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Progress Not Perfection

Why don’t we start celebrating progress–not perfection.

You’ve come a long way baby!

Do you have it all together yet? Of course you don’t!

There’s a huge amount of “failure” before there’s any success. People don’t talk about that a lot, they don’t tell you that with every success that we have in life there is a significant learning period beforehand that we have been taught to call “failure.”

Why don’t we start celebrating progress–not perfection.

Why are we waiting until the panacea of perfection suddenly arrives?

I really can’t celebrate perfection when I am currently sitting here with streaks on my arms and legs that make me look like a piece of orange zebra stripe gum. It’s what I’d call a self-tanning fail. So as you can see being unflawed wasn’t really working out for me today. I’m a work in progress has become my mantra in life. Celebrating progress in myself and others daily, not perfection, has become my aim. Simply, my goal is just doing better today than I did yesterday.

Let’s look at what’s happening in your life through those lenses right now. Your eyes are no longer looking for perfection but progress–searching for how much you’ve grown, changed and done better in areas that used to always get the better of you.

We need to celebrate revelation, if you’re awakened right now, if you know more than you knew last year about life, love, happiness, you need to celebrate that! You know why? Because there are so many people that are not; they are still asleep. Get excited that you realize something new about your life, even if you don’t have the courage to put it into practice yet! You’re awake! And that’s worth celebrating!

Here’s the truth: we have no problem beating ourselves up over the tiniest mistakes but we never celebrate the small wins! This is truly where the magic lies because big goals are made up of small wins.

Big goals aren’t gonna happen overnight.

You didn’t gain those 20 pounds in one week did you? No, of course not, you gained it over a course of time eating those Ding Dongs and Little Debbie’s that you were hiding from the other people in your house behind the extra rolls of paper towels. Why would you think you’re going to lose it in one week? Give yourself a break! If you didn’t eat a box of Little Debbie’s today, go ahead and give yourself a big warm hug.

Why? Because you’re making progress…

Remember your finger hovering over the send button on that really nasty email you wrote to that person that ticked you off? Yeah you wrote it–but you didn’t SEND it! 


Let’s have a party over that friends!

Two weeks ago you would have hit send and sat back as smug as a cheshire cat but you didn’t, did you? You didn’t push “send.” You didn’t say what was in your mouth to that person who loves to push all your buttons. It came into your head and down to the launching pad in your mouth but it didn’t come out. You practiced self control! BRAVO! You bit your tongue and didn’t accept their invitation to a fight. You checked the cannot attend box and moved right along. This is progress, for some of us, this is major progress!

Every time you overcome something you have struggled with previously you need to have a little happy dance. When we don’t acknowledge progress even the smallest amount of change that is happening in our hearts and in our lives we become discouraged and deactivated.

“But Jackie I’m not who I want to be yet!” I know honey! I’m not who I wanna be yet either but guess what we’re not who we used to be either! We are not even who we were yesterday, we are not only progressing, we are progressing at lightning speed. I know we can’t see it all the time, but we really are!

For instance, recently I hit a bump in the road.

Our family had a big milestone event that left me feeling neglected, left out, and unappreciated. I tripped over that stone and fell flat on my face–but here’s the thing, I got up and shook it off. It didn’t even take me more than two hours to look at it from a different perspective, stop feeling sorry for myself and move on.

I didn’t sit around and mope about it, I didn’t brood about it.

I didn’t reject them because I felt like they were rejecting me. A few years ago, it would have taken me two months to get over that, I would have lashed out, acted like a fool, and held a grudge. But I didn’t! In fact the next time I saw my family, I embraced them with genuine love and forgiveness.

Some of you might think you’re still so far away from your breakthrough in an area that has always plagued you, when in truth, it’s really right around the corner! You feel like you haven’t changed at all but you have, you just can’t see it yet. We are usually the last ones to see elements about ourselves that are good–and we are last to appreciate how far we’ve come!

Maybe you have someone in your life, some naysayer, that keeps telling you, “You haven’t changed a bit, you’re never gonna change!” Well that’s the best way to tell you are making progress, if someone has said that to you recently that means you are changing and they don’t like it! It makes them uncomfortable so they want to bring you down a couple notches because they do not like what they are seeing in you. So you have got to keep walking forward because you’ll never know how far you can go if you give up now. 


The next step to staying motivated is appreciating ourselves right where we are.

It’s easy to focus on what we don’t have together yet but gratitude for who we are and what we already have is a key to getting more.

If you’re not able to appreciate your beauty at 220 pounds you won’t be able to appreciate it at 120. It isn’t your weight that doesn’t allow you to see your beauty it’s your heart.

Overnight success is not a real thing. It takes years and years to become an “overnight success.” You must invest in the small things over a long period of time and understand that you only have the moment you are in and although these moments seem insignificant it’s how you achieve the big things.

