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How To Feel Good About Yourself

It’s time to change your priorities and look to see what you can give and not what you can get.

When was the last time you did something for someone without being asked, without the thought of a reward or payment of any kind, and without anyone else knowing what you did?

A few minutes ago? Last week, month, year? Ever?

Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs lists self-actualisation as the highest level of one’s needs. Self-actualisation refers to focusing on becoming the best person that one can strive for in the service of both the self and others.

Doing something for someone unasked and without thought of personal benefit and as anonymously as possible will shoot you to the top of the Maslow Hierarchy Pyramid.

What better way to find self-fulfilment and feel great about yourself then extending a helping hand and uplifting someone else unasked, without reward and as anonymously as possible.

No need for expensive “retail therapy” to feel better about yourself by buying more and more stuff you don’t need. It may lift your spirits when you see those packages but, of course, when the month end rolls around and the credit card statements arrive then you feel bad again!

No need to trade your car in for a newer shinier model with even more gadgets you won’t need or even know how to use correctly.

dNo need to put on a sexy outfit and seek the admiring glances of other people who only see and want your body and not your soul.


No need to accept sex when what you want is to be loved and cared for by someone.

It’s time to change your priorities and look to see what you can give and not what you can get.

Receiving may denote an obligation to give something in return. Giving usually means sharing what you have with another. It could even be giving a smile to a stranger or complimenting someone on their outfit or their new hairdo. Making someone smile because you crossed their path will make you will feel even better than they do, and it cost nothing in monetary terms.

If you don’t want to give any money to a street beggar or street musician, at least provide them with a smile of acknowledgement that you see them as a human being and not only an outstretched arm seeking small change.

In truth, it’s not you doing the giving anyway. It’s Life that gives to Life through you.

For those who live a spiritual life, they would understand that in Oneness you and the other are One so you are in fact giving to you, and that is why you feel so good when you give willingly to another without thought of a reward and as anonymously as possible.

Your soul and the other’s soul connect and, as souls are love based, that is what makes you feel so good inside when you do such giving. It’s the love inside of you that is being felt by you in giving so selflessly.

For those who are interested, my free book found on my website Being Loved Unconditionally- Finding Unconditional Love within your Being will guide you on this path to such self- actualization so prized by Maslow in his Hierarchy of Needs.

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Neville Berkowitz

Neville Berkowitz is a global businessman with over 45 years experience, a loving father and Spiritual Author of 18 free books found on his two websites, personalempowerment.co and guidespeak.com. Neville is described by world famous author, Dan Millman, as a ‘Renaissance Man’ being able to blend his proven business acumen with a spiritual way of being to benefit many people. Personal Empowerment’s Facebook page ‘Path to Personal Empowerment’ has in excess of 1.2 million Followers after 3 years.

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Jackie Wilushewski
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Lovely article @kaylacanin. It’s so true, the positive loving effects that thinking ,acting, doing and giving from the Heart has on ourselves, those around us and the World. When I first started becoming aware of Gratitude and the Law of Attraction I would (and still do) send Gratitude, Positive Thoughts and Blessings to those I walk past or meet. Thank you for this loving article <3

Julia Hardy
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Julia Hardy

Wonderful article Neville, and so true. Thank you.

Gina Saturno
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Gina Saturno

Thanks for sharing.. i really appreciate it. God bless us..😇

Suzan Muhialdeen
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Suzan Muhialdeen

Awesome article ,i enjoyed read it .
I believe that act of giving or benevolence makes the person feels happy and good about himself, also he or she will know his worth in this world , for example if i want to feel good i instantly looking for a street beggar or any poor to give him somethings like money , food , or even sometimes send a plate of delicious food to our friends or neighbours , the best kind of benevolence when the benevolent expect nothing in return from the taker , just do it because love of charity , any kind of
( help or kindness )to others people is useful could be,money , food,clothes , good words as sincere compliments ,….
This goodness will return someday because as you sow ,so will you reap .

Tiffany Newsome
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Tiffany Newsome

Wonderful and encouraging!

Margo
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I forgot to mention, helping others. Most people are grateful as it’s kind of rare here. My neighbours below me refused to take in my parcel. So, round here, no one helps you unless you’re in their clique.

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ladyj

How can I feel good about myself when I am selfish and just do good things whenever I feel like it. I hate to be this way, but I am. I’ve been treated like crap all my life and it still continues to this day. It makes it harder and harder for me to do nice things for people who don’t deserve it. I’m really messed up. All I ever wanted was to be treated fairly and to be LOVED. I didn’t have that growing up. So all I do now is to do things for myself. Have the things I never had growing up. If that makes me selfish, I’m sorry. I do at times do things and expect something back in return. And then there are other times when I feel happy and content that I’ve done something good without expecting anything and to my surprise I get rewarded in some way. I know I shouldn’t be that way, but how can I change after so many years? Anyway, I do try to be nice and kind everyday, but when I get stepped on, that’s it. I don’t want to do anything for anyone anymore. Does this make me a bad person? You tell me? I’m done.

Deb Smith
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Deb Smith

This is what Mommy and Daddy taught . God is good. He wants us to be giving. A smile ,a thoughtful comment , or an act of kindness may lift someone for a much longer than we know.

Our world teaches that we are nothing without our stuff! Many have lost sight of love
and humanity one for the other. Many people are in their me only
zone and there is a domino effect.

It seems many around the third world are coning to these capitalistic countries to meet needs they could meet where they are. Most are disappointed when they see how it really is. They are no longer poor materially but they are not really happy when they see reality of personal displacement.

Life was best when people were just happy to meet these basic needs. We now have people reject others or give added respect based on status or how much stuff or money they are perceived to have.
Thanks for reminding me of who I’ve always been and that there is nothing wrong with me. Your article is profound and lovely.

Carmel Murray
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Carmel Murray

I wonder at time of if being good all the time is really worth it I do a lot for my daughter like babysitting and when I cant I just get the height of abuse and no respect whatsoever had a hell o a week due to her attitude even fed up with praying now

Margo
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I guess so, but I’ve been known to do it the wrong way. With me, it starts with getting my hair done, eyebrows done, fitness, eating healthy, a balance between being active and resting, and generally looking after my well-being. I like to look a certain way, but as I get older, and things are going wrong, this is becoming a harder battle. But, for a quick fix, I’m a compulsive spender on materialistic stuff. Because my budget is tight, I tend to buy costume jewellery, but not all the time, I buy stuff I don’t need and clutter my house with bags, shoes, jewellery, clothes, perfume etc etc…. Labels are still on, which has resulted in me having a cluttered house! Not such a good feeling. I’m trapped in a chaotic house and state of mind. It’s a never ending cycle. Therefore, I’m happy to accept any advice I can get. This is a great topic with interesting content/question and a good insight to how we can get back on track. I do have stressors which trigger off feelings of anxiety, guilt, blame, and low self-esteem. Those aren’t helpful, and lead me to shopping in order to combat the low feelings. If I want to improve things, I need to break the cycle. It needs practise