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5 Simple Steps You Can Take When Life Knocks You Down

For a flower to bloom, it requires both the sunlight and water from the rains. The same goes in your life.

Life is not always about sunshine and rainbows.

Sometimes life will knock you down and hit you with a brick. You will have to endure hardships, overcome adversities and go through tough times before you can reach your destination.

And this is always easier said than done. Everyone can be positive and do great things when they are healthy, have nothing to worry, their bills are paid on time, have a stable income and when everything is smooth.

The real challenge comes when you are going through tough times; when you don’t have enough money to survive, or when your health is at risk. And trust me that you will have to face a lot of challenges in your journey to success.

In fact, the more successful you are, the more hardships you will go through.

So here are the five simple steps you can take when you are facing tough times in life:

1. Revisit Your Dreams and Purpose

Whenever you face difficulties or challenges in life, always remember your dreams and the purpose why you do it in the first place.

Your dreams are the reasons you are where you are right now. And the purpose you do is the drive that pushes you to move forward. Therefore, whenever you face with hardships, you should revisit your dreams and your purpose.

If your dreams are not exciting enough and your purpose is weak, you will give up and quit. This is one of the main reasons most people fail to reach their goals.

When your will to achieve what you want is strong, you will do whatever to accomplish it. You will go through thick and thin to achieve your goals and live your dreams.

So turn to your dreams and imagine the excitement of living them when you feel like giving up. Revisit your purposes and let them pull you when you fall.

2. Get Away

Sometimes, it is better to get away from a situation that you cannot solve. Do you know that Jack Ma, the billionaire in China who founded Alibaba always walk away from a problem that he can’t solve?

Jack Ma said that he would just take a short nap when he faces a difficult situation where he does not know how to explain. And most of the time after the short rest, he feels refreshed, and solutions will automatically come to him.

You can do the same. Get away from the problem to clear your mind.

Sometimes you cannot see the big picture because you are stuck in the problem. Thus, stepping aside and doing something totally unrelated can give your mind a clearer picture to search for solutions.

Try to get close to nature. Go and get a walk. Talk to other people or get a drink and rest your mind. Or you may even want to take a holiday somewhere else to clear off your mind.

3. Measure Your Progress and Count Your Victories

If you feel that there is no way you can get away from the situation and you must confront it, try to measure your progress and count your victories.

Instead of blaming yourself that you have not produced the results you want, count your victories and measure how much you have accomplished.

Your wins will make you feel good when you think about them. This is why people celebrate their victories. You can do the same when you face tough times in life. When life knocks you down, count your blessings and measure your accomplishments.

The key is to consciously think about the good and positive things that you have achieved. When you count your victories, you will experience a confidence boost and put you in the right frame of mind.

When Colonel Sanders was forced to close his restaurant, he did not choose to give up. Instead, he opted to think about what he did best and what he has accomplished. And that got him into selling his fried chicken recipe that revolutionized the whole fast food industry. The name of his recipe? Kentucky Fried Chicken. 

4. Becoming Stronger Through Adversities

Les Brown once said this, “Don’t say that you are having a bad day, say that you are having a character-building day.” And he is right.

Adversities, challenges, rejections, failures, setbacks and tough times are there to grow you. You cannot become the person you are meant to be without facing tough times. Think about it. Michael Jordan will never become a successful basketball player if he had never failed and trained so hard before.

If J. K. Rowling has never been through all her hardships, she would never have the idea to write a book about a young magician named Harry Potter. Successful people are successful because of their failures and tough times.

You have to understand that if you want to achieve greater success in life, you will have to build your characters and transform yourself into the person worthy of success.

5. Learn to Dance in the Rain

Finally, when it rains, learn to dance in the rain. When life throws a lemon at you, turn it into lemonade.

You must see the hardships and challenges as part of your life. They are necessary because they will build you into a better person. Just like a caterpillar will have to go through a struggling process called metamorphosis before it can transform itself into a beautiful butterfly.

The same goes with your life. And since the tough times are coming anyway, so just learn to accept them and enjoy them. Instead of facing life with a gloomy and sulky face, have fun and enjoy the ride because you are already on it.

You cannot proceed further and achieve greater success if you don’t learn and embrace failures. It is when you take full responsibility for your life that things will start to change.

For a flower to bloom, it requires both the sunlight and water from the rains. The same goes in your life.

You need both success and failures to bloom and go to a higher level. Hence, just accept that hardships are inevitable and enjoy them.


Ane Krstevska

Ane Krstevska is creator of Self Develop Shop. A daydreamer and a night thinker. Blogger. Reader. Writer. Traveller. Coffee drinker. Sunshine mixed with rain, creating a beautiful rainbow.

