I'll be rude if I said no. I can't do that, I don't know how. My parents will be disappointed if I quit my job. I can't ask for help, I don't want to stress others out. I don't want to share my true feelings because I don't want to burden others. If I start doing what I want and fail, then what?
These thoughts become programmed in us and we get into habits and fall into a sense of obligation and fear that holds us back in doing things we love.
When this happens, we slowly start to forget who we are and stop ourselves from living openly and honestly making choices that stifles us in life.
To shift yourself to remember and embrace who you truly are so that you make the most of your time in this universe.
Here are 9 things you need to give yourself permission to be happy:
1. Give yourself the permission to remember what you love
Doing things you enjoy and what lights you up is what activates your spirit. Simple things like singing in the shower, dancing, being out in nature. It's what can bring you back to being in a better mood so that you are better company to be around. Don't get bogged down wit the ‘I have to's', ‘I must', ‘I should', ‘I can't'.
2. Give yourself the permission to make mistakes
Nobody goes through life without making a mistake. So give yourself a break. When you make a mistake, it helps you get to know yourself better. It helps you learn and grow. We all start somewhere. Let yourself learn a new skill.
3. Give yourself permission to give yourself a chance
Give yourself the chance to follow your bliss and share your gifts to the world. We are all born with special talents and qualities. It could be anything from listening to making people laugh, to being creative. The purpose of life is to share our gifts with the world. Instead of waiting for someone to notice what you are good at or waiting for approval and permission to share it, just start. If you feel a pull to do something, give yourself a chance to bring it to life.
4. Give yourself permission to be authentic
Piggy backing on the above point, part of giving yourself a chance to share your gift to the world is to be authentic. To be yourself and spend time doing what counts for you no matter how others are going to judge you, so that you can look back at your life and say, I have lived a fulfilled and meaningful life, my way.
5. Give yourself permission to say whatever is on your mind
Say no. Say yes. Say I don't know. Or say nothing at all if there's nothing to be said. You'll always encounter people who like you and those who don't. You can't control how people are going to respond. So why not focus your energy on being yourself and let yourself gravitate to the ones who like you. It's much easier and less exhausting then trying to please everyone.
6. Give your permission to have a lazy day
We get so caught up with needing to be ‘busy' but busyness is sickness. In The Huffington Post, Scott Dannemiller talks about how the majority of us “voluntarily create unnecessary stress in our lives” because we live in a society that defines our worth by our doing instead of being. Instead of getting caught up with the grind. Take a day to refresh, replenish and recharge yourself.
7. Give yourself permission to follow your intuition
We all have an inner voice. This is the voice of your soul. When you follow it, everything comes together. Be open. Express it. Embrace it. Trust the vibe. Your energy and gut doesn't lie.
8. Give yourself permission to keep moving
We are made up of energy. Energy moves. Life moves. Change is a constant in life. As humans, we need to move with life and find ways to flow with the changes in life.
9. Give yourself permission to be human
You don't always have to have it together all the time. Embrace being able to sense and feel all your emotions instead of suppress it. It helps to move us through life and guide us back on track when we deviate from living a life true to ourselves.
What will you give yourself permission to do and share with the world before your time is up?