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4 Life Saving Steps for Dealing with Huge Challenges and Bad News

Sometimes we are confronted with news that shakes our entire existence.

On April 7th, 2003 I was told that I had a stage-4 skin cancer and would probably not survive the end of that year. My youngest son, Jean-Baptiste, was 8 weeks old at that moment, my daughters Heloïse and Eugenie were 3 and 2 years old. I had been running my construction business for 5 years.

Besides disbelief, I didn’t feel sick, the cancer was discovered through a little black (bleeding) spot on my knee, the sky fell down and rational thinking was far away those first days.

And we all get to hear this kind of news sooner or later in our lives, maybe you woke up one day and your spouse told you she was going to leave you or maybe you had to save your company from bankruptcy.

Sometimes we are confronted with news that shakes our entire existence.

As an expert in dealing with setbacks and difficult circumstances throughout my life, I found that these 4 steps were hugely important in finding the courage to go on and re-invent ourselves during the moments that our world seemed like falling apart.


1. Take a step back and breathe

The first moment we get to hear some horrible news, knowing that our life will never be the same again, our human reflex is to panic. We get in a state of primal reactions, we want to hide, fight or run. And nothing good comes out of that. Taking a step back and a deep breath is the best thing to do at that moment.

When I got to hear that I had a very severe cancer, I was 32 at that time, I knew that panic and stress would not help me. The only thought that kept me going during my year of surgeries and chemotherapy was: IS THIS THOUGHT OR EMOTION HELPFUL OR NOT?

2. Watch your thoughts

Thoughts born in panic and overwhelm are bad advisors. Our mood and emotions always color the thoughts coming up. We have to train ourselves to raise our awareness and see the color of our thoughts in all particular situations.

3. Detach from negative thoughts

Once we see the nature of our thoughts, it is up to us to get rid of negative thinking. It only makes the situation worse and it weakens us in a moment we need to be powerful. Some situations we have to accept, we have no choice, in the case of me hearing about having a stage-4 cancer, I had no choice but to accept that news.

I was very aware though that self-pity, depressed thoughts and doom thinking would not help. I wanted to survive at all costs to see my children grow up and was very dedicated to do whatever it took to help myself.

First of all, to trust in the professionalism of the doctors who treated me and my task was stay positive, good-humoured and sunny as is my nature. Even if those were my last months, I was not going to spend them in misery. And yes, my body hurt many times, and yes, I was exhausted, sleeping for 20 hours a day many times; but I never bought in to negativity, never.


4. Give yourself space for the emotions that rise up

In times of turmoil, it is of utter importance not to suppress emotions, we can detach from our negative and fearful thoughts that come up but we have to make space for emotions rising up.

Emotions of sadness, grief, pain, hurt, have to be welcomed and embraced. We are human beings, feeling beings. The beauty is that once we allow our emotions to be, they dissolve after a while. Suppressing emotions doesn’t make you strong, on the contrary, you get out of balance and they come back even intensified.

Honoring yourself in difficult times, acknowledging that you are going through a tough period and tapping yourself on the back for the great job you are doing, is the greatest gift to yourself.

Final thoughts

Mastering this entire process makes you extremely resilient to deal with changing circumstances. And the one who is most adaptable to change, is the one who is guaranteed to be successful, as Darwin already taught us a few centuries ago.

Although some of these steps might seem counter-intuitive, they have been extremely helpful for me and many of the people working with me. So next time life hits you with a brick in the face, be mindful of how you deal with your circumstances. It will make a world of difference and could save your life.

