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Do You Have A Streak Of Mean, Selfishness, Or Even Cruelty? Or, Are You “Too Kind” And Soft?

Do you have a streak of mean, selfishness, or even cruelty? Or, are you "too kind" and soft? #SelfAcceptance

Posted by McGill Media on Saturday, July 9, 2016

Do you have a streak of mean, selfishness, or even cruelty? Or, are you “too kind” and soft? #SelfAcceptance

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Partha Nandi, MD
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Partha Nandi, MD

Sharing your powerful message with my followers. Thank you for giving of yourselves so freely. πŸ™πŸΌπŸ’™

Dori Compton Wilson
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Dori Compton Wilson

I believe in honesty.

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Kaosishere Dawn

Im a woman lol

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Shared πŸ™‚

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Ditto that πŸ‘πŸΎ

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Ty kind sir

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Sunita Shahani

Welcome Sir,

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Thanks …..Royal Society

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I’m very fortunate to already be a part of the wonderful Royal society! Thank you. πŸ’œ

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I am in already awhile back. πŸ˜‰ sending all lots of loving & affection

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Learning. Soon to be not so camera shy behind the likes. ❀️

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Dianna Antes

Beautiful

Tracey Smith
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Tracey Smith

Great place to be. <3

Eileen Marschke
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Eileen Marschke

Interesting! It makes sense. I’ve always been told I was too trusting. Just need to increase my awareness and discernment. It’s okay to have trust.

Denise L Settee
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Denise L Settee

Those who have been used to being care givers, and people pleasers, find it hard to keep it real, and to try find that happy medium.Thank you for sharing this very informative and amazing video!We can never learn too much ,even at our later years!! ^_^ <3

Eileen Marschke
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Eileen Marschke

Denna Smith Harris You’re right. It’s hard.

Suzan Momani
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Suzan Momani

Me too, and always end up being hurt and disappointed.

Sally Elsley
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Sally Elsley

Yes me too – and I always end up getting hurt. Just happened to me at my last job

Steve Smith
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Steve Smith

Trust has to be earned not given.

Susan Melton-Piper
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Susan Melton-Piper

I am mostly “too kind” and soft but can be driven to anger when loyalty has been disrespected in a major way. Guilty, as charged re: letting some walk over me due to keeping the peace with a husband who is a doormat based on his well to do but very dysfunctional family. His parents were the worst narcissists and always drove wedges between us due to their dislike of me and my background/parents/where I was born… But, I didn’t like the fact that they put money before people.

Susan Melton-Piper
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Candace Davis I really understand. I think it is hard to not struggle, even when we learn to move forward, there is always somewhat of a wound there that cannot completely heal. Sending you lots of hugs. <3 <3

Candace Davis
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Candace Davis

I can relate, and same here!! It’s so sad but I feel its my fault to continue to forgive and nothing ever changes, and with some of my family member’s it gets worse.. When I was younger I was more gullible and just give – give… going over & beyond to be excepted by my friends and some of my family. You do get wiser as you get older but I find myself repeating that and the consequences for doing that is that I get tooken advantage of, or losing a friendship or love something that I thought was real, but never was. I was born and raised in Florida, and when I became an adult, well the legal age 18. I came up to Michigan just for the summer to go on a tubbing trip down a big river. Well I am almost 32 and am still here. Anyways it was hard for me to adjust, and yes I do have family who live in Michigan, and what I just didn’t understand my family would more likely treat me worst and could hurt me the most sometimes? Some of my family members would use me, and mistreat me more likely than a person you would meet and have a intimate relationship with for example. I never knew how selfish my family up here in Michigan we’re and how uwfull they are to each other and other people as well. I always had my family close growing up. My cousin’s were my best friends. When I try to get close to my family member’s up in Michigan it always seems like they just use me, and are backstabber’s… I still struggle with this..

Wendy Darling Mike Dobbins
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Wendy Darling Mike Dobbins

My ex husband was abusive as was his family towards me because of where I came from I was young and in love thought a baby would be the answer she was a blessing and curse I loved her more than anything or anyone but I was stuck in a terrible situation for years.

Betty Muir
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Betty Muir

Same here – well said

Peggy Egan
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Peggy Egan

I can relate.

Christina Wolfe
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Christina Wolfe

Very well written. I can relate.

Pamela Inch
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Pamela Inch

We have a lot in common and my husband can be a doormat but he’s a very kind man and I love him to death.

Nicki Brech
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Nicki Brech

Wow, I am 72 and have been a student of life in my spiritual journey since the early 80’s. This video has given me a whole new perspective of how to deal with my ‘shadow’ side, which for years I believed I had to ‘get rid of’. Thank you so much! We never stop learning <3

Linda Cross
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Linda Cross

More natural than the 12 steps. U cant ask others to forgive & accept u if u can’t give it to urself 1st.

Linda Cross
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Linda Cross

I started to embrace myself after watching a show call the embraced, & it worked. I put my dark memories in a pretty box. My inner child is in a nice dolls house. Do not fuss it will come to u. Just do the right thing.

Linda Radtke
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Linda Radtke

It’s a different take on the 12 Steps, too…nothing needs removed, just adding balance….

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Partha Nandi, MD

Hello Friends! Beautiful Day with another Amazing Message!

