For many of us, the past hurts and injustices have become part of our present story, and the thought of letting go feels almost impossible for we have placed much value and energy into keeping our story alive. We may think if we accept and release, then it didn’t matter.
During that process, the ego can create an inner power struggle. This battle depletes us mentally, emotionally and physically as we create our own internal war! We don’t need to join the armed forces, for we are a force within ourselves, and unfortunately, the casualty of war can be our health and wellbeing, and our future happiness.
During the struggle of war, if everything appeared to be lost, one side would retreat. This was not necessarily a sign of weakness, but a strategy as it was intended to re-gather, re-focus and to then move forward with strength.
To pause, reflect, and re-focus will empower you.
The past is not to be carried like a ball and chain. It is to gather those small, and sometimes hidden gems and use that knowledge to create a better future. One where you are more conscious and wiser because of that past experience.
Sit with me and feel what your body does when you say to yourself, “I must and have to let go of (whatever that is to you).” BREATHE….
Now, feel how your body responds when you say, “I acknowledge the past hurts and wounds created. It’s time! I now draw upon that wisdom and set myself free.”
What feels better? What gives your whole body a sense of peace?
This process is not about your mind; it’s entirely about your physical body so don’t analyse just feel.
There is a beautiful prayer by Reinhold Niebuhr called The Serenity Prayer that goes:
God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can,
and the wisdom to know the difference.
One of my most treasured teachings was not long after the birth of my first child. Feeling a little housebound and needing to be amongst people I’d tuck him up in his pram and go to the local shopping centre.
During those trips, I would happen upon an elderly person sitting on a bench by themselves with slumped shoulders appearing alone and sad. When I approached them, I was shocked by their lifeless grey eyes. I’d ask to sit down, and we began a conversation. They often shared their sadness, loneliness, and regrets in life. I’d listen intently, and my heart would feel for them.
Then for some reason, I felt prompted to ask if they would like to hold my son. They always looked at me with surprise yet eagerly sat up and moved forward to accept my little bundle of joy. That’s when their eyes sparkled, and the colour appeared once again. During that time nothing was said. I silently held the space and never worried because my son always looked content and happy in their arms as they comfortably sat together.
Those elderly people were my greatest teachers.
They shared their experiences, and through their stories, I gained much wisdom to guide my life.
Beautiful souls, we all do the best we can with the amount of knowledge and wisdom we have at that moment. So please take responsibility for your feelings, attitudes, and life and choose to be kind and accepting of yourself and others.
It doesn’t mean that what some people did was right or kind. You have the choice to carry that as a ball and chain with a mixture of feelings and fears that don’t make you feel good and could possibly infect your health and future choices. Or you could choose to accept that situation as it was and gather the knowledge, change what you can, and act on that wisdom to propel and support you.
You have and are creating a great story to share with your children, grandchildren and the very people around you! Trust me I’ve listened to many, and those stories changed the way I would live my life. I will be forever grateful for those hours sitting on a bench in a shopping centre.
May the love that is deep within your heart be the wings that surround and support you, and may you willingly choose to release that hurt from the past. It’s time to begin a new chapter.
You are the one with the power to set yourself free.
Can’t wait to hear your new and lighter story.