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Barbara Vercruysse

Barbara Vercruysse is a coach, spiritual mentor, thought leader and public speaker. After facing several challenges in life and surviving a stage 4 skin cancer at the age of 32, she decided to live her second life at the fullest. So after running a successful 6-figure construction business for 18 years, she dedicates herself to her true passion now: guiding people through a deep transformation. She supports people around the world in leading a fulfilled life, creating impact and success by living and leading with love. One of her clients is BMW where she operates as a Quality Manager and Business Coach, she is responsible for screening all business processes and guiding people to perform optimally in their job. Having worked and still working with several coaches and mentors herself, she knows the transformative power of a personal coach. Once you open yourself up to being coached, you begin to receive the same advantages enjoyed by great actors and athletes everywhere, you grow so much stronger and you become more responsible for changing yourself. Empowering people, supporting them in taking their lives to the next level, sharing love, wisdom and compassion, have become her life mission. Barbara is a Certified Master Life Coach, Business Coach and wrote: ‘Start the Life of Your Dreams – A 7-step Program to a Successful and Fulfilled life’. She was published in the Huffington Post and wrote the book: '7 Most Powerful Techniques to Release Stress'. She was recently selected for the ThoughtLeaderSchool founded by Bryant McGill and is part of the selection committee of Peaceprize.org. https://www.facebook.com/startthelifeofyourdreams/ http://www.startthelifeofyourdreams.com/

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Sue Smith
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Wonderful article! The first few times I found myself in very difficult challenges it seemed humanly impossible and so shocking. It really knocked me hard. And yet, after more times of going thru unexpected hardships you learn that you can be a survivor if you choose, your mindset really does color your perspective, and there are always choices you can make to improve your situation. That is why I love and appreciate Jenni and Bryant’s writing so much….they focus on what you CAN do, how you CAN think, and the positive things that help! If you have never been thru a hardship yet, that is great, but when they hit, remember, they are amazing for developing the skills you need! I have an inner strength now that I never had before the challenges. I have a better perspective on life, love, and what is really important in life. I have an appreciation for these hard times because of all the lessons I learned thru them. Now when hard times hit, I have more of an interest in them instead of a dread and woe is me attitude; now I wonder what I will learn this time. They always develop you more. It is not so bad when you let go of the dread and go with the lesson. They are gifts in disguise. 😉

Sue Smith
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Barbara, I salute you! 💖

Akiroq Brost
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First of all, I feel so blessed to have met you. I am so very very grateful that you survived this ordeal. Secondly, I am so glad that you are sharing your experience with others. This article will help others!

“IS THIS THOUGHT OR EMOTION HELPFUL OR NOT?” Really hit close to home for me. I often ask myself is this helping or harming me when looking at what I am doing, or about to do. It really helps to guide a better path through life. This is a very powerful question to ask ourselves not just in times of crisis, but also in our every day lives.

I completely agree, separating thought from emotion is important in time of crisis. Emotion can easily overtake logic and rational. It’s important to be aware of ourselves when we are in a volatile state.

Realizing we have a choice in what we think is incredibly empowering. Acceptance is key. Focusing on what we can do and not on what we can’t. Surrendering whatever is too much for us to handle to a greater power, to faith, to hope.

Giving ourselves the space to be ourselves is so important. Finding that solace, that reprieve, that quiet time to sit with our thoughts. Allowing that time and space to feel and work through what we’re feeling. Repressing our thoughts and feelings grows them. Allowing them, allows release.

People always say, don’t hang on to the past. I definitely agree we should not hang on to the pain of the past. We should absolutely, however, hang on the wisdom we’ve gained. Let our pain make us stronger and wiser.

Wonderful article. Very inspiring. Thank you Barbara. <3

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Huge challenges give us the opportunity to rethink a situation, to reposition and adjust our actions and mindset. Usually, in the process of huge challenges and hurdles we are pushed to a higher level of thinking, praying, and focusing on what is true and good. The reality of life is that you will have challenges and obstacles, what you have in your arsenal of spiritual tools and mental tools will be enough to guide you to your answers.

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Yes, I face the worst thing that may happen in a crisis and look for a new approach or statement to stop a negative one. Right now I’m rethinking the fear I will become psychotic when or if my son dies of colon cancer. Have not come up with one yet but it’s there and I’m surrounding the negative thought with care, comfort and prayer.

Lawney
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Really helpful and very good steps to take when confronted with difficult situations.

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Mousumi
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Life is full of challenges and we get to learn alot from this which is inspiring us to face it strongly…

Brooke Lillith
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Beautiful sister Barbara this article had me in tears my love. So beautifully written and I LOVE the steps. I just love this line so much – “Honoring yourself in difficult times, acknowledging that you are going through a tough period and tapping yourself on the back for the great job you are doing, is the greatest gift to yourself.” So much divine wisdom and truth!!! You are truly a warrior queen and such a brilliant inspiration. Your words touched me so deeply in every way. Thank you for sharing your gifts with us all beautiful goddess. Love you beyond words angel!!! <3 <3 <3 <3 <3

baya elbey
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thank you i enjoyed this aricle you are a courageous woman i learned a lot from your story god bless you.

