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Doors Are Opening All Around You

Be on the lookout.

Doors are opening all around you. Stop focusing on the one that closed.

You know the old saying ‘When one door closes, another one opens,’ or ‘when one window closes another one opens’? I’ve always wondered, does that mean if you jump out a second story window will you really be able to get back in another open window? I kind of doubt it but that would sure be handy.

Life sure seems to have a funny way of opening and closing doors and windows…. Or does it?

Maybe it’s just that once a door closes, WE ARE MORE OPEN. Open to seeing other doors or opportunities that may have been there all along, but we were so focused on what we were doing that we could not see them.

PLOT TWIST.

In today’s busy world, so many of us are focused on the distractions surrounding us. I would be lying if I said that I am always looking to the future. Just ask my mom, husband, or daughter. It drives them nuts that I can be such a last-minute planner. I do have a bigger dream and vision of the future that I am working towards. However, more often than not, it’s the little things and daily/weekly plans that seem to be what I miss the target on. So then, “what opportunities am I missing is right now?” is the question?

The flip side: what about those that seem to have no doors? Is it that there are none? I doubt it. Is it that some people merely lament too long over their disappointment, love loss, or grief at a door shutting? Can we blind ourselves to new opportunities by wishing things were different? ABSOLUTELY YES, 100%! If you’re lamenting something in the past, here’s a concept that might be hard to swallow. Spending today always looking at yesterday, won’t make tomorrow any better. (Insert mind blown emoji here.)


Now that I have you going “Hmmm. Ok, I get it. But no one understands MY situation.” Sit and think about what you may be missing by continuing to look backward instead of forward.

Ask yourself these questions.

  • How many open doors have you passed by because your blinders were on?
  • What closed door might you still be standing in front of wishing it was still open?
  • Have you looked around you to see if there is something else waiting for you?
  • Have you peeked inside any unlocked doors but shut them quickly? Too afraid to move forward?
  • How happy or sad does looking back at that door make you at any given time?

Let me share my simple story.

Maybe it will shine a light on the numerous times that this has happened in YOUR life?

I have been an instructor for eight years in a program called Body Combat. I have been in love with this program for the last eight years. But last Fall one of my knees was not very happy. I learned that I have a good case of arthritis, and every time I taught it worsened. I knew six months ago that I should be giving up teaching Combat, but my heart was not ready to do that. (DOOR closing and me standing there not wanting it to close.) Progressively my knee got worse. So, I took two weeks off for a reset. All the swelling went down. It stopped hurting. Talk about a big blinking sign on that door telling me to close it!


Finally, I made the choice — the decision to close the door.

After I closed that theoretical door, my heart, spirit, and mind were completely open. I immediately started looking around for other doors/opportunities.

So, how do we know when to close a door and look for other open doors?

  1. Normally, we know. We humans have been given this fantastic thing called intuition. Don’t just dismiss it, listen to it. Figure out what it’s telling you.
  2. Weigh the Pros and Cons of the situation and how it is affecting your life, state of mind, health, or relationships.
  3. If intuition is telling you that you should be walking away from something, ask yourself why. (See #1.)
  4. Exercise self-love, self-confidence, and grit to trust in yourself and the answer to #3.
  5. Have the courage to stick to your decision even if others do not fully understand.

I am not saying that it is going to be easy.

And in fact, sometimes it may be hard. It was hard for me to write the email saying I was stepping down from teaching. From start to actual send was three grueling hours. However, I felt immediate relief as I hit send. I knew it was the right decision.

Remember, don’t lament at the door after it closes. It will not make tomorrow better. The only thing that will make tomorrow better is to move forward. I will miss this chapter, but I know that there are even more amazing opportunities and new doors to come.

Be on the lookout. More adventures are waiting.

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Kathy weaver
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Kathy weaver

I hear you loud and clear Teresa! You are so inspiring! I’m so very proud to call you my friend, even though it’s been years since we’ve worked together. Keep up all your good work!

Carol
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Carol

Very encouraging and thought provoking! Have to check my “doors”!

Allyssa
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Allyssa

So relatable! As your daughter, I can honestly say that without even knowing it, you’ve been instilling this concept in me for my entire life! Some people ask, “why are you always so happy?” Or “how do you just keep going?” THIS IS WHY & THIS IS HOW! Dwelling on the events of yesterday will make tomorrow worse!

