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Joy is Deep Within You

Do yourself a favor, stop trying to please others.

Why do we give our power away?

This is a question I have been asking myself often lately. Life has many twists and turns and it is always at our lowest points when we are growing the most.

The past few years have been difficult to say the least and this year has been the kicker for me as I have been going through a divorce. When we come to these bridges in life we often pause for a moment in fear of crossing them but the fire inside us drives us across that bridge of life and gives us momentum when we feel we have nothing left.

I have felt so much stress, anxiety and depression in the past year that it has at times consumed me and stolen my joy.

As a life coach I have struggled with this tremendously because I am often the light for others and it’s difficult to shine that light when you are dim on the inside, but I too need healing just like all of you and this process has affirmed that for me.

I decided to take a break from coaching six months ago as I felt the light within become dim.

As the stress of my circumstances set in I knew it was time for me to step back, go within and allow myself to heal. At the time I knew it had to be done but I didn’t realize what was coming from it.

The Universe was asking me to grow-reminding me of my greatness-but I couldn’t see that at the time. You see, my stress, anxiety and depression was coming from my need to please others. I had to dig deep to find out what toxic belief was causing this.

With the work that I do, I know that everything leads back to our childhood.

What happens in childhood doesn’t stay in childhood. Instead, it repeats throughout our lives for many years to come until we heal it and move on a stronger person.

As a child I learned to please others in order to be accepted. Many of us learn this lesson but we don’t realize it is a toxic seed that is planted young and affects us throughout our lives.


My mom was doing the very best she could with her four children.

I was the youngest of the crew and came fifteen years after my eldest sister so my mom was tired by the time I stepped onto life’s scene.

She was a full-time wife and mother who never had the opportunity to fulfill her own dreams. Hell, she likely never even had time to uncover her dreams. She left high school at seventeen to get married and immediately started having children. Her identity became wife and mother at a very young age.

She sought happiness outside of herself and that caused a great deal of pain for her over the years. So by the time I came along she was drained mentally, physically and emotionally and when she got frustrated with life she would say, “One of these days you’re going to come home and you’re not going to find me.”

As a child, I would interpret that to mean, ‘Do what others need and want or they will leave you.’

This prompted me as an adult to become a people pleaser.

I was constantly putting the needs of others before my own to my own detriment. And why was I doing this? Because if I didn’t please them, then they would leave me!

I’ve had many people ‘leave’ in my life only now to realize that it wasn’t the loss I thought it was at the time. Instead, it was a blessing in disguise.

You see, you can never truly please someone else because no one can truly know what another person needs.

The only person you can please is yourself because our needs are always changing moment to moment.

Do yourself a favor, stop trying to please others.

Don’t seek approval outside of yourself because you will never truly find it and you will instead feel stress, anxiety and depression because this will only leave you will feelings of failure.

Give yourself the time and attention you need by nurturing and loving yourself for who you are and where you are in life. Be loving and kind to others but don’t allow their needs and agenda to get in the way of your happiness. You are worth more. You are an amazing Spiritual being who is here for a purpose and your purpose is not to give your power away to others. Your purpose is to be your best self in this life and to serve humanity by shining your own light.

Step away from the fear of being abandoned and know that you can never be abandoned because you always have the light within.

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Vicki Savini

Vicki Savini is a mother, a teacher, a Hay House author, and an inspiring speaker, who has been empowering children & adults through individual consultations and group workshops for over a decade.

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Jo Franklin
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Thank you so much Vicki for sharing and your insight. I have known this and although it may be common knowledge doesn’t mean it’s always common place or second nature. I am currently working on this myself. This was a wonderful reminder!! You are not alone and thank you for shining you bright light for us to see 💗

Lawney
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I am a recovered people pleaser. I still like to make people happy though..but just give with no expectations…if that makes sense… I don’t “please” to be accepted but just because being kind is a good way to live.

Vasudevan Bhattathir
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Our childhood has a lot of influence when we are grownup our present life is an extension of the past experiences all our thoughts and work habits are based on it .. present life such, that all the people have some or other type of stress. the degree of it depends how controlled our mind ,stress can be completely eliminated if we have Faith in Divine and His doings this requires complete surrender to Divine.fear also will vanish when we know that the Divine is guiding us 24 hours a day why fear then?.
This article is very good and experiences mentioned are happening to all of us in one or other way thanks for presenting such a good article

Marie de la Merced
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Marie de la Merced

I thank you for the article. I did not realize0 that it had something to do with my childhood experiences. I too was subjected to the same mindset about my mother leaving me when I was just 7yrs of age. So I must say I can relate. Yes I was a people pleaser, however, since my whole life has been focused on God, I offered this to our Lord and though it was an often painful experience, He made my suffering light.