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Very good article because it comes from a realistic story and teach us lessons to how deal with challenges

Lalie Nieto
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Hello Bryant Jenni and Barbara💕This reminds me of an incident around 2004 wherein the doctor told me that I have a lung problem and I have to take medications. It came as a big surprise to me considering that I was taking care of my health (eating healthy, going to the gym, yoga). She then explained that it was because of a lower immune system as s result of my Vsd (hole in the heart). It was hard to accept at first considering that another major organ of mine was affected but I realized that to just follow the doctor’s order not to stress, just accept, take care of my health, drink the medications and pray. Thankfully, I got well and had my 3rd baby after 2 years who was the healthiest among the 3. Thank you💕

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Xochitl Xenakis

I almost always weather a storm by incessant prayer and plenty of moxie. It helps to separate yourself from those who are not only negative but, carry the spirit of Jezebel or even Legion. I practice a great deal of self -care. I meditate after prayer. Music therapy is also wonderful. And, if push comes to shove aroma therapy with a long hot bath in eucalyptus epsom salts help carry me on. It is actually quite refreshing.

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Nisha KC

Thanks for the tips to overcome the tough situation that we could face in life. But when the situation is really tough it will take time to overcome. Mind doesn’t work nicely at the moment. But yes after we pass that moment however, that experience will really makes us stronger later. But at the exact situation it’s hard to think and solve the problem. For me the one and only way out, is to pray with God to make everything well again. But when we know these kind of stories previously we can control ourselves such moment to some extend.