Eat your elephant one bite at a time.

Real change takes time folks.

Whether you want to lose weight, learn a new skill, or overcome a bad habit. All you need is grace, truth, and time and you will make progress. Give yourself grace, embrace the truth that you’re enough already and give yourself some time. These three things are really the ingredients for us to have abundant and beautiful lives.

When I look back I’m not the same person I was even six months ago. I’ve grown! You’ve grown and we are going to continue to grow and we need to feel good about that. Every time I fall off the horse, I get back on. I don’t give up! Yeah, I might lay in the dirt for a minutes and cry. Who cares? As long as I get back up, and get back on that horse, that’s all that matters. Don’t give yourself a hard time! It’s time to get back up and try again. Look that horse in the eye, grab it by it’s little horsey face and tell it, “I’m getting back on and I’m gonna ride!”

So reach behind yourself and pat yourself on the back, high-five yourself, or give yourself a fist pump. Say,“Atta girl or atta boy.”

You can do this.

You want this. Nothing can stop you but you. You are being transformed one precious, beautiful, imperfect moment at a time.


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Posted by Jackie Dorman on Wednesday, November 1, 2017

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Jacqueline Dorman is a dynamic entertainer, speaker and author. The former General Manger of the Emmy winning Guardian Television Network she saw a need to raise the bar in women’s entertainment.

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Brooke Lillith
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Beautiful Jackie I just looooove this incredible article and your brilliant video SO much. Reading your words and hearing your voice is so divinely timed for me right now. I resonate so deeply with all that you shared. These words touched me so deeply – “Whether you want to lose weight, learn a new skill, or overcome a bad habit. All you need is grace, truth, and time and you will make progress. Give yourself grace, embrace the truth that you’re enough already and give yourself some time. These three things are really the ingredients for us to have abundant and beautiful lives.” So much divine truth and wisdom. I also LOVE what you said in your video about saying all those good things about and to yourself – and pretending others were saying them. I am going to start utilizing this amazing advice to shift my mind and speak into existence all the AMAZING things and dreams in my life that could happen, instead of worrying all the time about the bad things. I SO believe that worry is a gift of creativity that has become out of balance as well. You are SO amazing and such an inspiration to me soul sister. Here’s to being a DREAMER instead of a worrier. Love you so much stunning goddess. Thank you for sharing your gifts with us all. <3 <3 <3 <3 <3

EileenMarschke
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Great to see you. I always find your writing and videos uplifting.

Akiroq Brost
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Not emotionally investing myself to outcome has been very liberating for me. I don’t need to evaluate everything as either a success or failure. I choose instead to focus on intention, effort and energy. Sometimes, we’re going to have a hard time seeing progress when we are facing huge crisis or set backs in our lives. I believe it’s very important to recognize the choices we make as to what we emotionally attach to. When it comes to self-criticism, anything that doesn’t serve me in some constructive way, I let go of. It takes practice, but it gets easier. I always focus on what I can do and not what I can. As a result I find myself stretching and pushing further because I am in a constant state of self-empowerment. All success requires some degree of foresight and planning. If we aren’t taking the action, then how can we expect the results? I completely agree, we do not celebrate and empower ourselves enough! Every good decision is a win for us. Forgiveness of self and others is an integral part of acceptance of self and others. It’s importance to stay mindfully present in the here and now. Thanks for this inspiring article Jackie! <3

Becki McDonough
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Fantastic article and video! Love this so much. What a gift! 💜❤😇

Tejal
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Thank you so much for these words . I can relate to the fact that there are people who are going through ups and downs in their lives and I am not the only one who is going through difficult times. Thank you for all the encouragement that you give.

Suzan
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Suzan

Very good article and video I love it

Gail Liming
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Excellent article Jackie, one of which I could relate to, very insightful and truthful. Thank you for sharing this information.

Rebecca
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Excellent article. I have moved forward. I am not the same person I was 6 months ago and have progressed even more so in the last 3 months. My current job has helped me a lot. My last job made me worry all the time, I felt horrible about myself. I was depressed. I started this job in November of last year. It has changed my life. I have a great boss. Now I’m going to do my happy dance!! 😀

Karra Theodora
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We are indeed human beings in progress!! Every day we are doing our best to become the better version of ourselves. And that might be nagging for some people, but well we are not living for them are we? Our goal is to be better than yesterday, we are not longing for perfection. Because perfection is something vague. Firstly, we should be proud for all the progress that we make and appreciate for who we are in the present moment. Set a goal and go get it. It might take a day, it might take a month, it might take a year but if you insist you will achieve that goal. The case is the journey not the destination. Life is a journey, a journey full of challenges and if you are clever enough you will chase them. Throughout our lives we will meet several people who will change our lives. Some will come as a lesson, some as a curse and some us friendly angels. You should take the bad with the good. Stay true to your vision!

