Progress Not Perfection

Why don’t we start celebrating progress–not perfection.

You’ve come a long way baby!

Do you have it all together yet? Of course you don’t!

There’s a huge amount of “failure” before there’s any success. People don’t talk about that a lot, they don’t tell you that with every success that we have in life there is a significant learning period beforehand that we have been taught to call “failure.”

Why don’t we start celebrating progress–not perfection.

Why are we waiting until the panacea of perfection suddenly arrives?

I really can’t celebrate perfection when I am currently sitting here with streaks on my arms and legs that make me look like a piece of orange zebra stripe gum. It’s what I’d call a self-tanning fail. So as you can see being unflawed wasn’t really working out for me today. I’m a work in progress has become my mantra in life. Celebrating progress in myself and others daily, not perfection, has become my aim. Simply, my goal is just doing better today than I did yesterday.

Let’s look at what’s happening in your life through those lenses right now. Your eyes are no longer looking for perfection but progress–searching for how much you’ve grown, changed and done better in areas that used to always get the better of you.

We need to celebrate revelation, if you’re awakened right now, if you know more than you knew last year about life, love, happiness, you need to celebrate that! You know why? Because there are so many people that are not; they are still asleep. Get excited that you realize something new about your life, even if you don’t have the courage to put it into practice yet! You’re awake! And that’s worth celebrating!

Here’s the truth: we have no problem beating ourselves up over the tiniest mistakes but we never celebrate the small wins! This is truly where the magic lies because big goals are made up of small wins.

Big goals aren’t gonna happen overnight.

You didn’t gain those 20 pounds in one week did you? No, of course not, you gained it over a course of time eating those Ding Dongs and Little Debbie’s that you were hiding from the other people in your house behind the extra rolls of paper towels. Why would you think you’re going to lose it in one week? Give yourself a break! If you didn’t eat a box of Little Debbie’s today, go ahead and give yourself a big warm hug.

Why? Because you’re making progress…

Remember your finger hovering over the send button on that really nasty email you wrote to that person that ticked you off? Yeah you wrote it–but you didn’t SEND it! 

Let’s have a party over that friends!

Two weeks ago you would have hit send and sat back as smug as a cheshire cat but you didn’t, did you? You didn’t push “send.” You didn’t say what was in your mouth to that person who loves to push all your buttons. It came into your head and down to the launching pad in your mouth but it didn’t come out. You practiced self control! BRAVO! You bit your tongue and didn’t accept their invitation to a fight. You checked the cannot attend box and moved right along. This is progress, for some of us, this is major progress!

Every time you overcome something you have struggled with previously you need to have a little happy dance. When we don’t acknowledge progress even the smallest amount of change that is happening in our hearts and in our lives we become discouraged and deactivated.

“But Jackie I’m not who I want to be yet!” I know honey! I’m not who I wanna be yet either but guess what we’re not who we used to be either! We are not even who we were yesterday, we are not only progressing, we are progressing at lightning speed. I know we can’t see it all the time, but we really are!

For instance, recently I hit a bump in the road.

Our family had a big milestone event that left me feeling neglected, left out, and unappreciated. I tripped over that stone and fell flat on my face–but here’s the thing, I got up and shook it off. It didn’t even take me more than two hours to look at it from a different perspective, stop feeling sorry for myself and move on.

I didn’t sit around and mope about it, I didn’t brood about it.

I didn’t reject them because I felt like they were rejecting me. A few years ago, it would have taken me two months to get over that, I would have lashed out, acted like a fool, and held a grudge. But I didn’t! In fact the next time I saw my family, I embraced them with genuine love and forgiveness.

Some of you might think you’re still so far away from your breakthrough in an area that has always plagued you, when in truth, it’s really right around the corner! You feel like you haven’t changed at all but you have, you just can’t see it yet. We are usually the last ones to see elements about ourselves that are good–and we are last to appreciate how far we’ve come!

Maybe you have someone in your life, some naysayer, that keeps telling you, “You haven’t changed a bit, you’re never gonna change!” Well that’s the best way to tell you are making progress, if someone has said that to you recently that means you are changing and they don’t like it! It makes them uncomfortable so they want to bring you down a couple notches because they do not like what they are seeing in you. So you have got to keep walking forward because you’ll never know how far you can go if you give up now. 

The next step to staying motivated is appreciating ourselves right where we are.

It’s easy to focus on what we don’t have together yet but gratitude for who we are and what we already have is a key to getting more.

If you’re not able to appreciate your beauty at 220 pounds you won’t be able to appreciate it at 120. It isn’t your weight that doesn’t allow you to see your beauty it’s your heart.

Overnight success is not a real thing. It takes years and years to become an “overnight success.” You must invest in the small things over a long period of time and understand that you only have the moment you are in and although these moments seem insignificant it’s how you achieve the big things.

Eat your elephant one bite at a time.

Real change takes time folks.

Whether you want to lose weight, learn a new skill, or overcome a bad habit. All you need is grace, truth, and time and you will make progress. Give yourself grace, embrace the truth that you’re enough already and give yourself some time. These three things are really the ingredients for us to have abundant and beautiful lives.

When I look back I’m not the same person I was even six months ago. I’ve grown! You’ve grown and we are going to continue to grow and we need to feel good about that. Every time I fall off the horse, I get back on. I don’t give up! Yeah, I might lay in the dirt for a minutes and cry. Who cares? As long as I get back up, and get back on that horse, that’s all that matters. Don’t give yourself a hard time! It’s time to get back up and try again. Look that horse in the eye, grab it by it’s little horsey face and tell it, “I’m getting back on and I’m gonna ride!”