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I want to first start off by saying her story was amazing and God Bless her she survived and where she is today is in incredible paying it forward is key in our world because it only spreads hope faith joy and so much love to many others to face difficult challenges in our life. the four key points that were given in this article I believe really did save her life. because these are the key things I used to face my difficult challenges in my life and to overcome them and get where I am today. I will start back at 2009 I had just graduated from college. with an associates degree. I had worked prior to that at a company for twelve years I experienced some depression and ended up leaving my job there. I had did home care for a wonderful woman soon after I had lost my twelve year job. I enjoyed taking care of this lovely woman in her home it worked out good because my daughter when I started was twelve I could work good hours which allowed me to go to all her school events and later on she could use my car. and I made good money. she brought joy to me. during this time I was living in a house with my ex-boyfriend I am an alcoholic and a drug addict we were both co depedent, and we both drank and used pills. I was prescribed pain medication and became addicted to them which was so horrible in so many ways. after years I was able to get off the pills. during all this I thought since I kept a job I went to all my daughters school events she was in sports until she graduated from high school and I thought I was being a good mom. I am kind of skipping around here trying to write this the best I can. anyway in 2007 I decided to go to college because my job I had taking care of the elderly woman I did not know would end. blessed for her she lived until almost 90. so I still took care of her while I went to college. my daughter graduated in 2008 from high school I was so proud of her, I forced her into college which she went for a short period then dropped out. in 2009 I graduated from college and I still remember the feeling in me how Dwi. at the same time my daughter moved out of the house with her boyfriend, which was down but I she had lived with me her whole life she was my whole identity so it made me very sad. i still could not find a job and the woman i took care of for years her son put her in a nursing home so i did not have that job anymore. my boyfriend at the time i found out was seeing his bosses daughter. they kind of force me out of the house , she moved in i went to live with my mom. i felt so awful, i went and hung out at a friends drinking a lot.. i was introduced to a guy who right away we hooked up he was a heavy crack cocaine user i did not care at the time i was drinking and doing that drug. i got a job at burger king and we got our own apartment still using drinking, ended up losing that apartment my boyfriend asked me to come back i moved back into the house shortly after the lady that owned the house wanted to move back in we moved out. i went to my parents he went to his moms. i ended up stealing my dads pills i was kicked out , me and my ex ended up living in a tent because i did not get along with his mom. we got hud moved into a small apartment with his son. this brings me to 2011 i was often staying at a guy friends drinking cause by that time i really didn’t want to be with my ex it was at this friends i was introduced to the ex abuser of my life. he started off being violent i was in such a state of mind i didn’t care, i would go back and forth from my apt. my ex boyfriend ended up drinking one night and choked me and ended up going to jail. we lost that apartment, my parents let me back. but i was hanging out with the ex abuser at different places. i got a job through a friend taking care of a man i ended up driving his car crashing into a mailbox and got a driving while the influence of drugs. it became a felony. it took months for my case to get resolved. i felt so low and very depressed and suicidal at times. i ended up getting five years felony probabtion. i did it for a few weeks and then just didn’t go hanging out with my ex abuser drinking doing drugs and hiding from the police they found me soon after at a house i was with my ex abuser and i got eight months in jail. during this time my mother and daughter came to visit me every week which is how i got through. well to backtrack after a few months there i asked to be moved from a different cell they would not move me i took a razor and slit my wrist and they sent me off to a different town in a psychiatric center for the criminally insane i was there for a month so after that is when i came back to jail and accepted it and with my family that is how i got through. after i got out of jail i thought i would never drink again and that i would get my life in order because i never ever would want to be back there again. i lived with my parents for five months, but my ex abuser came to vist me in jail and so when i got out i still was seeing him. we drank and stayed at his friends house. this is 2013 we were moving to a different town in may. during this time i had such aniexty, depression. in april right before we moved he broke my nose i did not report it i lied . then in may two days before we were to move i was lying on the floor at his friends i said something he did not like he kicked me with his steel toe boots broke four of my ribs. it was the wordt pain i ever felt. i lied again. i let him move in with me at this time i was just frozen with deep fear i had no self worth my darkness got deeper and deeper. oh while living with my parents i had applied for ssdi. then in june the next month he ended up breaking my collar bone and held me with a knife for hours until he passed out i ran to the police for the first time i told. he got six months in jail. and i ended visiting him thinking jail would change him he would be sober and it would be different so nice i wanted to believe so bad he felt so horrible and that he would not hurt me again that i believed it. but i had no self worth self love so much shame and guilt about everything that had happened these past years i was just holding on to life. he got out i ended up getting ssdi instead of him being happy for mehe got drunk and just said awful things. he went back to abusive ways soon after he got out of jail. for an example i ended up in the hospital 23 times in one year because of my depression fear aniexty i was even more deep in fear and depression. he had got out in oct 2013. in june of 2014 he broke my hand by pushing me in to a futon this time i told again it was almosy a year to the date he went to jail before, he was sentenced to the same thing six months in jail the judge said he was giving him a gift. that sticks in my mind like glue. my fear became even worse i really truly thought in my mind if i was not with him he would kill me i had horrible nightmares i was suffering from severe aniexty and depsression i did not want to live , i had cut myself, i can remember still today feeling i truly would die either accidentally or not by accident. i tried to laugh as much as i could but i couldn’t hardly do that anymore. i was in disassociation to a lot of the trauma i was suffering. in july a month after he went to jail i had a major breakdown i called the police for help i would not open my door and i had a knife and i was threatnening to kill them as i was told i remember the electricity going through my body as i was tassed. i ended up in the hospital having severe breakdowns each day. he diagnosed me with impressive ptsd. i got out after twelve days and i was feeling even worse about what had happened and everything, i was in such fear still and just well still felt all my emotions i had told you before. even