Angeliki Anastasia
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Jackie I watched your very Entertaining Video, you are an Actress, Singer,great Comedian, Wise, Colorful, Gorgeous!!! You deserve an Oscar!!!💕♥️❤️🥇🥇🏆🏆🌹🌹⭐️⭐️😇😇🧚‍♂️🧚‍♂️🦄🦄

Kristi Driggers
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I was thinking the same thing! It made me want to listen! I’m terminally ill from Lou Gehrigs Disease that’s been linked to my military service. I don’t worry as much, bc I know I can’t change it. If I’m going to die anyway, I’m humbled and honored that it’s from my service! I signed up as soon as the Gulf War began and served for 6 years total of active duty and active reserve. I also taught my MOS (the job code for our specialty) for 4 years. I would love to wear the uniform again, even for a day.

Keara
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I’m a worrier person I worry a lot and I’ve just recently came across somebody who’s very positive and they influence me to be positive everyday I was sitting here worrying about something one day and he told me it was going to be okay it was going to be in the mail and it was so I’m starting to learn to accept things for what they are and not worry so much and and be a positive person more yes it is a struggle for me I didn’t even get know how to applaud myself for getting through the simplest things and not worrying about things i have no control over

Tiffany Newsome
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Progress is definitely a process. When it comes to worry, be a ” Warrior and not a Worrier”. Prayed Up!

Angeliki Anastasia
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I am very sorry 😐 Jackie I made a huge mistake, I meant to say my Zebra 🦓 pyjamas!!! 🦄🦄🦄😇😇😇

Angeliki Anastasia
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Beautiful Jackie I love 🦓 Zebras, fascinating, Aristocratic and majestic animals!!! ♥️l particularly love orange 🍊 🦓 Zebras and your pyjamas are so stylish!!! What has saved my life all these years, is having the ability to cry very, very much from the depths of my soul! Studies have shown that emotional 😭 tears are a great practice to staying mentally healthy. Emotional tears contain higher levels of stress hormones than do reflex tears!!! When we cry 😢 we release that Super Stress. A teardrop is the materialization of our Souls! Thank you so much for showing me ways to progress In my journey!!! Keep getting back on your beautiful 🐎 horse Jackie, that majestic unicorn 🦄 that will cure you instantly with it’s Magic Tip!!!🙏🦄🙏🌹🌹🌹♥️♥️♥️🏆🏆🏆🥇🥇🥇🦓🦓💎

Cynthia Mascarenas
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Cynthia Mascarenas

I absolutely loved this article best thing for me and my family.. Passing this on to my girls!!! We are work in progress everyday! 🙏🏼🙏🏼♥️ Thank you all for sharing.

Victor
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Victor

thank you for this most inspiring words they helped a great deal keep them coming please

Sherryramlogan
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Thank you very much…..

JOHN MCDOUGALL
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JOHN MCDOUGALL

Jackie, that was the most beautiful speech I’ve ever heard and every word you spoke generated positive vibes into me which made me stronger. Thank you very much.

Bridgette
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I agree! I had 3 massive strokes Nov 15th of 2016, and praise myself on my new ccomlishment, I still have the what if but I try to look at how far I have come since then. Yeah I still can’t use my left arm and hand yet but I am continually working on it. Thank you

noureddine
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your words have the touch of silk and wite of silver in our selves.sometimes we need to celebrate progress even when it seems short in distance and little in size.yeah it is better to stop blaming our selnes and just seek progree and not perfection.may be perfection is just a word that expands through all our being of us and arround us.many thanks

Carol Roberts
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Thank you for the message I always beat myself up ..I find it hard to love me! I struggle everyday at loving me .Never have. But ,I am striving to learn to love me first because I can’t love others right if I don’t love me first. You inspire me with your words of wisdom thank you so much

Lalie Nieto
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Lalie Nieto

Hello Jackie, Jenni and Bryant💕 Thank you so much for inviting me to comment on this article and video. I need to hear these reminders now on worrying and making progress. Just recently, I gave myself a pep talk that I should be making an effort to raise my vibration higher this time. Meaning start cultivating positive thoughts in order to affect my beliefs, actions and habits and life. I should start to respond in a different way (positive) to situations that can cause a trigger or upset; meaning to change the way i will be viewing and handling things. I believe that in doing so, things and situations will start to align once again. I know that the universe and my heavenly friends are just waiting for me to do the necessary changes in my mental landscape in order to affect the emotional, physical, spiritual areas, relationships and situations as well. This change in my intent is a big progress for me. And im positive that with consistent effort, I’m on my way to seeing great changes in all areas of my life. But ofcouse, I should be more understanding and patient with my self in case I relapse or sometimes go slow. Progress is progress even though baby steps.
I also have to work on the worrying part. I have to practice remaining calm and focused when faced with tough situations.
I know that i have to spend more time with myself these coming days in order to absorb the lessons and to get in touch with my soul. That’s why there are days where I will have to unplug meaning stay away from fb, my page and other pages as well.