Linda Eubanks
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Linda Eubanks

Thats sad Im sorry hope u r ok bless ur heart. .

Velma Vortes
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Velma Vortes

I’ve been a people pleaser most of my life! It seemed from my childhood as well. I became overwhelmingly stressed because of it at the age of 30-35 but I didn’t take action until I turned 40 years old. By then I was frustrated and becoming bitter. One day I just decided to started telling people “No, I’m don’t want to do that” or” No, I don’t like that”. Because I’d been a people pleaser for so long, at first people aren’t taking me seriously but I had to be stern and stick to my decisions no matter what!! Finally, they were able to see that I was no longer going to continue that bad habit and they began to respect my decisions!!

Rhonda Martin
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I really enjoyed reading this. THIS IS SO ME. TRYING TO PLEASE EVERYONE, TO BE ACCEPTED. IT has caused me nothing but heartAche and PAIN, I’am working on myself, With the Grace of God. I WILL Succeed. AMEN🙏🙏🙏

Sheri
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Sheri

I am that people pleaser. Every time it takes more and more away from me. I have started closing the door to those I have opened that ideal to. It’s the hardest journey I have ever taken. I always give more than I am given. I am trying to rebound back but it is not easy as this has I have always lived. I let people use me and when I stop I am the bad person. It hurts. Stepping back and setting boundaries.
Thank you for this article.

Gail Liming
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Gail Liming

Your article was short and to the point using words well. I’m not a people chaser that I’m aware of enjoying the company of others occasionally, lunch together or taking another to church with me. I’m more of an independent thinker and I do go with the flow of life, in the process many good people seem to come my way. The few friends I do have remained through the years which is a plus, even if it is only speaking together on the phone. The joy I seek is simple, good food, company occasionally, a spiritual connection, finding peace and solitude within and since I’m single there are no heavy demands put on me. The article written makes sense in being kind to oneself, treat that vessel with respect and it will treat you well.

ChristineMoharter
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😭😢 Yes, Ive spent my entire adult life being the “ fiver” or as u say the “light” and success for others. Yet when my darkest days come I get not even a 1/4 of empathy or care from anyone, leaves me sad and feeling unworthy! My mother who was a toxic narcissist mean evil-spirited person died a month ago today and that’s all I know! I have 4 siblings who I’ve been good to all my live ( and I’m the youngest ) r also evil spirited and they had to get the last punch even my mother. Oh yeah cremated she was so we who didn’t speak to her in life couldn’t visit her in death.
Everyone including my therapists and friends view this as inhumane ! She is my mother, and no one should inflict such pain on Anyone no less blood!
I live my life as true as I can! I like the person I am! I’ve been thru hell and back, but came back stronger and wiser from the trauma of 49 yrs!
I yearn for now all 4 parents r gone and I can find peace in my heart again! No one abuse or ridiculing or insults or made up stories!
I am blessed to be a part of our Royal Society because you help me everyday foe yrs now!
☮️❤️😊🙏🏻 To u all! Have a Blessed Day my friends and God Bless

kathy
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kathy

I too, can identify every post on here about being a people pleaser, and just wanting to “help”, show the way, of a kind heart, and still getting very badly hurt, because narcisstic people take advantage! I am “learning the “hard way” and I am 60 this year!

Alpa Pattni
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Alpa Pattni

I grew up watching my parents always helping family members, neighbours and even strangers….without expecting anything in return…being kind, compassionate , understanding, being there for someone in their times of need isthe best thing any human being can do…some people become lifetime family members after that who still remember my parents and miss them…and there were some people who in return cheated, hurt them badly but I saw my parents still being there for them…I even asked my dad one day why? And his reply was I have been maintaining my duty as a friend and once a friend , it’s for lifetime friend…other person is accepted as they are in friendship…sometimes he might understand in future, if he understands the meaning of friendship it’s ok if not it’s ok too! But as long as he has been there for his friend that’s all that matters…So this states that they both did everything from their heart & soul…kindness costs nothing but its gives so much satisfaction and peace…….So this proves they were not people pleaser and me too following their way……facing same thing some people just uses abuse and forget I even exist, wnd other times when they need they call…I try to be there mostly…..and I have some people who hav3 become good friends & family members now…..few but precious gems!
God has blessed me fearless soul, which guides me to be straightforward than to be a people pleaser……I do try to communicate gentlynot to hurt other feelings but if I feel they are not doing something that’s not right then I will tell them.

