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Are Empaths a Sign of Human Evolution?

I knew all my life that I was "sensitive" and that I picked up on things that others did not.

I knew all my life that I was “sensitive” and that I picked up on things that others did not. I also knew that my body didn't handle sensory stimuli the same way other bodies did. I could easily become overwhelmed by itchy clothes, too much noise or strange smells. High emotion in a room could send me over the edge.

Sometimes if too much input came at me all at once, it would send me into a full blown panic attack. But it wasn't until I became a therapist that I came to understand that being an “empath” isn't just some woo-woo label that New-Agers made up to make themselves feel special. I learned that my nervous system is actually wired differently than most humans.

The Gifted Empath

From here forth, I will refer to “Sensory Processing Disorder” as “Sensory Processing DIFFERENCE”. In my professional view, it's not a disorder, it's a manifestation of human evolution. Empaths, Sensitives and those with Sensory Processing Differences may well have abilities that regular people often marvel at, including the ability to sense subtle sound, light, and energy vibration, emotional subtlety and even mystical phenomena.

In recent years, we’ve seen a rapid increase in the numbers of children born with SPD. In my opinion, this is a sign that the human race is progressing toward a superior state. The ability to take in much larger amounts of sensory data is an evolutionary leap for our species.


Quick Checklist: Are you an Empathic SPD Human?

  1. Hyper-sensitive to touch: touch may be uncomfortable or ticklish, may avoid tactile stimulation
  2. Hypo-sensitive to touch: May crave touch or seek out strong sensory input
  3. Difficulty with Self-Soothing: Has trouble calming self, requires lots of outside help to process life’s challenges, irritability, emotional roller coaster
  4. Sensory-avoidant behaviors: afraid of heights, loses balance easily, avoids fast movements, avoids hugs and eye contact
  5. Sensory-seeking behaviors: craves fast movement, spinning, thrill-seeking, chewing on pens, fingernails,
  6. Sensitive to negativity: negative talk, scary stories, violence or cruelty on TV, news, etc…
  7. Social Avoidance: Overwhelmed by sensory input in crowds, likes to spend a lot of time alone
  8. Hyper-sensitive to noise: Distracted by noise that others don’t notice, fearful of noise, shock at loud sounds
  9. Hypo-sensitive to noise: Doesn't respond when name is called, seeks loud music or TV, makes noise for fun
  10. Hyper-sensitive to smell: Offended by body smells, bathroom smells, cooking smells, can smell odors others cannot
  11. Hyper-sensitive to sights: Sensitive to bright light, enjoys dimly lit rooms, avoids eye contact
  12. Allergies: Sensitivities to food, environment, medications
  13. Immune Disorders: Fibromyalgia, Chronic Fatigue, Lupus, etc…
  14. Extra-sensory perception: of any kind
  15. Mystical experiences: of any kind
  16. Inner Conflict: Deep sense of wanting a peaceful world but personally experiences internal turmoil – the two don’t seem to match and it may feel confusing.

If you have a handful of these traits, you are probably an Empathic SPD Human.

Self-Care for Highly Sensitive People

It's not easy to live as a highly sensitive person. The empathic brain doesn't filter unnecessary stimuli the way other people's brains do. ​

Because of this, highly sensitive people tend to take in MORE movement, MORE voices, MORE flashes of color, MORE scents, MORE feelings, MORE energy. Empathic SPDs wear out fast. Their brains use more battery power per minute than the next guy. They tend to get sick more easily than others. Being able to pick up so much sensory and energetic stimulation floods them with more information about the world than other people get – which is FUN! But it can also be exhausting.

If this is true for you, consider abandoning your attempts to fit in and to be like everyone else. 


You're NOT like everyone else — you're differently-abled.

When you find yourself in an unbearable situation, instead of forcing yourself to suffer through to the point of exhaustion, anxiety or panic, choose to care for yourself in new ways. It's your right, and in fact, it’s your responsibility to yourself to design your environment in a way that supports your well-being.

Examples of Self-Care

Emotions: Many Empaths feel other people's emotion so exquisitely that it can be hard to tell who the emotion belongs to. Practice asking yourself, “Is this feeling mine, or theirs?”

Merging: Empaths have a tendency to merge with others. Some call it “leaky boundaries”, but this label overlays a negative connotation to something which is actually pretty wonderful. Merging with, and feeling another's experience as one's own isn’t a weakness – it's a superpower! Society just hasn't caught on yet. Take care of yourself by choosing wisely who you merge with.

Sensory Overstimulation: Just living in your own body can be overstimulating. The feeling of digestion in the belly may be interpreted as a strange, uncomfortable feeling. Pain may be felt more intensely than it is by others. The sound in the ears can be extreme. Being too warm or cold may be too much for the brain to process. Caring for yourself means learning to read the signs your body is giving you. If your internal sensations feel like too much, take a break and sit alone in a quiet place for 20 minutes.

More Wattage: Living in a body may seem simple enough for most people – a non-issue even. But for you, it may take a certain level of purposefully focused attention just to manage it. Because you are starting out of the gate using more attention and energy to manage internal and external stimuli, it means that less is available for regular life. Your brain is literally running more programs than the average human being. Self-care means getting enough rest and alone time. You may need more frequent breaks or to work fewer hours than other people.

Love and care for the special body you’ve been given!

You are literally the miracle of human evolution happening right before the world’s eyes!

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Paige Bartholomew

Paige Bartholomew is a licensed psychotherapist who holds a Master’s Degree from St. Edward's University in Austin, Texas.

