You’ve come a long way baby!
Do you have it all together yet? Of course you don’t!
There’s a huge amount of “failure” before there’s any success. People don’t talk about that a lot, they don’t tell you that with every success that we have in life there is a significant learning period beforehand that we have been taught to call “failure.”
Why don’t we start celebrating progress–not perfection.
Why are we waiting until the panacea of perfection suddenly arrives?
I really can’t celebrate perfection when I am currently sitting here with streaks on my arms and legs that make me look like a piece of orange zebra stripe gum. It’s what I’d call a self-tanning fail. So as you can see being unflawed wasn’t really working out for me today. I’m a work in progress has become my mantra in life. Celebrating progress in myself and others daily, not perfection, has become my aim. Simply, my goal is just doing better today than I did yesterday.
Let’s look at what’s happening in your life through those lenses right now. Your eyes are no longer looking for perfection but progress–searching for how much you’ve grown, changed and done better in areas that used to always get the better of you.
We need to celebrate revelation, if you’re awakened right now, if you know more than you knew last year about life, love, happiness, you need to celebrate that! You know why? Because there are so many people that are not; they are still asleep. Get excited that you realize something new about your life, even if you don’t have the courage to put it into practice yet! You’re awake! And that’s worth celebrating!
Here’s the truth: we have no problem beating ourselves up over the tiniest mistakes but we never celebrate the small wins! This is truly where the magic lies because big goals are made up of small wins.
Big goals aren’t gonna happen overnight.
You didn’t gain those 20 pounds in one week did you? No, of course not, you gained it over a course of time eating those Ding Dongs and Little Debbie’s that you were hiding from the other people in your house behind the extra rolls of paper towels. Why would you think you’re going to lose it in one week? Give yourself a break! If you didn’t eat a box of Little Debbie’s today, go ahead and give yourself a big warm hug.
Why? Because you’re making progress…
Remember your finger hovering over the send button on that really nasty email you wrote to that person that ticked you off? Yeah you wrote it–but you didn’t SEND it!
Let’s have a party over that friends!
Two weeks ago you would have hit send and sat back as smug as a cheshire cat but you didn’t, did you? You didn’t push “send.” You didn’t say what was in your mouth to that person who loves to push all your buttons. It came into your head and down to the launching pad in your mouth but it didn’t come out. You practiced self control! BRAVO! You bit your tongue and didn’t accept their invitation to a fight. You checked the cannot attend box and moved right along. This is progress, for some of us, this is major progress!
Every time you overcome something you have struggled with previously you need to have a little happy dance. When we don’t acknowledge progress even the smallest amount of change that is happening in our hearts and in our lives we become discouraged and deactivated.
“But Jackie I’m not who I want to be yet!” I know honey! I’m not who I wanna be yet either but guess what we’re not who we used to be either! We are not even who we were yesterday, we are not only progressing, we are progressing at lightning speed. I know we can’t see it all the time, but we really are!
For instance, recently I hit a bump in the road.
Our family had a big milestone event that left me feeling neglected, left out, and unappreciated. I tripped over that stone and fell flat on my face–but here’s the thing, I got up and shook it off. It didn’t even take me more than two hours to look at it from a different perspective, stop feeling sorry for myself and move on.
I didn’t sit around and mope about it, I didn’t brood about it.
I didn’t reject them because I felt like they were rejecting me. A few years ago, it would have taken me two months to get over that, I would have lashed out, acted like a fool, and held a grudge. But I didn’t! In fact the next time I saw my family, I embraced them with genuine love and forgiveness.
Some of you might think you’re still so far away from your breakthrough in an area that has always plagued you, when in truth, it’s really right around the corner! You feel like you haven’t changed at all but you have, you just can’t see it yet. We are usually the last ones to see elements about ourselves that are good–and we are last to appreciate how far we’ve come!
Maybe you have someone in your life, some naysayer, that keeps telling you, “You haven’t changed a bit, you’re never gonna change!” Well that’s the best way to tell you are making progress, if someone has said that to you recently that means you are changing and they don’t like it! It makes them uncomfortable so they want to bring you down a couple notches because they do not like what they are seeing in you. So you have got to keep walking forward because you’ll never know how far you can go if you give up now.
The next step to staying motivated is appreciating ourselves right where we are.
It’s easy to focus on what we don’t have together yet but gratitude for who we are and what we already have is a key to getting more.
If you’re not able to appreciate your beauty at 220 pounds you won’t be able to appreciate it at 120. It isn’t your weight that doesn’t allow you to see your beauty it’s your heart.
Overnight success is not a real thing. It takes years and years to become an “overnight success.” You must invest in the small things over a long period of time and understand that you only have the moment you are in and although these moments seem insignificant it’s how you achieve the big things.
Eat your elephant one bite at a time.
Real change takes time folks.
Whether you want to lose weight, learn a new skill, or overcome a bad habit. All you need is grace, truth, and time and you will make progress. Give yourself grace, embrace the truth that you’re enough already and give yourself some time. These three things are really the ingredients for us to have abundant and beautiful lives.
When I look back I’m not the same person I was even six months ago. I’ve grown! You’ve grown and we are going to continue to grow and we need to feel good about that. Every time I fall off the horse, I get back on. I don’t give up! Yeah, I might lay in the dirt for a minutes and cry. Who cares? As long as I get back up, and get back on that horse, that’s all that matters. Don’t give yourself a hard time! It’s time to get back up and try again. Look that horse in the eye, grab it by it’s little horsey face and tell it, “I’m getting back on and I’m gonna ride!”
So reach behind yourself and pat yourself on the back, high-five yourself, or give yourself a fist pump. Say,“Atta girl or atta boy.”
You can do this.
You want this. Nothing can stop you but you. You are being transformed one precious, beautiful, imperfect moment at a time.
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Posted by Jackie Dorman on Wednesday, November 1, 2017