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Beatrice Hernandez

Beautifully written and so inspirational..
You are so young and show much wisdom…
My Father taught me so much..
He had great Faith and never gave up.
He faced adversity at the age of two and just kept on trying. He was from the Greatest Generation.
Your writing is amazing because it reminds me of my Father and Mother.
There were times in my life where it seemed life was too difficult…Then my Parents would remind me it was nothing to place my Faith and meditate.
How I miss them both…
Their lessons remain a part of my life.
You are a gifted writer and it’s so easy to see why you are a success.
Thank you for sharing your life lessons.


Very helpful.
Thanks for your time and advice.

Barbara Vercruysse

Loved this article Ane!! Sharing on my page <3

Nicholas J Cobos

Great advice. Thanks for sharing.

Maryam Ansari

Awesome, thanks for sharing

Catherine Reardon

It’s truly great advice. With great mind and soulful mindfulness of life. It’s beautiful.


wow great advice i so needed to recap n some f these things i forgot t care for no wounder why i felt a little lost forgot parts f me that need some tlc i will defiantly be putting some of these to use thank you for sharing really helps to know

Gail Liming
Gail Liming

Insightful article and great key points to remember. Thanks.

Tiffany Newsome

Another great article. Again, I hope this helps someone


Very beautiful article because it contains real examples about successful people who turns their failer to success and also lovely example like the transformation of caterpillar to butterfly and also the sentence when life through lemon on you turn it to lemonade,I usually use the step 2 &3 to get away from the problem to clear my mind and find solutions for it ,sometimes I found more than one solution for the problem and this causes me another problem that which one I have to use it and making decision according to it

Nisha KC
Nisha KC

Thank you for this encouraging article.

Robina fazal

Ane..dear 💖👑💐Thanks for an inspiring lovely message through your nice article…one have to face rough and tough times through out life…The Skill is to be resistance….don’t try to better the situation….leave it..make good moves..go on…wht is meant to be dealt in a better way and can be fruit giving needs bit time..rather to settle it as soon as your self.. love life….and use best of your time and energy..make the most out of life….👍

Vasudevan Bhattathir

these are very good steps you have suggested. I would like to add that every bad situation has a solution only the solution’s are to be found .. for this a calm mind is required taking rest may solve it .when we are in sleep and before sleeping thinking about the problem and sleep. as soon as we wake up we may get the solution In deep sleep we are in contact with Divine the answer may be transmitted to us during sleep by Him
Thank for such nice article

Julia Kinandu

What a blessing to read such a piece of encouraging message. Thanks so much. I have been unable to accept the failures and you have reminded me that this will push me to the next level if I refocus.
I’m set to enjoy both my sunshine and my rainy seasons of my life
Counting of my successes as I move along will surely also help me in my journey.
Thanks so much.

Crisselda A.Leal

This really inspired and pushed me to move forward . I am in this situation right now and your article has given me the encouragement to go on. It enlightened me …stop crying…be happy and just enjoy the ups and downs of life. I have to count my victories and focus on my dreams. I know I can still achieve them with God’s help and my perseverance and will.

Indie Childs

I believe life is a series of lessons, tests, and questions. It depends on how you answer the questions. Some lessons we don’t learn the first time around. I have found keeping a journal really helps. That way you can look back and see what you did beforE and, not repeat the same mistake. Ane was absolutely right. No matter how hard you try to stay on course, stuff happens sometimes. When I am met with extreme difficulties I pray. I take a break and give it to God.


Thank you for sharing. A great reminder I find very useful to my life at this moment. Revisiting and my dreams and purpose in life and going through the steps is very important.

Jo Davis

Ane, thank you for this article. Stepping away from the problem to see more clearly is the thing we never really give ourselves permission to do. Great reminder!

Lalie Nieto
Lalie Nieto

I love this article 🤗 Thank you for the tips will share it on my page💕 Have a great day Ane, Bryant and Jenni 💕

Jackie Wilushewski

Thank you for this lovely article. I really enjoyed reading it and loved the tip on getting away for a bit to clear our minds. and I can definitely relate to becoming stronger through our adversities. *sharing*

baya elbey

beautiful article worth to be read and shared very helpful and useful insight thank you for posting


Beautiful and well written xxx


Thanks! 4 your Message 2day! As you Usually Are, You are SPOT ON ! With Right what I am going through. The article has given me Some Positive steps to get me through some of my Down Character Building Days! Thanks! So! Much! ☺️

Kelli Wallen

Perfect read for encouragement when you continue to had your circumstances over to God and Pray and put all of your faith in him. When your life is not being controled by you…but by your circumstances. You just have to be still…That’s what the bible says… thank you for your 5 steps to do while you wait. Thank you for the article

Melissa Rose Rothschild

I so believe this to be true!
It’s as if we have messages all around us to reassure us just the way life goes.
Great article
Thank you.


Thanks Melissa, I’m glad you found it helpful 🙂


These are very useful steps. I like to call the hardships and difficulties challenges or tests. Good to walk away from the problem until you have a clear mind for decisions.


These a very useful steps. I like to call the hardships and difficulties challenges or tests. Good to walk away from the problem until you have a clear mind for decisions.