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5 Steps To Appreciating Yourself Right Now

You deserve to enjoy life. You can do this.

We live in a society that tells us who to be.

A checklist hangs above us, its instructions are simple: You can’t be happy until you’re perfect. All the little imperfections destroy us. We’ve decided that if we change this or that we’ll finally be happy in our own skin. It never stops, does it? Look in the mirror and what do we see? All the reasons why we don’t deserve to be happy. Instead of love, our vision is filled with hate. Instead of joy, we dance with agony. Instead of successes, we are failures.

At what point did we stop celebrating our strengths?

As a child, I can remember the absolute glee of achievement. If I did good, I felt good. When I made a mistake, I barely blinked an eye, it was but a small hurdle on the path to success. A mistake simply told me where I went wrong. I didn’t fret but rather learned.

Somewhere along the line, I lost that simplicity, as I think many of us did. I became so caught up in the race to be perfect that I forgot to be happy in the present. Even in my successes, I found only more anxiety. What a strange concept, to receive good news and immediately think, “But what about everything left to do.”

How do we combat this ever-growing imbalance?


1. Pause.

Collectively, let us take a breath. Deeply in and deeply out. Let yourself exist here for a moment. Be present. Don’t let the future that you’re trying to build destroy your reality in the present. You can’t be in a constant state of working. Breaks are a necessary part of functioning well. Don’t guilt yourself for simply existing for a moment.

2. Focus on intention not outcome.

Realize that each of your actions had a hopeful and positive intention. Your intention and action is your power. You have no control over the way the world responds. Put your time and attention into the way you respond to the world, not the way the world responds to you.

3. Examine your mistakes.

Mistakes can have a positive or negative impact on your life depending on the way you process them. Without realizing their value, they can have lasting negative effects. If you stop to examine your mistakes without judgment, you can find the teachings of those moments and use them to grow and expand your life.

4. Celebrate your successes.

Embrace the products of all your hard work. Do not simply brush them aside to take on more tasks but instead take time to enjoy them. Do not ruin good times by looking at what could be better. You are only guaranteed what you have in this moment. Take time to appreciate it.

5. Accept that growth is a constant component of a happy life.

You will never reach the summit of perfection; it is an unattainable goal. You can, however, grow into a better person every day. Your happiness is found in the journey, not the finish line.

Take another deep breath. Next time you look in the mirror know that you are whole.

You deserve to enjoy life. You can do this.

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LynnDailey
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LynnDailey

These are great steps for growing. Thank you for sharing them. I know I need to work in a few of these areas especially remembering to celebrate my successes and to rest now and then.

Julia Kinandu
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Julia Kinandu

True true. Blessings.

Laurie Lankins Farley
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Laurie Lankins Farley

This was so great! Shared on Laurie Lankins Farley – etc. <3

Jo Davis
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Jo Davis

Shared at Lift A Sister Up! This is so good! Thank you!❤

prabhakar rajarapu
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prabhakar rajarapu

AMEN EL SHADDAI

Fran Merkh
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Fran Merkh

Full of now wisdom, thx

Jeremiah de Leon
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Jeremiah de Leon

You need to accept who you are. You can’t grow on your own insecurities and inhibitions. Learn to know yourself first. Learn to love yourself first. Learn to admit that you are not perfect, that it’s okay not to be okay. It starts inside. It starts with you/us personally. It is okay to have mistakes and learned from it.

Julia Kinandu
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Julia Kinandu

Very nice article. I love it. It has reminded me to take life with grace and ease. Celebrate each moment of my life.
Thanks so much.