A Lesson or a Gift?

Sometimes the teaching becomes the greatest blessing imaginable.

Have you ever met someone that you would usually ignore, dismiss or convince yourself you have nothing in common with?

As humans, we are very quick to judge each other and put one another into boxes. We see the visible differences and tend to focus on these. We filter the other person through our complicated life experiences and what we know; what makes us feel secure. Often we are guilty of ignoring the potential for commonality that exists somewhere within us all.

So when two worlds collide without warning, there’s a more significant reason waiting to play out.

Living completely different lives, with different values, these people would not usually have met, or given each other the time of day. Judgements would have been quickly made on both sides about the other. But their paths have crossed in the most unlikely of circumstances for a reason. Why?

Because everything in life is a lesson or a gift.

This chance meeting is no different; is it even by chance? My friend’s mum shared this with her while she was growing up; it really resonates with me. In fact, it makes me smile. As hard as it can be to accept this at the time, there’s much truth in this statement. Sometimes we confuse our lessons and gifts and get them around the wrong way. At the time we can’t see the blessing in the failed relationships (platonic or romantic), that ultimately take us one step closer to finding ourselves and our soulmates. Or we believe someone is in our life as a gift, but eventually, they become one of our biggest and most painful lessons.

Learning how to connect with others on a soul level is vital to help us keep our own prejudices at bay.

When we begin to master the art of taming our ego and step into our heart space with every interaction we have, we look at others and life from another angle, through an alternative lens. And just by doing this, we are able to see the richness of life and the people in it. We start to notice the good in each other, rather than the things that we would like to change. We accept the differences because they are on the surface, not skin deep. Our perspectives shift, and our compassion for others deepens.

So look for and be thankful for the gifts life offers us, but also embrace the lessons.

Sometimes the teaching becomes the greatest blessing imaginable, despite the journey to get there being so painful you can’t breathe. For me, it was the opportunity to start life again, to be given a second chance. Now I am not only breathing, but I am living a life I could have only once imagined, even if it hasn’t turned out exactly as I would have wished. But here too is the gift, in knowing that everything will work out precisely how it is supposed to, at just the right time. It always does, and it will for you too, keep trusting!


Sarah Willoughby

Sarah Willoughby is an Author, Speaker, Spiritual Mentor, Reiki Practitioner and Intuitive Energy Healer. Passionate about encouraging people to reconnect with themselves and love who they are, Sarah is committed to empowering each person she works with to heal, be peaceful and transform their life. Sarah’s forthcoming book on self-love through secondary infertility, is motivated by a desire to be a voice for others, help remove the silence and provide hope to those navigating this difficult path.

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Mary Davis

Beautiful article Sarah! I love the idea of “potential for commonality.” Sometimes the greatest blessings arrive in disguise. xo

Fran Merkh
Fran Merkh

At just the right time. Thank you for reminding me.

giffee chick
giffee chick

Wowzers i couldnt finish it without sending others first I was touched by this remarkable read! You are inspired by the higher power but by the wonderful God! Something to ponder stepping into the heart space I never have thought about that in any way. Thank you for opening my mind to new dimensions and new insights.i love it how it says life lessons to be grateful and look for lessons. Thank you sarah for your inspiration and encouragement…love it.

Gail Liming
Gail Liming

Interesting short article but true because I’ve encountered many people from different backgrounds, locals, and for some odd reason we became best friends. Maybe its because I look at people differently from the inside out and they must do the same with me. People that are kind and grateful seem to have a heart and are full of compassion, maybe I would assume its people that are insightful, seeing another a little bit deeper than most. They usually have stories of their journeys through hardship too, they’ve been to the bottom of the barrel and have managed to surface with a more mature outlook on life and consider their hardships as learning lessons, some it took longer to see their mistakes.

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