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Create Space for Others at Your Table This Holiday Season

This holiday will be about something bigger than my disappointment.

“Remember to create a space for others at your table this holiday season and create your own big magic. Raw and honest.”

A familiar wave of dread came over me as I stared at my calendar.

Only one week away… Those surrounded by loved ones and friends during the holidays cannot understand the intensity of this feeling.

The holiday everyone was hustling to prepare for and I just wanted to buy a plane ticket and skip town. Two thousand miles from family, many passed this year and now, in a city that is still new to me.

My heart sank as I considered our options.

The kids were with our ex’s and everyone we knew was planning their own family holiday. Many couples are just like us.

In casual conversations, I’d repeated, “Yes, it’s just David and me this year. A little sad without the kids and family so far away.” I might as well have screamed, “Please invite us to your holiday! I’ll do the dishes!” I went so far as posting on social media that we were in town and “free to crash your holiday”. We are fun and I do dishes! There should SERIOUSLY be a waiting list of people demanding we show up! I laughed half-heartedly at the silence that followed…


Growing up in a home where the two biggest most anticipated days of the year were Thanksgiving and Christmas, I knew what I was missing. A long table filled with family. The laughter. The energy. The love. And, I could for just one day pretend like I belonged.

Now, in a new city and staring at the damn calendar.

I fought off the tears that no one would understand but me. Friends around the world, but in this town, still a bit of an outsider. Another grownup moment where I would have to create my own “big magic”.

I took a breath and considered who might need family and friendship more than me and made the phone call. Once again uncomfortable. Putting myself out there to lift, love, and serve offers. For a moment, I had forgotten that this is from where all good things manifest.

This holiday will be about something bigger than my disappointment.

It will be about creating space at MY TABLE instead of hoping that the world will create a space at theirs.

Remember to create space for others this season at your table.

It might mean the world to someone. And, I promise you that it will lift YOUR spirit as much as it lifts theirs.

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Jo Davis

Entrepreneur, "Yes" Mentor, Author, Public Speaker, International Artist, Photographer, Skydiver & Lift A Sister UP Founder

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Lissa Hinshaw
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Lissa Hinshaw

Wonderful article Jo. This is so important to remember! Thank you so much for sharing.

Mayuri Rana
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Mayuri Rana

Wow such a wonderful idea Jo..You are such a beautiful soul..So grateful for you..Thank you for sharing this..Love you <3

Stefani Wooldridge
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Stefani Wooldridge

Jo you’re an amazing writer. Thank you for sharing! ❤️

Schmeck
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Schmeck

Awww, Jo!!! Did you find anywhere? We need a follow-up on how your Thanksgiving went!
Sometimes you’ve got to take the bull by the horns and do it yourself, huh? You’re great at that.

And for future reference, Jo IS an absolute blast! 🤗

Jessica Gilbert
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Jessica Gilbert

Wonderful article, Jo! Thanks for sharing. ❤️

Raj Guendoo
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Raj Guendoo

Beautifully raw❤️ I love the shift which can make all the difference🙌 Thanks so much for sharing ❤️🙏

prabhakar rajarapu
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prabhakar rajarapu

AMEN THANK YOU

Terra
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Terra

This article rings true for so many. I always have family to visit on the holidays, but I often wonder why I have never received an invitation locally. I see where others have people over. Maybe it’s awkward for people to invite or actually ask people if they have a place to spend the holidays. We could all do better year around of extending an invitation of a meal, gathering or just a cup of coffee.

Britane O
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Britane O

You’re so talented and eloquent!

Theresa Fackler
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Theresa Fackler

YES YES YES!! I have been ‘there’ too!! Isn’t it amazing how when you turn it around and make it about others, the disappointment fades away. 💚

ShyniMarie
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ShyniMarie

This has been us for the last couple of years. We’ve been in Fort Worth for three years and have friends and family here, but the holidays have been very quiet and uneventful. My mom’s side, in Oklahoma, always get together for the holidays ❤️. We haven’t been back in a few years because my husband has to work on Friday. My Dad’s side always do their own thing which never involves us 😞. We haven’t been invited to a Friendsgiving for close to 5 years. This year the in-laws came down to celebrate with us🤗. We had some laughs and I enjoyed learning how to prep for a big meal. The holidays are all about being thankful and enjoying our families and friends. Hoping that the next several years are more joyful! I may have to host, and start some new traditions, now that I know how to cook 😜.

Cora Blair
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Cora Blair

Good stuff. You can be pitiful or you can be powerful and in the end I love how you always choose powerful!

Catherine B. Roy
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Catherine B. Roy

Love it Jo! Brilliant reminder! And believe me I’ll do so ❤️❤️❤️

Justin Crowder
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Justin Crowder

This has reminded me of anything can happen. We can have it all and lose it the next. We need to be more open hearted to people. And always lend an ear to listen. This holiday season should be carried over to something everyday we should do. We will always be alone when we don’t have a heart. Lets be more of an invite to someone. Be a friend.

Arayeh
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Arayeh

A heartfelt article, Joe <3 Tons of love sending your way.

C.J. Norvell
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C.J. Norvell

Wow! It’s a light shined on me! I’m the one who tries to avoid family gatherings as often as I can, ever forgetting, or ignoring, the blessings laid at my two feet. This year I’ll invite someone new to my dinner table…just for you Jo!

Janice Wayne
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Janice Wayne

Great article! I am looking forward to the day that I sit at your table my friend ❤️U

Phyllis Park
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Phyllis Park

Love this Jo. Your heart is so big and you are full of life. Truly an inspiration to me. Love ❤️ you my friend.

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rubina fazal

Lovely article.Thanks for Sharing …💖👑💐💐💐May enjoy Sweet blessed holidays .Happy Thanks giving..💖💖💖💖💐💐💐💐and Christmas is approaching ….Many ,Many Best wishes for coming Christmas ….Marry Chrimas💖🎄🎉🎊🎊🎊🎊🎊💖💖💖💖👑💐💐💐💐
Stay blessed💖💐🙏

Margo
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Margo

For the past number of years, I’ve been on my own throughout the Festive Season. Not everyone wants to make space for others, I guess. It’s not the same for me either, as I miss my family too. It might be quite hard for me either way, on my own or with certain other families, as it can remind you of past times and how sad it is without those people around anymore. It’s a time when lots of Families just want to get together to celebrate their own family traditions at this time. I can understand that. It’s a time of year thstvisnt happy for everyone. It can be lonely, or an anniversary of a tragedy… etc. Some people just want to get through it, others have a wonderful time. I’m happy for them, it’s a great time, when all is rosy in the garden. It’s a good time for kids too. It’s lost it’s essence though. Too many people go overboard nowadays, that I can become a chaotic and stressful pain in the neck. Too much greed and panic and materialistic nonsense. Far too much money spent on unnecessary stuff. But hey, they paint a nice picture of it on TV and in the Mefia, shops and Businesses. That’s when they make their money. As for making space, I would if I could, but I can’t see anyone saving a space for me. I would feel like an imposter at someone else’s Christmas dinner party! It’s nice to be invited, but it can also be awkward. I’m not a great eater either, so I avoid people trying to shove mince pie down my throat when the look of it makes me dry up! Anyway, it’s nice to get the chance of refusal or a choice to attend. As long as I have my supply of napkins to stick unwanted food in them. Happy days!!