Calm is a feeling we often crave but also often forget we can consciously create for ourselves.
It’s the antidote to stress, overwhelm, anxiety and anger. It’s the stillness in a busy world. It’s the quiet of mind after a long day of thinking. It’s moments in life where no irritation of the mind, body or soul exist or penetrate our being.
To seek calm is to acknowledge we are without it.
It’s no surprise that in this modern world of constant connection, glorified busyness, consumerism overload and striving to achieve, that we don’t make time to experience the joy of calm.
Life is busy. Our minds are busy. Our roles are many.
The demands placed on us by others are time consuming. Our own expectations of ourselves are exhausting and experiencing calm can often feel out of reach.
Many of us even start to believe that calm is something only experienced by those with no problems or those who are fortunate enough to experience it by a waterfall in Bali. Those with no health worries. No financial struggle. No self-esteem issues. No kids, family or pets to take care of. Those with big houses, fancy cars and fat pay cheques.
The truth is calm is available to all of us and the more worries you find yourself having, the more you should consciously create moments throughout your day to experience calm.
Consciously choosing to experience calm, is to consciously set aside your worries, your fears and your frustrations. It’s not pretending they don’t exist, but placing them to the side for a period of time each day for you to experience the joy of just BEing. For you to allow your mind, body and spirit to relax.
As a mum of two and an entrepreneur, my lifestyle is naturally busy.
However, at times the fruits of success created by this busyness have come at a cost. To my mental, emotional and spiritual wellbeing.
I have experienced the stress of being a parent of a child who was seriously ill. I have had several breakdowns. I have experienced grief that literally crippled me and prevented me from walking and talking, following the death of my Dad. I have experienced the struggle of living on the breadline as a single parent. I have high-functioning anxiety as a result – something I have learned to hide pretty well over the years. I have had my business collapse twice and faced financial ruin as a result. I have felt broken many times, yet here I am. Writing my first book and feeling more at peace with myself and my life than I have done for many years.
The key to this was finding my calm by creating the right environment in my day to consciously experience it and invite the feeling into my life frequently.
Here are the top 5 ways I create calm in my life to inspire you.
1. Create a soul-nourishing morning routine.
I light an organic scented aromatherapy candle, sip my coffee and write a gratitude list. Then sit for a few minutes watching the wildlife in my garden. This time in the morning before the kids get up is just between me and The Universe.
2. Get out in nature.
Whether it’s your back garden, a walk in the forest or by your favourite river or beach, nature teaches us not to rush. Nature holds magical healing and when we absorb ourselves in it, we can forget time and loose ourselves in the moment.
3. Cuddle up on a comfy chair and read a book.
Pure escapism from the demands of the modern world. I have a few favourites that always bring me comfort. One of which is my childhood favourite (Catwitch – by Una Woodruff), filled with magic and mystical illustrations. I bought it a few years ago as a treat to myself and it instantly transports me to a place where life was simpler and my worries were few.
4. Banish technology from the bedroom.
Running an online business meant I checked my phone A LOT! Not just addictive level checking throughout my day but also last thing at night, first thig in the morning and sometimes even during the night if I happened to wake up. Returning to an old-fashioned alarm clock removed my excuse of needing my smartphone in the room to wake me up on time.
5. Spend quality time having simple and meaningful conversations with the people you love.
No technology. No TV on in the background. No distractions. Our favourite places are snuggled up on the sofa, around the dinner table when we eat our evening meal, or outdoors in the garden drinking tea and toasting marshmallows around the chiminea.