7 Ways to Honor Who You Really Are

No matter how busy our lives are, we are doing ourselves a disservice by not being true to ourselves.

When we are young, we are more comfortable with who we are.

We know what we love to do and we never have to explain it to anyone. It’s perfectly acceptable to play dress up or spend hours reading a book. Our imagination takes us where everywhere we want to go and our dreams are just beyond that next corner.

Yet as we get older, some of that confidence starts to wane.

We start to believe that the “normalcy” of society sets the tone and the rules of who we become. Logic and reason become to take their place as we grow into “adulthood” – complete with responsibilities and expectations. As we age, we start to lose “who” we are and are quickly suffocated by “what” we are.
Somewhere along the way, we forget who we are.

The things that once brought us great joy are now stuck in the corner, collecting dust.

On occasion, they get a quick glance between your daughter’s dance recital and the family dinner for your father in law’s birthday celebration. Working 40 hours feels like you should have more time in your day to do a few things you want to do, but where do you fit it in?

No matter how busy our lives are, we are doing ourselves a disservice by not being true to ourselves. We are the examples for our children and by living our lives complimentary of who we are grants them permission to do the same.

Because you are incredibly busy, here are 7 easy ways to show the world who you really are:

1. Listen to your heart.

No matter how old we get or what we choose to do for a job, our heart still knows what we love most. Too often, we pretend our heart isn’t saying anything important and yet it knows us best. We try to rationalize and justify why we need to silence our heart, sometimes feeling guilty when it comes to the surface even in the smallest of ways.

2. Find your bliss.

Some of us don’t know where to start so we never begin anything. However, we can all find something that makes us incredibly happy and gleeful. We can look back at our childhood for the silly moments of splashing through the rain puddles or coloring to fill a room with laughter. Ask yourself, “What brings me joy?” PURE joy.

3. Love who you are.

We are all different and the things you think are weird about you might be one of the things I loved most about you. Whether you be witty, athletic, or an artist, know your personality and everything that comes with it. Your story has shaped you in some way and no doubt affected you. Your road may have been something you wish you had not traveled, but even the wrong road has a way of impacting you.

4. Challenge what you already know.

Once we get out of school, we forget to be students again. One of the best things about being human is that we can be taught new things all the time and those new ideas and perspectives allow us to gain new knowledge. Be the seeker of the adventure, the student of the lesson, and the beginner of new things. Allow yourself to be curious about life. 

5. Be bold with opportunities.

They say chances come “once in a lifetime” for a reason. Too often, we have missed an opportunity because made one of many excuses – usually claiming “someday” as the moment we will be brave enough to take it. Say “yes” to things without the drawn out plan or the safety net below – be a little impulsive and spontaneous once in a while. In those moments, you always feel the most alive.

6. Allow yourself to feel.

As we age, we tuck away our feelings, knowing we need to be strong and brave for those around us. Instead, we lock up all of our feelings – we never shed a tear in front of others just as we never celebrate a happy moment. Growing up, we might have been told that “feelings just get in the way of the day” and you never forgot it. Emotions make you human and allow use to connect with one another without words.

7. Leave nothing left behind.

It’s easy to pretend something doesn’t matter and to leave it on the “list” of wishes that never come true. We have but ONE life with no dress rehearsal so we might as well go “big.” Don’t be left with a pile of regrets because you made excuses your entire life. Whether it be words you ache to say or something you always wanted to do, do it. Just do it.

Life is short and altering who we are to fit into society’s rules inhibit who we are, what we believe, where we find the good things. We have forgotten what it feels like to be alive — to appreciate our differences from one another and yet embrace our own personalities, our own stories, and our own dreams.

We have put it all aside to follow the “norm” believe that we must only have one or the other.

What more of a greater testament to the story of us than to tell it wholeheartedly.

To be seen when we are vulnerable…to do something exhilarating and fun…to learn something new.

No matter who we are or where we come from, these simple reminders of life will always be what grounds us when we feel lost and yet invigorate us just the same.


