Most of us will rummage through life picking up bits of confidence here and there, but never truly find a way to harness that power.
Some of our naturally-born spirit might come from doing things we are naturally good at from an early age.
Whether that be a musical instrument we happen to pick up at age 2 or we begin to draw at age 5.
Confidence derives itself from moments of triumph.
Failures can push us into moments of success and then confidence is seen as an after effect.
But because our confidence wavers as much as a breeze on a spring day, we need to find consistent ways to remain sure of ourselves.
Most people will run from things that are difficult and then speculate as to why they still feel weak and tremble at the first sight of doing something hard.
Depending on the situation, we might admire the confidence shown by someone else and secretly wish for the know-how on how to acquire such feelings of strong belief in oneself.
Just as strength cannot be found in moments where we are not physically and mentally tested, our confidence cannot develop if we never give it the time it needs to grow.
1. Acknowledge Your Fear
Too often, we run from what is intimidating. We make excuses and even allow the fears of others to become our own. What we fail to realize is that fear is only as strong as we let it be.
Understand what holds you back and appreciate that the anxiety you feel is something you control.
Fear is a manifestation of something in our heads and can be powerful to paralyze us.
But confidence doesn’t grow there. We MUST step out of our comfort zone and step towards fear instead of away from it.
Fear loses its grip on what we don’t do when we choose to act anyway.
2. Hang Out With Good People
If we truly want to develop confidence, we have to choose who we spend our time with a little better.
If our groups of friends consists of people who are negative all the time, they will bring you down with them in no time at all.
You need to surround yourself with people who will reach down and grab your hand and help you up.
The people who will encourage you and support you as you try something new.
Chances are you might fail the first time you try something and the last thing any of us need is someone telling us, “Told you it wouldn’t work.”
Trust your gut and the vibe you get from others.
People that make you better will always be there when you need them most.
Your confidence will be something people notice about you, even when you don’t say anything at all.
3. Know Who You Are
Without a doubt. Key in your greatest talents and attributes, pushing the weakness aside. We all have them, but never let them be your focus.
Keep your soul at the forefront of where your confidence begins to grow as it will remind you from tipping too far into a direction you will not wish to go.
Knowing is different than believing – practice the art of knowing your truth, as much as you know your name.
If you are still unsure, be reminded of your passions and the fights you are willing to fight, even if you do so alone.
When no outside force can rock your solid knowledge of who you are, the smallest of criticisms and remarks will never sting like they are intended to do.
4. Learn From Your Mistakes
We will all fail and do things we wish we could undo. Applying those lessons to future events allow our confidence to become stepping stones instead of brick walls.
Showing others that we pay attention to the words that were said and the actions taken and accessing the results allow us to understand how things must change for things to improve.
Owning your mistakes also builds assuredness – and it tells others that you are not afraid to take chances.
5. Get Back Up
It’s easy to allow fear to derail us as it tightens its grip around the life we truly want to live.
In addition to fear, other manifestations will appear and proceed to kick us over and over, hoping to leave us defeated.
Fear will use you like a punching bag as it repeatedly makes you confront your biggest fears. Fear doesn’t stand a chance when you rise after you fall.
Because all of the words of doubt disappear and words like “I can” and “I’m still here” resonate in your mind and make your body do everything it is afraid to do.
6. Believe In What Is Possible
It’s easy to let fear create negativity and bitterness in a world of misunderstandings and barely tolerant actions.
We look at what is directly in front of us instead of seeing what could be. Confidence of this magnitude requires that you also have determination, commitment, and hope in everything that has not shown itself to you.
It is one thing to assign this responsibility to someone else, but quite another to assume it yourself.
Conclusion We must appreciate the process of the creating of one’s confidence; also knowing that once a certain threshold has been reached, the level of confidence may fade in and out.
Confidence is not one of those things we get and never have to do anything with ever again.
It is something we constant must grow, test, and challenge every chance we get.
Once you master the above methods to increase your confidence, you will need new ways to challenge yourself.
It will be impossible to remain in the same place over and over again.
In situations when your senses are heightened, you will remain calm and know you are able to overcome whatever is in your way.
You will disregard the comments made by people who just can’t seem to find happiness of their own so they attempt to take some of yours.
The easy road will no longer be the road for you and running from your fears will never happen again.
Confidence becomes your shield, your inpenetrateable defense against everything the world uses to take you down and keep you there.
No more baby steps for you.
No more sticking your head in the sand waiting the trouble to pass.
You are a new person now and the world is the one who is a little afraid. I like your odds…don’t you?