So reach behind yourself and pat yourself on the back, high-five yourself, or give yourself a fist pump. Say,“Atta girl or atta boy.”

You can do this.

You want this. Nothing can stop you but you. You are being transformed one precious, beautiful, imperfect moment at a time.

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Posted by Jackie Dorman on Wednesday, November 1, 2017


Jackie Dorman

Jacqueline Dorman is a dynamic entertainer, speaker and author. The former General Manger of the Emmy winning Guardian Television Network she saw a need to raise the bar in women’s entertainment.

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Robina fazal

Sweet!Jakie Dorman dear💖👑💐Really feel fresh ,more active and enthusiastic to love myself more to be a more positive,constructive ,happy and Stable person..after reading your worthful expressing your thoughts and wisdom..with Sensitive ,emotional courage…passion..and will to motivate others a pleasent way..💖💐🙏Thanks ,lovely for Sharing your article ..really a blessing and nice inspiration for all..Every beautiful thing needs..time to become wht it should be..As to be a beautiful healthy..Properous..lively ..Stable energetic..graceful Soul..a Soul have to go through many processes..and when a Soul gain bit momentum to carry on life in a more Stable and beautiful way it Still need to grow more..and perfection is not a final desire one can achieve..we all Souls are in continues progress for gaining more life…and positive energy..zeal and zest to lead a polished,happy friutful life…💖👍as much we let our selves grow as much we gain the inner beauty of our soul…..💖💐🙏


Hi jackie,just read your article,sorry just that too bc.After reading it,you made me more inspire and have more courage to be more firm.In everyday of our lives our situations keep changin.So all we need is to wait,need more patience cuz God is the only one who knew when is the right time for us to become successful and to be a better person.So just keep goin and be happy.😙😙😙😙😙


Thank you once again for reminding me of what I am suppose to do. 💕

Julia Kinandu

Hi Jackie, this has blown me off. I love it and will practise going forward. Love you and be blessed.

Suzan Muhialdeen
Suzan Muhialdeen

Excellent article.
To become perfect, do or act perfect ,behave perfect, Perfection is a far and unreachable goal ,because we are humans and people can make mistaks at anytime and life is a circle of win and loss ,therefore getting progrees is more efficient than perfection like learning new skills or get rid of bad habits ,this means that we are growing ,so we need to be grateful and celebrate the small wins or success that we made and that will encourage us to do or achieve more in this life .

Amy Hassenmayer
Amy Hassenmayer

Thank you!!! I gave myself an atta girl!!!


It’s like you read my mind. This is very helpful for my situation at the moment. It seems like an ongoing relentless issue. It’s a very motivational and encouraging post. I’m just taking a day or less at a time. I’m trying not to fall backwards and not be discouraged by one small blip. As you mention in a similar example, , I must learn to recognise a set back, shake it off, and move on. If I trip over that stone, get back up. I feel that I’m at the bottom of a mountain, looking up at how far I have to climb. I needed to sort my head out and my emotional well-being in order to feel enough inner strength to see me through a task which will hopefully lead to a ripple effect of good stuff. It’s early days, but it’s still progress from last week. It’s taken me a long time and a lot of asking for support and various types of help from various groups of people in Authority to guide me through the process of self-improvement and inner strength, self-discipline to carry through my story to the last chapter, and beyond. In between times of unsupported troubles or reassurance, I have to guide myself. This can be rather lonely. I was sure I could manage everything on my own, then learned to accept the assistance which was being offered to me. I also find that I can take time to listen to others who are suffering. I feel I can only try to help them after having experienced similar hardships myself. Each day is different, yet often feels the same. But in a small way, I’m aware that there are definite changes happening. Some for the better and some are more challenging. For example, I can’t control how nasty neighbours behave, and they will continue to remain stagnant in their minds and souls, but I can control how I deal with this by ignoring them, and by continuing to make my own tiny steps of progress. Each step is taking me further away from those bullying antagonists. They think I’m vulnerable because I live in my own. I certainly used to feel this way, living beside negative people, I didn’t feel safe and I still don’t. But, I’m taking measures to work on myself and focus on myself, de-cluttering and learning to dismiss people or events which aren’t worth my energy. I’m trying to re-direct my energy to more useful projects. Progress is slow, but if you keep your head down and try not to look too far ahead, you’ll reach your goal before you know it, all being well. Maybe in a strange way, those vindictive neighbours did me a round-a-bout favour, by forcing me to do exactly this…. make progress. It does take time and patience to make progress. I hope we all make it. Thank you for sharing a great article. I find that it’s tapping into my psyche. I’ve been stuck for too long. Small steps can lead to better things

Debra Perry
Debra Perry

Yes this is definitely me I may get down although I donot stay there I am up and fighting Shaun to strive for a better me. I am a verry strong willed person I never give up I keep stiving to be a better me every day of my life and I never forget my roots and just how verry far I have came in my life it has made me want to strive to be a better person and for this I set goals I always try to reach at one goal be it small or large it is just a great feeling to know I achieved something. It gives me great pride to see how much I can strive. I always take in all the greatnest things God has gave us to enjoy. I truely have been blessed by God the almighty in my life for I know where I was and where I am and continue to strive every day of my life. You have to have determination to never let anything keep you down for any period of time. We all have our falls and like you said dust yourself off and get up and keep on going. Appriciate McGill Media You are always so uplifting. Have a blessed night.


Thank you! Empowering and inspiring! 😃👍🖤💜💙


Very good article. I celebrate every time I make progress. Every little battle I fought and won is worth celebrating…It takes time to celebrate big achievements!!!