Stacey Wolf
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Stacey Wolf

I told my husband that my temper is my gift. He laughed at me πŸ˜„

Stacey Wolf
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Stacey Wolf

Awesome Judith!! I’m the same way! Take the drama elsewhere, but if you’re real with me, there isn’t anything I wouldn’t do for you

Judith Edwards Jones
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Judith Edwards Jones

I never thought of my temper as a gift, however it seems to help when I need it. And people have learned if yur not real don’t fake it wit me. I don’t do drama, drag, and B.s at all, but I will reach out n help n a heartbeat.

Kim Cormier
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Kim Cormier

It’s not cruel to love ourselves first.

Susan Thornton
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Susan Thornton

If you don’t love yourself,you are not able to give love to others!

Hector Flores
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Hector Flores

Life finds a way

Kathy Jensen
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Kathy Jensen

I need to study this… Can we somehow rewatch this broadcast? Dont deny your gifts …grow your weaknesses to match them. And use both in the appropriate venue..?

Narelle Susac
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Narelle Susac

Kathy Jensen – you can also find the video in the SimpleReminders.com video library – which is how I’m watching it later πŸ™‚

Kathy Jensen
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Kathy Jensen

Norma J Haggerty thx!

Norma J Haggerty
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Norma J Haggerty

Save it & you can review it whenever you want toπŸ€”

Rob Toutant
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Rob Toutant

Our flaws is what makes us perfect

Tammy Hoffert
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Tammy Hoffert

I was told that I am too senstive/

Susan Simon-Harte
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Susan Simon-Harte

Me also I feel too much!

Mindy Schleger
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Mindy Schleger

Be grateful for your ability to be so sensitive – love your sensitivity. It’s a gift that not everyone has to be able to feel deeply. If it’s a problem for you and you are crying for you, you can see if it is rooted in an experience but feeling, that’s who you are, it’s not bad.

Denise Solosa Chai
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Denise Solosa Chai

Yea..n i cry watching cartoons wth sad endings. Wht am I gonna do abt this?

Mindy Schleger
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Mindy Schleger

There is no such thing as too sensitive. That is your natural sensitivity.

Darla Engel
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Darla Engel

Me too, Tammy. I cry at horse races, for goodness sakes! And, most of all when people abuse their pets!

Suzanne Miles
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Suzanne Miles

Expand your heart and fly in your selfishness to your gifts

Partha Nandi, MD
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Partha Nandi, MD

This is fascinating!

Mitra Mahmoudi
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Mitra Mahmoudi

Soft hearted can’t be lawyers

Michael Onwuzuruike
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Michael Onwuzuruike

They can actually…they just have to be tough minded

Leanne Olstad
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Leanne Olstad

Grass is very defiant Bryant! Lol

Karen Harris
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Karen Harris

Everything about you is you, balance in everything

Kevin Williams
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Kevin Williams

http://www.BeRoyal.com, come by check out how to grow into your true authentic self.

Sierra McGill
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Sierra McGill

Hello😸

Margie Belpulsi
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Margie Belpulsi

I’m too soft. I hate to argue. I hate being yelled at and belittled. But I don’t want to be the sort of person to hurt someone else’s feelings. I would rather be silent then say something hurtful❀️

Anne Warby
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Anne Warby

Kristie Lynn Edgin-Lyle <3

Kristie Lynn Edgin-Lyle
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Kristie Lynn Edgin-Lyle

Thanks! Going through A LOT right now & I needed this!

Anne Warby
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Anne Warby

It’s a valiant stance to be favoured; the not wanting to hurt another. And, as a rule of thumb, we all should endeavour to be mindful in our dealings with others.

But, when we allow someone else to hurt us, we are actually hurting ourselves too, because we are being disingenuous towards ourselves.

You are not respecting YOU. You may not believe this but it is YOU who sets the stage, and others who take YOUR direction. So, if others are yelling at YOU, belittling YOU–humiliating YOU, the only person who can curb their enthusiasm is YOU.

Be kind and mindful, absolutely, but be discerning with where you place your kindnesses. Some people are too toxic, and they are to be avoided, like the plague, if you want to be mentally, emotionally, and physically healthy.

Don’t worry that your ‘necessary’ boundaries may cause offence. The truth is NO THEY WILL NOT! You need to realise that not everyone is “soft” like you. Thus, they will not follow the same moral compass.

It is NOT pain, at your actions, to better protect yourself, that will be felt; but the realisation that your offenders are loosing their control over YOU. Their egos will almost certainly feel put out, but nothing else.

So, stop hurting YOU, because YOUR pain matters, just as much, if not more, than the next persons’. You don’t deserve to be hurt, least of all repeatedly by the same offenders.

You deserve to be treated respectfully and to feel unthreatened by those who surround you. But that can only be achieved when you begin respecting your own needs. That is NOT being selfish. It is…

A NECESSARY EVIL THAT DOES REQUIRE THAT YOU PUT YOURSELF BEFORE OTHERS, WITHOUT APOLOGY.

Then the real friends; the real caring individuals, who are willing to rise up to meet YOU, rather than to be poised ‘over’ you–to put you down–will gravitate towards you.

You only have the ONE LIFE, and it deserves to be lived in peace and harmony; NOT lived in unacknowledged pain. Cut off the dead wood, else it will suck your life energies right out of YOU.

– ‘Stop Hurting Yourself’