Disappointment is coming, for sure! People are going to hurt you in ways you would never have believed even possible. You are going to be let-down and deeply betrayed. And there is only one thing to do when you are tragically let down — let-go. No matter how wrong they were, holding on will not make it right, it will only eat you alive over time. You are worthy of not reacting negatively to negativity. Don’t let them kill you twice. Letting go is the only way. Quit hanging on to the past; fantasizing, dreaming, wishing and replaying it. You can’t change it. You just haven’t realized it yet, but you have moved on. You are different now; not of the past, but of now — a different person. You don’t need whatever the past had — it’s gone. Your life is here today. Your greatest moments are ahead of you and are right where you are now, so seize them while you can, before it is too late. Quit the endless worrying about the future. The way you get through life is one day at a time; even one hour at a time or one moment at a time. Start by finding, creating or noticing one good moment. Even in the darkest of times, if you look, you will find one. Being more positive just takes practice. You can retrain your mind to see the best possibilities in everything. A good moment in a bad day counts. Begin with this moment, and make it count.
No one wants to suffer. No one wants to be lonely. No one wants to live in fear. No one wants to lose everything. No one wants their heart ripped to shreds. No one want to be sick. And, no one wants to die. But these things happen in life. So the least we can do is be there for others, as we would like others to be there for us. Supporting others through their trials in life is a wonderful way to refocus on something positive amidst our own struggles. When we are feeling low we can focus on one simple thing each day to get us through the moment: one beautiful memory, one sunset; noticing one precious living thing in nature, and relishing in our magnificent connection to it, and all that is life. The pain only diminishes when it is engulfed by our gratitude and our mindful awareness of the rare gift and tragic shortness of life. The boundary of our abundance is only one of non-acknowledgement, and you rush past those false boundaries by saying yes to love. Remember. You don’t experience life; you only experience your feelings. When you choose to feel differently, you choose to live differently. You can change your life one feeling at a time.
“Pause and remember– Continuing to place blame and judgment on past and present circumstances is not going to change your life. You must accept the cards that you have been dealt and devise a strategic plan to make real and lasting change in your life. No matter where you presently are in life, you can achieve your dreams if you are willing to alter your thoughts, words, and actions.”
— Jenni Young McGill