Stephaniesnflwr72
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I too know this pain and feel like I have suffered these past 7 months. However, I am finding myself and know that it is Gods will. With this I take great comfort in knowing everything will be okay! It is just a new journey in life and I need to make it great!

Tina ngo
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Tina ngo

I felt your pain deeply for the marriage challenges. Yes, Indeed! It hurts horriably, however, time will heal, and you’ll get stronger, wiser, smarter, tougher after each marriage lessons. I believe love & marriages is like having a child, first! We get So excited that our relationships borne, existed, & and we grown with good bonding, taught & learned from each other. After knowing so much of each other, we started to disagree, & both argued as we’re teenagers, when resentments/ indifference out of our control, we would split up. Some couples would try make peace & harmonious separation, and some people will become angry and then led to enemies. I hope I could help your healing process by sharing my perception. I also suffered in divorce traumatic situations but I treat each time like a job/ career/ children. I was married once but in serious relationships a few times. I do understand what and how your feeling and doing. Please do not finger point at yourself or others so we can heal faster & easier. Beat of luck with the next career/ child/ relationship.
Love,
Tina Ngo 🙏😍

Bronwyn Fotheringham
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I have been through a very similar journey. I had a very happy family and an easy, comfortable marriage.
Then my husband told me he didn’t love me anymore. And hadn’t for 6-8 years. And that when we had married 15+ years ago, he knew that he didn’t love me, but “had hope I could change”.
Honestly? It was devastating and humiliating to learn not only that being myself was not enough, but also that my ex had pretended to love me.

At the back of my mind I was aware of the paradoxical freedom.
I was relieved because could now live an authentic life, except I was crippled by the deepest pain and grief I have ever experienced.

2 years on, and I am through the worst.
Looking back, the best thing I did was just to BE. It was tough. I found that when there were additional demands, the stress caused me to shut down.
So the only way I coped was to do *only the basics*, and say no to almost everything.

I HAVE SURVIVED THAT PHASE.
It took me 2 years.
Everyone’s journey and timing is different.
But life is definitely brighter on this side!
I am dating (which I honestly wasn’t sure I would ever do.
I still feel devastated by the loss of my family unit, but I am happy and I’m looking forward to whatever the future holds.

I wish the same for you…
Bron
💖💜💙💚💛

Cathy
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Cathy

That is me for sure! Problem is that they are my son and grandkids. You don’t know how many nos I have to say before I can’t take it any longer and cave in. I have started having panic and anxiety attacks this last month because of it. It is a horrible feeling. Thank you for the article. I hope to be able to take your advice.

Marci Barton
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I know it’s hard, you are doing it out of taking care of you!

Charlene Mozee Harris
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Charlene Mozee Harris

I was born to a teenage mother and raised by my maternal grandmother who was not pleased with the situation, which is understandable. I struggled to please my grandmother to prove my worth in a bad situation. I recovered by realizing my untimely birth was not my fault and I didn’ have to atone for other’s mistake.

Lori
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Thank you so much for sharing this. I definitely needed to read this. I have been working on the issues that I have associated with being a people pleaser. So this was perfect timing!

Piel canela luna
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Piel canela luna

WOW. Thank you so much. Yes I am it.
I do it . And continue do. I don’t know why. Great surprise. I am in shock.
God bless for everything and for open my eyes.

Kelly
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I learned this very valuable lesson too. My advice is take baby steps in this process. Do not be discouraged or too hard on yourself. You will always be a people pleases to some degree, but with better practice you will have control of why you need to please a particular person, and that alone will open many opportunities for your growth. Take baby steps, be kind to yourself along the way. Good luck.

Bronwyn Fotheringham
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Yes, yes, yes.
You are SO spot on.
Absolutely correct.