more so that if i was not with him he would kill me. i started visiting him again , my life was life a thick fog that would never lift. but during this time i did start going to aa i had a small glipse of hope many people were deeply concerned about me people i didn’t even know.. about a month before he was released i stopped visiting him. but soon after he was released he started calling me i told him i was not drinking anymore and i would not have anyone drink around me. he said all this stuff and if he drank once i could kick him out. i thought once again i truly loved him and he truly loved me and if he did not drink he would not abuse me. going to aa helped me not to drink but it didn’t take away all my strong emotions and the deepest one of all the deep fear he would kill me. i let him back in oct 2014 and also in 2014 which is one of the best things i could of done in my life i entered THE VICITMS OF VIOLENCE PROGRAM. so from oct 2014 to april of 2015 he was living with me while i was going to aa and attending victims of violence program which of course he wanted me in neither. we did not drink during this time period, but it was soon after he got out he gave me black eyes punched kicked me but all this pshyscial violence wasn’t the worst of it the mental and emotional pain he had inflicted on me was the worst. he was always putting me down whor slut telling me what i could wear controlling my life, it scared me so much to think i thought alchol was the problem NO IT WAS JUST HIM. and bit by bit by attending victims of violence and aa i was taking a little of his control away. in april of 2015 days before i was having thoughts in my mind i might as well kill him because he is going to kill me anyway. i cant tell you how chilling that felt. with the great great help of VICTIMS OF VIOLENCE AND MY TREMDOUS THINKING OF MY DAUGHTER AND THE TREMDOUS STRENGTH I WANTED PEOPLE NOT TO WORRY I DIDNT WANT TO LIVE IN THIS STATE OF MIND I DIDNT WANT TO GO TO PRISON THE REST OF MY LIFE IT WAS ONE MORNING ON APRIL 2015 I WOKE UP AND SAID YOU HAVE GOT TO LEAVE YOU CANT BE HERE ANYMORE I WILL TELL YOU THIS IT WAS THE STRONGEST DAY OF MY LIFE AND I NEVER LOOKED BACK. i continued to stay in VICTIMS OF VIOLENCE and graduated from the program in June 2016. which to me it want just a program it was people who truly cared i felt not alone and gained so much knowledge and awareness from the people who as of today i can not thank enough. along with my therapist who has been through me through all of years and who i did not drop out of therapy i have been with her four years and i can not thank her enough ever. i have to give myself credit for sticking with this great support because it is one of the reasons i truly survived life. but when you suffer this kind of trauma and with my severe mental healh life was not a bowl of cherries far from it but i had started to see a glimpse of hope. i had many struggles which bring me up to the year of dec 2016. my ex abuser mind you i had not seen him since i left him in april 2015. he knocked on my door asking if he could be my friend and come in. i still lived at the same place. my heart was beating faster i think it ever had, i called the police they got there a few minutes after while they were there i opened the door a crack those few seconds of seeing him was like a flashback to terror. he did not come back or contact me. me and my daughter had been in very bad fight that i had said very hurtful things to her months before that and i truly felt that she would never speak to me again. It felt like the most devasting time for me, i know i love her with all my heart and i hurt the one person who i love and would give my life for. i was still taking out emotions sadness anger in all the wrong places. her wedding was coming up and that was the one thing i wanted more than anything was to see my daughter get married, and i thought her husband hated me. well in feb of 2017 just as impulsively as i asked Kenny to leave which is good impulse i asked my mom to just pick me up i could not live there anymore. i felt like i had before that i would accidentally die or die at my hands. my ex abuser played a factor but it was my environment also and how i felt deeply devasted not being in my daughters life and what i might do. my mom came and picked me up. i didn not drink at all while living with her i stayed home which was good for me, i still missed my daughter of course so very much but my thoughts began to change. i began to think she would be devastated without me here and so would my loved ones. all se ever wanted was to see me get well and be happy and at the least she deserves that and so do my loved ones. i spent a few times in the hospital but within days got out. one of which was when my daughter got married of course i was still very very upset that i wasn not there, but my actions caused me not to be there and i don’t blame her for not letting me go, she actually has been my greatest strength to get me where i am today. whether she forgave me or mot she i am her mom and she has worried about me long enough and like i said deserves to see me have a good life. i began to feel truly happy for her and i am blssed and grateful to this day she has a wonderful huband and is truly happy and healthy. and he does not hate me that what just might distorted thinking. anyway i was beginning to see light and hope i moved on my own in july me and my mom went on a trip to Nebraska i cant tell you the wonderful feelings i got from seeing my family there and how much i miss them and life is short and want to go back there often. i had a few setbacks a drank a little , went to the hospital a few times but more and more i would just relaz and really JUST BREATHE. to calm my thoughts. being positive and your thoughts are very key to moving forward, that is how i believe this lady in this article survived. she had a great will to survive and did not let negative thoughts bring her down. and then after this remarkable second chance at life she found her passion to help others. i have to say God does play a huge factor in my life today also, i pray have great faith and put it in God’s hands. i have patience , take baby steps and when i fall i know i can get back up and it will be okay. themorn knowledge and awareness i get about domestic violence and our life stories can help us and we can help others. i am blessed and grateful for all my loved ones that have been there for me. this is in my everyday thought. all those who continue to make my life better and brighter. and it is such peace when your on your journey to healing you began to forgive, and truly love yourself. and living alone all these years have helped me really know who i am. i let my daughter go at her own pace with me and i can accept that i really miss her but i am blessed to have the little part of her in my life. she is my hero she is the wind beneath my wings she has shown me how to be the best person i can be and the best mom i strive to be. today because i love myself and i truly thank God for i have been given a second chance at life not many get this, i want to make a difference i have found my passion and purpose and when you do find that is an amazing gift. and helping others as much as i can is the best happiness in the world!! if we all did even a small part it can make a huge difference in making this world a better place. so when i say you have strength beyond you know and don’t give up i know where your coming from and i truly mean it. I will take full advantage of my second chance because i wont get another one!! and when you believe and put it in God’s Hand’s you find your great faith and it will be okay. God Bless You all!! i hope my story inspired you and gave you hope. out of my great TRADEGY’S CAME A GREAT MIRACLE!!

