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How to Find Courage When You Don’t Have the Answers

So many times in life we encounter moments where we don’t know what will happen next.

So many times in life we encounter moments where we don’t know what will happen next.

We don’t really know how things will turn out. In many cases, we don’t even know what to do.

What can we do in those times? How can we pull through when everything seems to have just derailed and gone sideways? How can we find the strength to keep going?

Let go of the need to know why

It is imperative that you don’t torment yourself trying to find the reason or rationale behind what has occurred. You could potentially drive yourself crazy trying to figure out why. Trying to find a reason will not help you to find a solution. All it will do is torture you. The truth is, you may never know why. Let go of wanting to know why things are the way they are. Whatever the why may be, the fact is, it has already happened. You are already here. Don’t get stuck in the past. Let go.

Don’t let fear cripple you

Don’t give time and energy to fear, worry, anxiety, and stress because giving them your attention will grow them. We must also not overwhelm ourselves with worry and fear about the future. The future is not here yet. All we have to work with is the here and now. By worrying and stressing about what might happen next, we are disempowering ourselves in the present moment. We need to be here now. Especially during crisis! This moment is the only moment in which you can have any impact. 


Have faith

Find and attach yourself to the belief that everything will be OK. Have faith. Believe that faith will carry you through your hardships and through the unknown. Faith is that bridge. When we have faith we make a decision to not let our circumstances defeat us. Instead, we see beyond our circumstances to possibility. We believe that something will happen to help us through. We remain receptive to ideas and solutions. Instead of looking for evidence as to why we have been defeated, we look for evidence that we are supported. We start looking at what is working with us, what is working for us, and what is available to us. Faith shifts our perspective to one of possibility and hope.

Don’t panic

You may suddenly be faced with a situation you have never encountered before. It can be scary and uncomfortable but don’t lose your head! Remaining calm is going to make you much more effective at whatever you do next. It will help to also keep the people around you calm. Just by remaining calm, you can change the experience of the circumstances for yourself and others. Don’t give into fear. Don’t let it overtake you. Take deep controlled breaths. Regain control over your emotions, compartmentalize them for the moment if you need to, but don’t give into panic. Panic will not serve you. Work through your emotions when it is safe to do so, when they don’t set you into a state of full-blown panic.

Don’t lose yourself in your circumstance

Continue to look after yourself, regardless the circumstance. If anything, this is the time to really step up the level of that care. Don’t neglect your needs. Don’t run yourself ragged. Pace yourself. Make time for you. We are more effective when we look after ourselves. If we look after ourselves, we feel better, and when we feel better, we operate better. Remember, the more you have, the more you have to give. Don’t try pouring from any empty cup. Don’t compound the problem by burning yourself out. 


Enlist help

There is no shame in asking for help. Sometimes, even a little help can go a long way. It can give us that reprieve we need. Or perhaps, someone experienced can lend us a fresh perspective. Be ready to accept help when it is offered. Sometimes, unexpected help can arrive in the most unexpected ways. Don’t be so quick to dismiss people’s offer to help. Take the help you need. It will free you up to do other things, or perhaps, to engage in much needed self-care. Things are much easier when you aren’t trying to handle everything alone. Even just finding someone to talk to can be such a relief. You don’t have to be alone in your situation. If you are religious, give your problem to a higher power, especially when you are feeling overwhelmed. Pray and ask for help.

Believe in your strength

Chances are, you have already been through a lot in your life. You have overcome and achieved so many things. Take a moment to reflect on that. Let it empower you. Don’t sell yourself short. You are strong! You can make it through this. Many times, we are much more capable than we give ourselves credit for. Believe that you are more capable than you think.

What are some ways in which you have found the strength to keep going?

Let’s use this opportunity to share some encouragement with each other.

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Akiroq Brost

Akiroq is a Human Potential Inspirational writer, who has a passion for helping others explore and harness the extraordinary potential that lies within each and every one of us.

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Ginadevera

I’ve been through a hardships b4 untill now.but what I’ve learned is,the more your worried,the more problem arised.and that makes me not only dissapointed but loosing hope as well.Am trying to fight and at the same time I also want to give up.Making me more weak that I can’t feel any strength anymore.But because I have a big responsibilities to my daughter which is I knew that am the only one who can help her and support her,and that’s the reason why am trying to be firm in every struggles that I have.But of course I can’t handle all of this w/o Him(GOD).He’s my only hope and my weapon in every battle that am going to encounter.I always thank him for the strength that he’s giving me.I can’t see him but u can see result or the fullfillment of his work.Life is full of struggles,and it’s part of our life.Just leave everything to GOD w/ Trust ,Faith ,Love (no doubt) ,u can feel the peaceful of mind,the peaceful in your heart.If you are close to him,you can always say to yourself,I’ve got nothing to worry cuz he’s Always there for me.He’s just only waiting for me to ask his help.We can always ask help to our friends or love ones but we need to know that human being have always limitations.and God can give you everything especially the life of everyone.So before you ask help to someone else,seek him first cuz he’s always using an instrument to give solution in every problem that we have.

Nicholas J Cobos
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Thank you Akiroq this really speaks to me. Yes, just have faith and be kind to yourself. Yes, walk to the faith bridge and block out the other stuff. Thank you.

Robina fazal
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Nice article..💖💐Akiroq Brost dear..Many times we do a lot good with our will power and courage to get better results wht ever our circumstances in our favour or not as we should not quit doing our routine tasks and responsibilities with eagerness and love…Some times..we are managing a lot things..and we can’t get the results we want..we are working hard and working…we have no answers to some things.. we don’t be determine about the outcomes or results in our favour or not..but we should be in patience.. and do our best …the more we tackle our day to day life..works..and people’s attitudes with patience..persistance..love and care and by avoiding in drama or misjudgement any rude..bad behaviour or attitude and let the ones who çreat scenes.. understand that they can’t make us trouble some..when we keep on our track deal them for the time being..and do our own works..they can’t suppress our selves with any thing.. rather than that they will be where they are..in their own circle of people….in their own self routines with more happiness.. as you carry on your routines and responsibilities with hard work and passion..carry on daily task.. problem arises when you have an argue.. or they let you down.. when you stay cool ..relaxed and go on with the moments in pleasant and patient ways..you make yourself quite relaxed and can linger on your routines with stability.. There are sometimes no answers for somethings even that’s important for you..but you should not worry . Make pace with your own routines.. and focus on your own wellbeing.. and do the required works..The time will come..you seek your own parralles with great will power and courage…and can have a better contented health active.. purposeful life…💖💐

Gail Liming
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Gail Liming

Thank you for that insightful article, there is much truth in what is written. I personally have overcome many setbacks in life and how I got through that barrier was to practice positive reinforcement reading anything and everything positive since a majority of my life in a relationship was filled with negative remarks constantly. I wrote numerous uplifting spiritually poems which also helped immensely, turned the inward self outward with prayer and faith. I enjoyed reading your segment on faith which was so very important to stress.

Eveliina Aitakangas
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Eveliina Aitakangas

Im in so big mess now in so man levels….I really dont have anything to give….So this was what I needed…

PRABHAKAR RAJARAPU
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PRABHAKAR RAJARAPU

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