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How Self-Acceptance Will Set You Free

The relationship with ourselves is the cornerstone to our relationship with life.

Self-appreciation is fundamental not only for self-acceptance but also for empowering oneself!

If we can’t appreciate ourselves if we don’t like ourselves as we are, how can we accept ourselves? How can we love ourselves? How can we believe in ourselves? How can we step into our own power? We must practice daily gratitude –for ourselves. We are the one companion we will definitely spend a lifetime with. We need to make that relationship the best it can be. Many people make the mistake of hinging their self-acceptance on conformity, and then wonder why they struggle with insecurity and a feeling of lack.

The fact is, we are individuals, and we are completely unique.

There is no cookie-cutter standard by which we can measure ourselves. There is only our own perspective of ourselves. If we jade that perspective with fear, with doubt, or worse, with hate, we are committing an outright act of self-sabotage. We must look at ourselves with love; with a gentle and loving perspective. We must adopt a perspective of deep appreciation for ourselves. We must become grateful and thankful for all that we are.

The way we talk about ourselves and to ourselves matters.

It matters what we say. We can choose to build ourselves up or tear ourselves down. Everything has an effect. Things either work to serve us or harm us. We need to be aware! Mindful-presence allows us to gauge and correct moment-to-moment in order to live the best life possible. Life is only happening in the moment. There is no sense in fretting over past or future because neither are here or within our control.


It is important to accept ourselves completely.

Many people on their journey of self-acceptance try and pick and choose what they will and will not accept about themselves. They speak positively about themselves over some traits and negatively about themselves over others. This is not self-love. Self-acceptance and self-love is accepting all of yourself, as you are, as a complete person. It is accepting your imperfection without malice and without spite. To lovingly look at yourself as a whole and be able to say: “I love myself wholly and completely, as I am”. No holds barred.

Our self-dialogue needs to be loving, encouraging, and empowering.

It needs to lift us up, not pull us down. So we can be encouraged to grow and learn and bring out the best within ourselves. When we improve how we see ourselves, how we see everything and everyone else, also improves. Everything is shifted. We have to be mindful that our perceptions and our reactions are often a reflection of our inner state. If we have been experiencing a lot of negativity and reacting badly, that is a clear indicator that we need to look within. What is really going on? What is really happening? What do we need to work on? Self-acceptance requires daily maintenance and daily work. It requires us to check in with ourselves and to course correct where necessary. 


A great way to begin the work is to write down daily what you are grateful about yourself.

What do you appreciate about yourself? What do you love about yourself? What have you accomplished? What are you good at? What makes you unique? What makes you cool? It can be anything at all, from a decision you made today that’s served you such as good diet or exercise to something you put effort into, no matter the outcome. We don’t give ourselves enough credit for our efforts and we give ourselves way too much criticism for whatever we do wrong. We need to always shift our focus to one of empowerment: What can we do? Not: What can’t we do. We need to shift from outcome to intent. We cannot judge ourselves or measure ourselves with outcome.

Acceptance sets us free.

It is imperative to accept that we cannot and will not be able to control many things within our lives. We need to learn to go with the flow. To accept. To work with ourselves and the situation. To give our time, attention and energy intentionally, with awareness as to what we are investing into. Mindful presence is key. Whether it leads to success or growth: Every mindful decision, every mindful choice is a win.

Perspective is King.

How we view ourselves, and how we view others, and how we view everything shapes how we experience our lives.

The relationship with ourselves is the cornerstone to our relationship with life.

If we want to improve the quality of our lives, we must first start by improving the quality of our relationship with ourselves.

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Akiroq Brost

Akiroq is a Human Potential Inspirational writer, who has a passion for helping others explore and harness the extraordinary potential that lies within each and every one of us.

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Teresa Deery

Thankyou Akiroq xxx

Eda
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Eda

Thank you for sharing this article. Sometimes we all need a hand to lift us up and somebody to show care. Wish you a great week. Big love 💓💓

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Emily carlo

Thanknyou ao much for this article, it has made me think about myself and self doubt I am currently facing . Good thung is this article has made a big difference and I am very grateful.

Sheela Chilloyee
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Thk u very much for the article. It’s very inspiring. Have a nice day.

Jo Davis
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Jo Davis

This was a great article @Akiroq. Thank you!!!❤❤❤

RayTang1222
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RayTang1222

A great way to begin the work is to write down daily what you are grateful about yourself.

Especially, I like to take a photo and write down some comment for remindering myself.

Learn how to appreciate yourself.

Thanks.
Ray 🙂

Murugan
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Murugan

Thank you for sharing the great information about self acceptance with love.
It is highly inspiring me, and essential nowadays.

Fran Merkh
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Fran Merkh

Wow,let me totally accept that I have been a jerk to the one I claim to love. Let me love the choice I made to retaliate a boundary made. Let me love myself for denying my growth toward decency and selflessness. Let me appreciate and accept my mean heart, that’s real self love . Maybe by loving myself I can
accept being unkind

prabhakar rajarapu
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prabhakar rajarapu

AMEN THANK YOU

Heather Limpus
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Heather Limpus

Easier said than done. When you have always been 2nd best growing up and then under a bully of a husband always putting you down it is hard even after years of separation. I rend bot to make friends as i don’t think i am good enough. Heather

Magdalena DiNapoli
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Magdalena DiNapoli

I am in the same boat as you 🙁

Heather Limpus
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Heather Limpus

My thoughtd will be with you Magdalena. May we both strive to be able to conquer our fears and feelings of inadequacy. xx

JuliaPathfider
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Thank you Akiroq. Great article. ❤

Carol
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Carol

This wad helpful because I really dont like me

Margo
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In some ways, I feel that self-acceptance is sitting down to who I am, when I feel there’s a possibility I could be better. I’m also aware this article doesn’t mean what I feel about myself. I often think that by accepting things, I’m giving up. I have those inner conflicts going on. The article is very interesting, with useful tips and helpful advice as to how I can alter my way of looking at this area of my personality. I’ve always been hard on myself, but it just makes me feel worse. Therefore, sometimes, we have to think, I am as I am, it is what it is. I’m not able to write good stuff about myself, I keep it all in my head, should I need it. I need to get fitter and smarten up my look, in my view. Stop self-harming. That’s probably why people under-estimate me, but that’s to my advantage, and their problem. I don’t “love myself”, but I wouldn’t change me either. I am unique, but I’m in among people who I cannot connect with and they become resentful of my achievements and ideas etc., even though I’m a small dot on a big map. I’ve read the article about this topic, and I think, deep down, I’m rather proud of some of me, but I’ve missed opportunities, given up things I was good at, left school too soon, studied as a mature student but couldn’t find work related to my subject area, I have a few regrets. But, good has come around in its own way too. I wouldn’t like to think I would be in the state I’m in now if I had paid attention to creating a better future for myself. As I’ve mentioned before, I’ve been subjected to abuse most of my life, so it’s hard to even like myself. I could never love myself, not now. But, I totally get what’s going on here. When you take care of yourself and look after your own well-being, and mind, body, soul and spirit, the path will be smoother. We cope better and handle things better, when we are comfortable in our own skin. I think it’s years of criticism which has had a negative impact on me, and then, always feeling I could have done better. I can now spot the people who aren’t happy for me when I succeed. They have more issues than me. I might note down a few good things about myself and stick it through my Father’s letterbox!!! Hopefully it will penetrate his stubborn head. Thank you