Janet mcbride
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Janet mcbride

Thank you for this .I to am a people pleaser and having now reached 68 yrs of age am beginning to look inside myself for answers as to why this has happened .It is hard to give yourself love but I’m trying to do this .xx

Nancy
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Nancy

I am sorry for your troubles this past year, but glad you took a break and had a revelation to share with us.
Although I have not suffered through a divorce, I was married for 43 years to a wonderful man. When he passed away three and a half years ago. I became totally lost. We had no children, so I felt estranged from “our”friends.
So I became a people please, also.
The past year has been extremely stressful for me. Without going into detail, I was full of anxiety and became very depressed. Luckily I found Jenni and Bryant’s Simple Reminders. I have found greater strength through this, and with God’s help, I have learned to live myself and start thinking of myself more instead of trying to please everyone else. I have also have learned a very important thing, how to say “no”!
Over the last month, I have tried this and I am starting to heal. It feels so great!
Thank you for sharing your story with us, it has really made me feel better!

Mousumi
Member

I was never a people pleaser,my childhood to adulthood was going excellent..but after marriage i had to bow down ..my authenicity was dying as i had turned into apeople pleaser ..it wasvery difficult for me..anyways i learnt a lesson and now i don’t please anyone..I am happy confident and only help people as i feel its a call from god..

Lalie Nieto
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I was quite headstrong when I was a child that’s why i got a some punishment from my mom and sometimes my kindergarten teacher. 😄 . But I started to become a people pleaser during my teenage years ( maybe because of some identity crisis). That continued until adulthood. But I learned to be more assertive and outspoken when I migrated to Canada (maybe because of the cultural influence). Now, I’m more of a 30% people pleaser. I try to set boundaries when it comes to my time but, I also give in to certain requests from people out of kindness/ love. For ex. When my bf invites me for dinner on New Year’s Eve, I accept the invitation even if I happen to be working on that day. Not because I’m pressured, but because I want to spend time with her (since we only get to see each other 2x a year). I am flexible with certain requests even if i have to make a little sacrifice. Ex. A co-worker asks me to cover for her; I sometimes accommodate her/him out of kindness. We compromise🌝 But as much as possible, I try to do things because I want to without expecting anything in return.
Thank you Vicki, Bryant and Jenni 💕

Lydia
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Lydia

Very inspiring and thank you for sharing this indeed I need to love myself first before I spread the love to any one else

Bo Powell
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Bo Powell

This was so timely! God is so awesome! I recently had to detach and detox from things for a minute because I was stressed and drained. After some time I realized I had not set proper boundaries and I had been living a life of sacrificing my needs for the sake of making others happy.

However, I hadn’t been giving from a place of abundance. I was giving from a place of lack. Instead of taking care of and loving myself so fully and completely that it overflowed into the life of others, I was giving from this void wanting people to like me and to stay. Instead of tapping into my own joy and happiness, I was looking to get it from an external source.

As you stated, I took a look back into my childhood and recalled moments that I had not truly healed from. I’ve since reclaimed my power, and am experiencing a peace that had seemed beyond my grasp for quite some time. Thank you for this article Vicki! Continued blessings to you!

Bronwyn Fotheringham
Member

Bo Powell – The most poignant words were contained within your comment (and I am going to copy and paste them here to highlight their significance… As well as in my journal! LOL)

“I hadn’t been giving from a place of abundance. I was giving from a place of lack. Instead of taking care of and loving myself so fully and completely that it overflowed into the life of others, I was giving from this void wanting people to like me and to stay. Instead of tapping into my own joy and happiness, I was looking to get it from an external source.”

YOU NAILED IT!

Bron
💖💜💙💚💛

Melissa Rose Rothschild
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Beautiful, Vicki.
Joy is the foundation of the soul.
Frustration and resentments seem to manifest when we attach to what is of this earth , including relationships. By letting go , we allow our spirits to grow.
Remembering our one , true Source brings a divine peace and a joy that can not be stolen.
Happy that you reconnected through the lessons that you have already learned. We all need reminders while we walk this earth.
Thank you for sharing.

Robina fazal
Member

Thanks!vicki Savini 💗💐for such a nice article…yeah one can never be abandoned because the light…to ease our Soul and mind is inside deep inside…we can use this light to benefit our lives….as much long we live and can prove good to all…..How much we are living and pure to others..they can’t be satisfied….we if not set limits in giving they keep on taking full advantages rather than having thinking just a minute that whts going inside us .wht we feel..whts our passions whts our desires…we have to have set Some limits…Take care…love all..respect them .but my dear..don’t become people’s pleasure once you realise you are caught in this stigma…to devote your time for others…and they are making fun of you..taking you for granted..not cared about you have a soul..you have your own self care time too..you have your ambitions too…you have your self worth..Self agenda to lead your life with healthy and satisfied life..you once realise they are people of need…and using you for their benefits and ease of life..not caring about your own Self to groom …to focus on yourself your inner light starts dim,so dim that you not even recognise yourself..your self…so let yourself..pamper with love..and care…Give yourself proper care and workout on your own self strengths and instincts to get the most out of life…Then you can live a life…with true happiness…health and stability that you can manage time to do works for some positive purposes….when inner is soothed and in ease everything becomes beautiful and life is worth living ….