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Jess

I don’t even know where to start telling my story. I just want to stop feeling hurt. I want to stop crying. I want to move forward but I just don’t have the strength anymore. I’m all prayed out ,confused and alone,with three kid to care for and job.but you know what hurts the most,the resentment i receive from my own mother and brother. I wish I know why they hate me so much.

Jane
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Jane

Thank you~~~ : )

Robina fazal
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Nice….Reallygood…Will beintouch…Best wishes for all…keep on going to get people realize wht is best for them…to move on..❤👑💐

Doris
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I have encountered some of the most difficult situations that anyone could ever imagine. I have had challenges to my finances, to my health, and my well-being nevertheless, I have persevered through them all. I have been disappointed by loved ones, family members, and friends. People that I looked up to, admired, and held as role models all let me know that they were very human. I cannot express with words the depths of sorrow and pain that my heart has experienced as a result of betrayal of trust. My hope is that I have an extremely strong foundation, a deep spiritual relationship, and deep belief in something greater than myself. I believe that the human spirit can persevere over any crushing defeat, any personal vindictive assault. I have continued to build my legacy and focused on my higher powers in the face of greed and contempt. I’m a real woman with deep passions a heart full of love overflowing that expresses her emotions with sincerity and directness. I raised my children with so many hopes and dreams I taught them to be dreamers , to be beautiful I told them to be intelligent I taught them to believe in a higher power that created us all. I wanted them to be different I wanted them to experience peacefulness love and success . What I have learned is that life on Earth will not be simple and can turn on the decision of someone that does not share the same beliefs and ideology is as myself that there will be conflicts . The beauty of life is in your response,the beauty of life is being able to rise above all the horrible situations and to keep going and to know that you are not weak but that you are actually stronger when you are able to continue after being assaulted, when you are able to pick yourself up after being knocked down, when you are able to build after everything has been destroyed exemplifies the highest level of existence. The ability to turn disfunction into clarity and excellent decision-making is triump. The ability to survive a vicious assault on your life and being is to stand in victory over your assailants.

christineprice
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Hello Doris,

I too have faced challenges because of trusting family members who did not have my best interests at heart.
When you are a kind and sympathetic person you can get taken advantage of.
I am happy you have been able to rise above your problems.
Happy people do not go around making others unhappy. It is those people who are dysfunctional unhappy people. Stay away from them.

Lins
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Afterthought. Bleach your hair, step out in blue hair. Wear red lipstick for the very first time. Try a new workout routine. Wear your dad’s most expensive shirt. Do anything that makes you happy to break out of the cycle. Off to buy my mom’s birthday present, volunteering at home makes a difference too. Keep moving forward 😊

Arthur Punau
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Thank you Barbara for sharing such an inspiring and empowering article. I can relate to numerous challenges that I have overcome following the same principles highlighted. Powerful steps to follow indeed!!

Jo Davis
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I love you even more, Barbara. ❤

Kelly
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As a single, no children, one living family member, I have gone through many challenges. No silver spoon, just an average 40 hour job that pays $15/hr. I read stories of others and think. Well you have the wealth to pursue your passion because,. Or your partner is financially stable which allows you to focus more on your solutions. These stories never add any hope or encouragement for me. I survive daily with grace, integrity and spiritual grounded. There are no other options. Those with financial safety nets need to be more grateful.