Michelle Homme

Michelle A. Homme is a published author and energetic speaker, bringing her personal experiences, life-oriented stories, and inspirational message to everyone she meets. Her company, Constant Change, LLC is an empowerment partner with FITGirl Inc, a non-profit organization in Omaha whose mission is to empower teenage girls.

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Beautiful, wise, inspiring article. Thank you Michelle. Sharing with ❤


What a lovely article, how come I missed this one? Good thing I came across this one. I need to hear these words of encouragement now . I’m in a state of dilemma now and my inner GPS is telling me to unplug from my page and FB in order to sort things out and to start/ finalize projects I have in mind. Actually i have already started one but i get destructed sometimes. Baby steps will lead to big results and will leave no room for regrets. Yes, follow your heart, do the things you love, keep on learning new things, be true to yourself and allow yourself to feel your emotions.
Have a great week ahead of you Michelle, Bryant and Jenni 💕 last 2 shares before I unplug

Akiroq Brost
Akiroq Brost

For me personally, I found out for the first time who I was and what I loved as an adult. I also found the comfort and confidence to stand true to who I am. For the first time in my life, I had permission to truly be myself. It was a very liberating experience to not have to meet anyone’s expectations but my own. To live life on my own terms. I agree wholeheartedly, we must learn to listen and follow our hearts. Only we can know what brings us joy. Knowing yourself and loving yourself is paramount to living a happy life. We have to power to make our lives bigger. Only we have the power to give our life a deeper meaning by stretching beyond the boundaries of our comfort zone. Yes, we must seize the day and seize our opportunities! I personally think it is very important to live in mindful presence in order to truly ‘feel’ our lives. I crave that depth to my life. Thank you for this inspiring article Michelle. <3

Robina fazal
Robina fazal

Thanks!Michelle…amazing article.. ❤👑💐We all Royals ❤👑are thankful to Sir Bryant McGill.. and Mam Jenni.. for giving us a platform.. through which we can grow more and more…and can be more stable and healthy persons to do lot more good for all..yeah life goes on and’s our own wish to make it pleasant ,worth living…although every body is busy in his her lives..a lot to cope..but if we focus few times a day on ourselves..wht we can do more good for our selves.. our souls and mind comforty..we can become more strong and using New profitable activities..and methods to become more compassionate loving..and healthy persons.. and in this way. We are growing…and if we keep on going at a normal pace ..our lives can be really fruitful..for others…and this thing makes us aware we have a purpose in each soul is imp.and we all link together.. we are one whole..we should love and care all… this way our Soul gets more energy and passion…to live our dreams…and to get our goals…and be a person who is in service of others….as it’s God Almighty’s willingness.. for love ,care all..and be successful human beings.. Amen ❤🌷🌷🌷🌷⚘⚘⚘⚘💐💐💐💐


Thank you Michelle. Beautiful, insightful article, and important reminder on honouring what’s in our heart.

Angeliki Anastasia
Angeliki Anastasia

Artistic Michelle🌹, thank you 🙏 and to all the incredible healers, who give me the Chance everyday to make my invisible shield indestructible!!! This Great Chance was given to me by Jenni and Bryant!!! God lead them to me and to everyone they reach!!! Your article Michelle was so revealing and very truthful!!! I ❤️ loved this special part that said:”The things that are weird, might be one of the things I ❤️ 💕 Loved most about You!!!💕 Laugh and color with all the 🌈 rainbows 🌈 of the Universe and beyond, so you can receive pure joy and Bliss ❤️!

Mattie Jualin
Mattie Jualin

I loved reading that article You brought out a lot of interesting points because we do look for the larger accomplishments instead of being grateful and appreciative of the little things that make up the big picture Thank you for the incite…

Melissa Rose Rothschild
Melissa Rose Rothschild

Michelle, my life mantra has been to “listen to my heart”.
Honor and worth go hand and hand. It is so important to be true to who we are in the present.
Thank you for some great insight .

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