Writer & Online Host. Entrepreneur and visionary.

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Mina Phuong
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Mina Phuong

Thanks so much for sharing.

Margo
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Margo

I recognise the symptoms here. I feel that I’m being sabotaged, allowing it unawaringly and also sabotaging myself. I’ve been taking panic attacks lately, but not for the first time, and it’s due to my circumstances, situation and certain people in my life. It’s hard enough to deal with one at a time, but I seem to be getting it from all angles. It’s a good article, which is helpful and I can relate to it. I’m realising that I need to turn things around and take note of the checklist you have provided. It makes sense, but when I’m left on my own, I just go into denial and stop paying attention to any advice. It just gets overwhelming at times. Thank you

sushilchadda
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sushilchadda

Yes telling lies to self is a damaging attribute . Open up and tell with clear conscience is very important .

prabhakar rajarapu
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prabhakar rajarapu

VERY NICE MASSAGE THANK YOU

Sheila Blankenship
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Sheila Blankenship

I love you both so much. You have truly helped me drive out toxicity from my life that came from family members. I am free! I need to see your live videos like before in 2016. Sheila Blankenship

JuliaPathfider
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JuliaPathfider

Great article! Really helpful Noelle, thank you!

Lissa Hinshaw
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Lissa Hinshaw

Great article Noelle. Thank you for sharing.

Jo Davis
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Jo Davis

Soooooo good! Soooooo true! Thank you for sharing!

Greg Dutilly
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Greg Dutilly

<3

kristi
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kristi

❤❤❤ awesome my friend!!!

JuliaPathfider
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JuliaPathfider

Thank you Noelle, found this really helpful. Great article!