Lins
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Family support helps tremendously too. Knowing that you are loved 😊

Paulina Bagunas
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Paulina Bagunas

Challenges make us weaker everyday. But we have a good fight if we’re going to help ourselves to overcome thosethis circumstances. Firstly, put GOD as the center of our lives. Don’t be afraid to try to do new things according to HIS will. Keep on praying and ask HIS guidance. Face strongly the problems with pure and clean heart. Commitment is very important too. You cannot win the battle if you are not committed to do the right path. God bless

Kimberly Lentz
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Kimberly Lentz

Yes, God has to be #1. He has brought me through & out of many horri le times in my life.

Paulina Bagunas
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Paulina Bagunas

Challenges make us weaker everyday. But we have a good fight if we’re going to help ourselves to overcome thosethis circumstances. Firstly, put GOD as the center of our lives. Don’t be afraid to try to do new things according to HIS will. Keep on praying and ask HIS guidance. Face strongly the problems with pure and clean heart. Commitment is very important too. You cannot win the battle if you are not committed to do the rightsame path. God bless

Fatima Shahnaz Ahmad
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“Is this thought helpful or not?” is the BEST question you may ask yourself during any crisis. Thank You SO MUCH for your advice! <3

Janice Wayne
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Oh Barbara reading your story just reinforces how our fears and negativity can interfere with our body and spiritual healing. I can only imagine how hard this must have been and by following your steps you were able to conquer your illness with courage and grace. Such a beautiful article and I look forward to reading more of your work. Thank you ❤️

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Dawn Urban

Thank you all for your testimonies! Isn’t it amazing how we draw on strength from one another and God. My story is quite a bit of s struggle as Huntington’s disease is in our family. It has no treatment or cure but ravaged the central nervous system, shrinks the brain literally. Eventually the patient loses all faculties and usually succumb s to pneumonia and dies. This has happened to my father:54 yrs old-brother 47yrs old & now my big sister who is 56 and a makeshift bedroom in our living room. I draw daily on encouraging words & prayers. If I didn’t I don’t know how I would keep my head up. My strength I draw from our Heavenly Father and other people’s problem solving ideals. Simple Reminders helps daily as I meditate and pray. We must remember that all things are for a purpose we may not know yet but in His time. For this I am grateful for another day & draw my strength from other souls. Tomorrow is always another day and as hard as this one is, I know nothing we can’t handle is given us.

Kimberly Lentz
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Kimberly Lentz

God is a God of Miracles. Lots of prayer. Notify Churches for prayer chains.
Here is a Miracle of God….. My friends brother had cancer in his lymph nodes, bones, & in several organs. We had prayer after prayer for him. He had done Chemo. He was living a death sentence. He went in to have scan done to see how he was doing. The Dr came out to talk to family and I. The Dr said there was not one site of cancer anywhere in him. We all gasped & began to rejoice! This was back in 2010. He is still cancer free! Believe! Believe! Believe! Amen.

Christina
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These are simple and good steps to follow when dealing with challenges. We have to allow ourselves to be human, to feel and understand what is happening to us emotionally and physically when facing devastating news. Stay malleable, be aware and chose love and hope. I have faced many challenges with optimism that everything will be ok. Now I know it is as it should be. ❤️

Jeannie
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Jeannie

Great article! You are a shining example of the incredible inner strength we have available to us during times of adversity. You are a shining example of that inner determination,, courage and connection needed to overcome whatever comes our way. Thank you for being you and sharing your words of wisdom. God bless you, yours and all you do!!!