PRABHAKAR RAJARAPU
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PRABHAKAR RAJARAPU

VERY NICE

Mai'Muna Thomas
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Mai'Muna Thomas

Well hear I am, I ade 69 4/7. Lucky for me I still look young for my age. Its a family trait. I think young too. Im also very blessed. Ive een through a lot, illnesses, accidents etc. Yet Im still kicking. Ive never had an truly love me although I have loved. I tell my daters, “you must learn to love yourself. To my surprise I now realize I still dont truly love myself. Like you I learned to be a people pleaser at a young age. I realize that no one can love a woman whom doesn’t love herself. I have to learn how o love myself. This has been lonely road for me. My husband was abusive, he didnt love me nor himself I realize. I ant to love myself. That would be wonderful. I deserve to love myself. It’s about time.

Patricia Moss
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Patricia Moss

Very uplifting reading. I saw myself as a people pleaser and it was actually draining me put did not know how to say it’s enough without hurting individuals feelings. However, it’s about me and me decided to do her with me time. Thanks for the insight.

Barbara Vercruysse
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Thank you so much for this powerful and insightful article, Vicki!!

michelle
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michelle

omg this is exactly what i was like felt myself empty time and time again i as much as in my heart wanted to help all i could never been so drained before i knew at that one i was just one person but i was leaving the one person who needed it the most aside that was myself it took some deep thinking and chancing to pull though and chance what i needed to because i cant help or heal everyone but i can always give advice and look more closely at myself to love myself back to life again

AmandaBell1256
Member

Thank you I see my son trying to please others and leave himself out if the loop. This really struck a cord with me to what he is doing and what I’ve been doing the majority of my life.

ChristineMoharter
Member

Thank you for the article! It hit home deeply! Gb you all! 🙏🏻☮️

Soulla Orfanidou
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Soulla Orfanidou

Thank you so much. You are so inspiring and supporting.!!!

Betty Rodriguez
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Betty Rodriguez

I really enjoyed this article, because , I too was raised up hearing all the time !!! “Children are to be seen, and not heard”. I always wanted to be around the adults, but, not only my Mom would say this, but all of the adults !! I grew up in a very loving home, but this was just the way life was !! I always tried to please everyone, rather than being good to me !! It took me a very long time to overcome this !!! Also to love me !! I thank God every day for what He has done for me and all of the many Blessings He has bestowed on me !!! I try to be a Blessing to others and to encourage others !! ♥🙏

Joshua C Daniels
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Joshua C Daniels

Heh . . . I might be on the other side of the spectrum when it comes to pleasing others . . .

Suzan
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Suzan

Very good article which gives good lessons to be learned from it , i noticed that good people usually tend to blame thierself because they are( very kind and like to please others ) or blame dearest person to them like a mother or father because they are rasied them to be very kind ,specially when they are having a problem or bad time , to solve any problem in general it is necessary to look for the root of the problem , for example in any emotional problem their is a certain bahaviour which started from childhood and affected on the character later , by knowing the real reasons of this behaviour then the lessons could be learned from it and the person will be more understandable to himself or herself ,in this article the writter learned to never forget to be kind to others but also not forget her needs or happiness in order to please other’s.
I think that (forgiveness to herself and mother )is important and helps her to heal from pain and sadness, and never regret to be kind even it is not well estimated by others .

Shirley
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Shirley

This is so true .And yes I am a people pleaser and I need to work on that in my life tk u for the story’s snd for shearing your life .

Rose Parise
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Rose Parise

Some things about this story ring true in my own life, and it took God a very long time to show me what was out of step and to heal me. While I still gain joy when something I have said or done makes someone feel God’s love and joy I now longer live for that to give me joy. My joy comes from know who God created me to be and that she is pretty incredible because of Him and the gift of love HE gave me many years ago that took me a long time to discover that embracing HIS love and how HE sees you is where you come to that place of lasting peace and joy no matter what the circumstances. And then you can reach out to others from your full cup instead of from a place of needs others cannot and sometimes do not know how or want to meet. Let God teach you how much you are loved and have all you need in Him and the world looks so much different each day growing sweeter.

