Think of your thoughts as though they were strangers passing on the street.
You can choose to stop them, to have a chat, or to simply pass them by. Which thoughts will you invite into your home? Which thoughts will you allow to influence you? Which thoughts will change you? If you strike up a conversation with a negative thought, you get to decide how often that thought comes around, or how often you let it work against you. Simply choose to pass your negative thoughts on the street and make friends with your positive thoughts.
1. Discover Gratitude
Remember, even if you have negativity in your life it does not define you, or your life. At all times, there is something to be grateful for, you just have to search for it. Gratitude doesn’t need to be difficult. Don’t base your gratitude on materialistic values such as; whether or not you have a huge house, a fast car, or an overflowing bank account. Gratitude comes from within. It can be as simple as appreciating the sun shining down on you. It may seem simple, you may even scoff at the idea of being grateful for the sunshine but try it. Give gratitude a chance. You’ll be surprised by how much beauty there is in your life.
2. Accept Your Mistakes
There is no person on Earth who has not made a mistake. Mistakes are a part of life. You have a choice in how you view your mistakes. You can see them as a failure or you can see them as a tool. Mistakes can help you learn; they can guide you in what not to do. Allow each mistake to help you to grow into a better, stronger person. Don’t try to control outcomes. Let it go. If you have good intentions, leave it at that. Don’t blame yourself if things don’t turn out. Don’t live in regret. Don’t beat yourself up. You can’t change what has already happened. Let the past build you up not tear you down. Use all the lessons your past has given you. All you can do is try your best.
3. Practice Mindfulness
The past can’t be changed. The future can’t be predicted. Live in the moment. Appreciate the here and now. Put your time and energy into the present moment. Don’t waste time and energy in regret over the past or by stressing about the future. Use your time wisely. Be aware of the decisions you are making with your time. Focus on living the time you have to the best of your abilities. Focus on the glory of now.
4. Find Your Strengths
Focus on your strengths, not your weaknesses. Focus on the positive, not the negative. Build yourself up by looking at your capabilities. Look at all that you can do. Look at all that you have done. Think about what makes you a great person. There is something wonderful in you, in every person, that can be revealed by adopting a better mindset. You aren’t full of flaws. You are full of potential, full of greatness! Tap into your greatness. Live your greatness.
5. Surround Yourself with Positivity
The people around you can have a huge impact on your life. Look at the people you have surrounded yourself with. Don’t allow other people’s negativity to influence you. Boundaries can be an effective tool to protect your time and energy. Surround yourself with people who bring out the best in you. Build a network of supportive people. Find your tribe.
6. Create Forgiveness
Hatred is toxic. Resentment does not help your soul heal. Don’t seek vengeance. Two wrongs don’t make a right. Release the weight of the past and yourself from the pain. Let forgiveness set you free. Forgiveness is for you, not for them. Forgiveness does not mean you have forgotten what has happened. It means you have moved on from the pain into a place of healing. Don’t try to control the actions of others. Don’t assume responsibility for what others do. You are only responsible for your own actions.
Be patient with yourself, change takes time. Realize the power of your choices.
If you consistently work to improve the quality of your life, you will notice a difference. Keep trying.