Tina McKain
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Tina McKain

Theresa, thank you for sharing this! I’m sure you have a good many of us thinking/re evaluating the opportunities that are facing us that we may be afraid to embrace…. you are an inspiration, T! An amazing woman with a strong positive attitude who continues to embrace challenges!! Thank you!!

LynnDailey
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LynnDailey

Love your article, ‘Be on the lookout’ for open doors. I am more on the lookout than ever before in my life and am learning to really listen to my intuition and follow it. Yes to many more adventures!

Jennifer Griffith
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Jennifer Griffith

This is so insightful and on point! I often find myself looking back at doors closed. I’ve been working at looking forward and looking for those open windows and doors! You are amazing!!!

Suzi
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Suzi

That’s awesome advice – I thought a door was closing, but with Faith and through serving others, I met you – there has been a wedge put in that closing door. Sometimes the door doesn’t shut all the way, but it closes enough that you can open your heart and mind to new approaches that allow you happiness and balance and amazing new friendships. Thanks for giving of yourself to others, Theresa!

Marie
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Marie

You are soooo right with this article. It’s hard, but sometimes we just need to get out of our own head. About 5 years ago we had an eye opening experience that has taken us on a long journey. There are things that happened that as I look back now I’m thinking “If you had told me 6-10 years ago I would be doing what I’m doing I’d have said you are crazy”….and the kicker is that I enjoy it!!!

Jo Davis
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Jo Davis

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Andrea
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Andrea

Fantastic article, Theresa! I love your positive outlook on what many would label a disappointing scenario and just give up. Instead, you’re already opening yourself up to the next opportunity!

Chuck
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Chuck

Very true and well said. Everyone needs to check their doors in life so you don’t ever have to think did I miss something great. Love the words and wisdom this lovely lady speaks.

Jo Davis
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Jo Davis

I totally get this! I can remember myself staring at the door meanwhile missing all the good stuff showing up around me. It took soneone (my bff) saying, “Enough!” to snap out of it, find gratitude! Then I notice all the other opportunties I’d missed. Love this! Love you! Thank you for being so brave and putting this out there! Good work.🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌

Darlene Rese
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Darlene Rese

Great article, Theresa! Sometimes fear can stop us from closing a door because we don’t know what will happen next. We need to face the future with courage and faith. Things may be different but also holding promises of something better. Thank you so much for sharing.

Rachel Sollenberger
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Rachel Sollenberger

Fantastic article! Wonderful inspriation! Simple awareness goes a LONG way. The Lord will always equip you to find and walk through the threshold of the door he opens for you. All through his grace.

Thanks for Sharing!

Dawn Bartolini
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Dawn Bartolini

Oh my goodness!! This is such a great article. Major confirmation that I’m on the right path.
I really needed to read this.

Jean Ressler
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Jean Ressler

I thought a door was closing, but it just made me look at other doors. I think it was God letting me know it was time to think about moving on. I’m working on taking another door and I’m scared and excited. I’m worried about failure but I’m feeling inspired. Thank you. I’m always a work in progress and your positivity is very comforting.

Carolyn
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Carolyn

You are such an inspiration! I love hearing the positive things that you are making happen in your life. You turn hard things into good things! Keep up the good work! It was wonderful taking your body combat class. Great memories!

Rubina Fazal
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Rubina Fazal

Nice article..💖💐💐💐💐

Rubina Fazal.
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Rubina Fazal.

Thanks for Sharing an inspiring article..dear.💖💐💐🧚

Jaimie
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Jaimie

This article came at the perfect time for me. It is so hard for me to disappoint others when it comes to decision making, as it is with most people. Some decisions are harder to make for that very reason. The line “Have the courage to stick to your decision even if others do not fully understand.” Is such a powerful statement. This article was so inspiring, and a good reminder that moving forward should be the ultimate focus!

Heike Martin
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Heike Martin

Wow, perfect timing. I have a door that is wide open and begging me to fully walk through it but I’m having a hard time closing the other door which has been a good place for so long. So, yes WOW. It’s time to close that door so I can fully embrace the new. Thanks!

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