Dolores
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Dolores

I have learned with time that you can’t please anyone. If you do something for someone do it out of the kindness of your heart with out expecting anything in return and you’ll never be disappointed.

Tiffany Newsome
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Tiffany Newsome

Enlightening revalation! Thanks for sharing

Emma
Member

Omg I feel as if this was written for me except I was the eldest of 4 children not the youngest, so I seen how stresses and anxious my ma would get from time to time actually scratch that everyday but it wasn’t until I got older that I realised she suffered bad with anxiety and maybe even depression, she didn’t have any help at all with us my dad worked a lot and when he was there he might as well have not been anyways to cut along story short I myself am a people pleaser I feel as if I live my life around family and friends and what they want and expect of me and it’s so draining 😩

baya elbey
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great article thank you for these precious advise

Wendy
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Wendy

Hello
I stopped trying to please everyone 2 years ago ,
We had a life changing event just recently with my husband needing multiple life saving surgery so needed to put our selves first and look after my husband and myself for the first time ever and it felt like a weight just lifted off of me ,I relied that you can still be kind to people without burdening yourself and life is much easier and more enjoyable,
I also encouraged my children to nurture yourselves and be the best self everyday .

Julia Kinandu
Member

Lovely article. I have been a victim and now I’m ‘slowly removing myself of this from my spouse,siblings and working on loving me. It’s not easy but will succeed.
Thanks so much.

Kerniece Reynolds
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Kerniece Reynolds

Enjoyed your article very much. Thank you for sharing your thoughts!

Brenda
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Brenda

This is so enlightening

Becki McDonough
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Great article!

Leatrice
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Leatrice

Thank you

Tina ngo
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Tina ngo

Thank you for sharing your anology and your charities; genuine generously leading and pleasing others.😇😇 Takes a toll on your heart, body, mind, & spirits. You feel good, right, happy, & appropriate to be a pleaser! GOD, mighty heaven chosen you to coach, guide, & to share your lights & energies! Your blessed with those gifts. Not everyone are picked or could do what you’ve done n still doing it. All your good deeds & merits will be return to you when you most needed. I appreciate all you have done for me & everyone that’s in needed of your lights. Sharing is caring. Your sacrifiction will be recognized and be rewarded very soon. God blessed your wholeheartedly. 💝🙏
Yes! Indeed, I am also a pleaser. It’s draining but I think I’m happier by doing it. I’ve never used, abused, manipulated others to get what I needed or wanted. Often times, I got beaten up & down severely because I gotten taken advantage off. I would stayed down for a little while till I recovered and then get back up and repeat my old ways again. It’s very hurtful when people don’t appreciate me. However, I wouldn’t want to be like them because I wouldn’t be happy to be like them (the taker/user). I’m happy as a Pleaser!. I give free laughter nowadays.
I WISH YOUR LIGHTS WILL BE RECHARGED BRIGHTER THAN THE STARS & more powerful then electricity. 🎁🎊🎉

LOVE, Tina Ngo😍

Michael Paquette
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Michael Paquette

Tis is all true.
I have been a people pleaser from childhood.
My Mom brought me up tha it is better to give than receive.
Now that I have put my self first and took care of me thing have change for the better.
I have weeded all the thing that have caused me stress and hardship.
I have weeded all the people in my life tha always brought me down and caused me problems, This includes family as well as friends
This has sadden me deeply but now tha I have my belife in Crist and the heavenly farher my Power has returned and things are well lit now and my eye are finely open wide and now see it all as it realy is.
God Bless you all, And a good and better life to You All.

kathy
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kathy

after reading all these posts and agreeing with them all…. some of us were bought up with “if you cant say nothing nice , don’t say nothing at all”… meanwhile … in our lifetime, “freedom of speech” came about, and when we tried to “suggest” people be a bit nicer, we got “shouted down”. I do wish these abusive toxic people knew how it left us feeling…. but then again, I don’t think they would care!!!!
“Don’t care , was made to care!” as the old saying goes, and I hope it catches up with them!!!
Be a “radiator” not a “drain”!!! much love to you all!!! shine the light from within you!