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Thank you for this article. My two daughters have told me for years that I am an Empath. They are also Empaths. I pick up on the feelings of others and I can’t figure out if it’s me or them! I really have to work on that. In the article I noticed that when an Empath has that happen they have to ask themselves, “Is this my feelings or theirs?” That really helped me. Thank you so much for this article. Teri

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I sometimes cant tell if its me or other people either. So I just ask people. It helps me better understand myself and the sensations I am experiencing. Its really helped me understand myself.

Joe Lucero
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Joe Lucero

Well Paige I feel that most people that are Empaths freak-out not Knowing that they are..And think there is something wrong with them..Part of the healing for souls such as ours is REALLY KNOWING our selves ..Plus also Letting go of the Fact that we’ll never fit in..Cause we were never meant too…I Love you Dear Sister…

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Thank you for this, Paige. As someone who fits the majority of the attributes of an empath, I understand the truth of this article. I often wonder if there is a genetic component to being an empath, as I believe my father was one (he died when I was seven). I also wonder if there are other psychological reasons that contribute to our development. For example, I had a wonderful mom but she did not accept any kind of weakness, and therefore did not sooth my fears. So I was forced to self-sooth and to become extremely contemplative in order to understand the world. I’m sure we are born this way but outside elements can certainly contribute to our growth, even if they also contribute to our pain.

Roberta Swan
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Roberta Swan

💙 💚 💛 💖 💜

Carol Ross
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Carol Ross

It makes sense that empaths are more evolved, certainly in the intuitive sense. It seems the more one understands this different ways of being wired, the better one can cope with strong emotions, being able to cope without becoming overwhelmed, etc. I’ve read about empaths off and on for a couple years now, still often find the topic to be a paradox. Each article seems to describe the empath in a slightly different way. This one focuses more on the sensory processing aspect, which I suppose is at the foundation of it all, that the brain and nervous system simply processes way more data than usual. In your checklist, aren’t many of them total opposites? For example, that an empath is both hyper and hypo-sensitive to touch, sensory-seeking and sensory-avoiding, etc.

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Beth

As an empath and sensitive I can totally relate to your article. I struggled as a child, and felt very awkward in my body most of the time. Peoples emotions overwhelmed me until I learnt to protect myself. Keep up the marvellous work ❤️

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Mai

I truly relate to this. Thank you for such good explanation and advices. It is tough to handle being an empath in a relationship. I try to explain that I absorb so much feelings from others and get drained and that it why I can also get hot-tempered. But it pass. And I beg for forgiveness and patience. But I feel I get misunderstood very often…

Jason Brooks
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Jason Brooks

This is an excellent essay,because it makes a strong scientific case.

Laurie Lankins Farley
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Laurie Lankins Farley

My, I can totally relate to this article! yes, yes and yes! As a Pure Intuitive, I can only agree . Thank you for writing .

Glenda Leonarduzzi
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Glenda Leonarduzzi

Thank you. Now I understand!

Catherine B. Roy
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Catherine B. Roy

What a wonderful article, Paige! Thank you so much for changing the perspective of being an empath. Being sensitive is unique and valuable. It’s hard too but we can find away. Thank you for “know how” and your wonderful wisdom.

Ashley Laree
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Ashley Laree

I love this insight & perspective. I’m finding that more and more people are realizing this potential within themselves, and bravely stepping into that power. ❤🙌

NormaMAllex
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NormaMAllex

Insightful for myself. ❤️ The read.

LynnDailey
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LynnDailey

This is an amazing article that spoke to me. I can relate to most of this. It really is good for me to know this as it I no longer feel so alone.

Julie Roach
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Julie Roach

Thank you Paige for this thought provoking analysis. I am so ridden with the socially unacceptable, “Label Defiance Disorder” that I usually tune out automatically at the thought of meeting any criteria of a check list. 😉 But, I can relate to many of these tendencies and have recently started paying closer attention to my perception style in relation to how it has impacted previous experiences. Also, in how I can utilize it’s strengths to impact future experiences. One thing I do believe is influencing the awareness is the fact that we have so much access to information and conversation. I love that! It is through the exchanging of ideas that we can evolve the most naturally for our unique powerful selves.

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wclark389

Thank You… I don’t feel so alone now, like I’m from another planet, an alien…🖤🏯☯️🏯🖤 Namaste’ 🌏

Kara
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Kara

This Is Very helpful I understand more about my sensitivities and sometimes getting very overwhelmed. Praying is my helper..time with my God…I like to go for a walk I especially love the beach somewhere and connect to the beauty around me, also having boundaries is helpful.

Joanne
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Joanne

Appears to havre many similarities to autism/aspbergers?

Bv
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Bv

the Beginning of the end of humans? It’s funny I read (just yesterday) that overly permissive and checklist parenting is the reason there are overly sensitive children and young adults -too large a number of them having their lack of resilience being replaced with drugs for ADHD, “depression/anxiety” disorders and some mystically derived forms of “bipolar” diseases.

Everybody’s brain is “wired” differently. Our brains connect (wire) themselves as they grow and change throughout our lives. Experiences are the driving force with the environment being responsible for our experiences.

Judy
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Judy

What a JOY to read and understand more!
I’ve been an Empath my whole life. It has assisted Me in navigating my JOURNEY.
Your clarification, of All I experience, is very uplifting. Such a ‘grateful Gift’ to use in my daily walk,