Mousumi
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Thank you Jackie! A very thoughtful article and teaches us to manage ourselves! Loved your video message…

Vasudevan Bhattathir
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Vasudevan Bhattathiripad this video is very good . I have seen people worrying for thing which are not likely not to happen . the possibility the imaginations of things bad happening is very much negligible. even the mind thinks that it will happen him and start worrying . THE HUMAN MIND HAS A HABIT OF THINKING OF BAD THINGS THAN Positive THINGS but this can be changed by bringing good thoughts and arguing within us in our own mind Now when the children go out without the mother she starts worrying .Why
how many hours a day the mother is with child when the mother sleeps who protect the child ?
there is a power unknown to us which protects safe guards us now never think that power will look the other way when we are in need. we are here with a purpose and will have to leave when that is over all happenings are due to our Karma no need for worrying .ups and downs are the nature of the life and we have to face it
we have to have Faith in the Almighty who created this world . surrender to Him and be happy he will take care of us.
this is a very good video and opens the mind of people having the habit of worrying for unnecessary things
Thank you

Robina fazal
Member

Lovely..Really inspiring meaningful video…Jackie Dorman dear..❤💐Yeah as we put more heed on positive thoughts it leads to hope and wish to be happy and enthusiastic about the elements that lead us to enjoy and love life..Worry do is a meditation and fear is the root of big obstacles in front of us to get our life in momentum ..to get the desires..and dreams to take shape..Negative impulses Slow down the process of growing and healing and leads to misery and suffering…To get life we desire we have to make a struggle.. to trust in God Almighty and..not let negative or destructive thoughts come over us..Be relaxxx.live in each moment…enjoy the blessings.. and make the most out of our lives..with hope and courage…

Robina fazal
Member

Nice Article.. Based on true self vision to feel the inner power and be happy and love ourselves to grow more and put efforts in a normal way..and get the amazing results..as a Healthy stable productive person…❤💐Thanks Jackie dear..well appreciate your thoughts.. really motivating and inspiring..

Kathy Kaigler
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Kathy Kaigler

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Christie McGuigan
Member

Jackie, I feel you have addressed everything happening with me lately in my life ! All in this short video . I have had nightmares of the strangest things which have made me anxious and worrisome .
What you feed your mind definitely starts the mind onset , whether news, sudden deaths with friends, family or even an aerobic instructor of long repute.Things certainly can get overwhelming …
What you FOCUS on especially when you cannot Control what you think can be chaotic. That role – reversal you do when trying to think positive to yourself isn’t unordinary. I’ve done it as a child and was teased for it … as long as you don’t answer yourself I was told haha! Everything you said spoke to my heart and I’ll definitely make daily progress on positive feedback on myself number one before others in my life . Sometimes we cannot Control the outside factors in our life but we can on how we react to it. I absolutely loved your video and words of wisdom here ❤️. Focus on Hope !

Beatrice Hernandez
Member

I really enjoyed listening to Jackie .
It made a lot of sense to turn all your worries into creative imagery…
This is something I have tried to stop doing all my life…
It is a struggle to stop worrying about something that is not going to happen….
Thank you for showing how to change a negative habit into positive, creative exercise.

Sharon Harrell
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Sharon Harrell

Thank you for standing by me and supporting me,I have had many disappointments in my life

EvaRosa
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EvaRosa

Thank you, Jackie. Great article. 💕
Liked…”We need to celebrate revelation, if you’re awakened right now, if you know more than you knew last year about life, love, happiness, you need to celebrate that! You know why? Because there are so many people that are not; they are still asleep. Get excited that you realize something new about your life, even if you don’t have the courage to put it into practice yet! You’re awake! And that’s worth celebrating!”
Love&Blessings🌹EvaRosa

Angeliki Anastasia
Member

Thank you very much Jackie!!! Beatiful!!!

Sandy Sparkles Bryson
Member

This jas touched me more than you could imagine!!!! Thank you JACKIE WUV YA !!!!! 🙏💖🙏💖

Melissa Rose Rothschild
Member

Absolutely, Jackie!
Look how far you have come and appreciate the journey!
Great article.

Lawney
Member

This is such great inspiration and encouragement to get back on that horse. Progress is so much more productive than perfection.

Barbara Vercruysse
Member

Love this, Jackie!! Sharing on my page <3

Kelly
Guest

Love this 🙌🏼

Jo Davis
Member

So true. ♥