JOHN MCDOUGALL
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JOHN MCDOUGALL

In 2015, I got mixed up with a couple working on a holiday ranch one Saturday after coming from a clearing sale trying to sell my puppies but to no avail! Anyhow, this guy who introduced himself asked: “Hi, my name is Chris, would you like a beer?” I replied: “Yes, I’ll have a beer with you.” So, I met his wife and 2 children and I stayed there all night having a good time drinking and telling them funny stories. To cut a long story short, little did I realize I was associating with druggies and the amount of stress I was receiving, I was in a state of fear mongering just listening to his stories that he was afraid of going to jail! It was only afterwards when I typed his name in Google which says that he has turned to crime and has been in jail for holding a firearm without a license and he also was given a suspended jail sentence due to his careless driving by running into a gum tree and his passenger subsequently died in hospital that evening because he didn’t wear his seat belts therefore he was extradited to another state where I currently live at the moment. He subsequently bought another rifle which he bought from the black market but I didn’t trust him because had I been on the wrong side of him, there would’ve been nothing to stop him from shooting me if he wanted to but I made a lucky escape when I drove back to my hometown and told the Police what happened! In a fortnight, the Police arrived and took Chris into custody and was jailed for 1 year because he committed 21 offences and planted 300 marijuana plants alongside a river bank on the property he was leasing!
Three months later, I noticed what I thought was a carbuncle on my right hand but when I started scratching just to alleviate the itch, it only made it worse and it started spreading! After my visit with the Doctor, he said it was cancer and it needed to be excised. Before surgery, my sister gave me some black salve which takes about 40 days to heal but it was too slow and painful because if felt like black ants were biting my hand all the time and keeping me awake at night where I had to take a hot shower just to numb the pain. Then after that, I drank a bit of Brandy which gave me some comfort. The size of that cancer was the same as a 50 cent piece in Australian Currency and about a half an inch thick.
At my appointment, the cancer surgeon gave me an injection into my right hand which numbed it but he had to first slice the first layer of skin on my right thigh which was rather painful prior to excision on my right hand where it was placed and plastered so that it gave it some time to heal.
Now my hand is back to normal where I can see the transplant but hardly noticeable and it’s great to know that I no longer have the cancer associated with the pain! So, I really don’t know what cause the cancer initially but given the benefit of the doubt, I’d say it was bad company to begin with and too much stress which has taught me a lesson to never get involve with people I don’t know. The reason they were too friendly to begin with I think was because they were running away from the law with their criminal activities. That’s my story anyhow.

Dawn Urban
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Dawn Urban

You realize bad people seek targets or kind people they don’t know then start watching them shiver in their shoes or the other way. They may think they intimidate you or think you may offer them what they’re looking for, which is usually a hide out & partner in crime. Either way, they want something.

norma
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norma

Wow, fantastic article. !
I had my two year old son who was diagnosed with diabetes. our world was turned upside down in a blink of an eye. the worry-free lifestyle was over, Now, it was about scheduled meals, insulin injections, and blood monitoring. I cried for a very long time and if I go back to those fresh days of when my son was diagnosed, I still tear up. A lot of people came to see the little guy while we were going through diabetes education. I remember one day, a friend said to me: “I know, you must be saying “why me God”. and at that moment, shocked with what she said, I replied: Why not me, to whatever we need to do I know God will be there guiding me to take care of my son and push forward. Faith is a way of life and when something comes your way which is devastating, God makes sure you will pull through..

John francis de Vera
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John francis de Vera

Wow,,,very inspiring words,,, thanks for sharing it with us,,, it will help a lot of people,,, including me,, with this article,,, God bless you more

Laurie Lankins Farley
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Great steps!

Todd A Greget
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Todd A Greget

As I sit here today and think back. Why are the flashbacks just now appearing? Why has it taken so long for them to appear in my dreams? Nobody knows what I have been through. Sure some people know certain events that have happened in my life. Others know of other events that have happened during a different time in my life. But nobody has been there for every event of my life except for two people. One of these people I wasn’t very acquainted with at the time. Just because I wasn’t acquainted with him, doesn’t mean he didn’t care.The other person is myself. So this means that nobody can judge me, or has the right to talk about me, and my behavior.
I use to be a very energetic, loving, happy go lucky person. Those days are very far and few between. Now I snap and get mad for no reason. I don’t know why this happens to me. This new person isn’t who I use to be. This person isn’t who I want to be. I don’t want my children to be afraid of me. I don’t want my wife to be mad and pushed away. It’s got to be hard on them for the way I act at times. I try to isolate myself when this happens. I can’t keep living my life this way.
Now to add salt to the wound. On September 28th of 2013, approximately 12:20am. I pulled the trigger of a Smith and Wesson .38 special pistol. This pistol belonged to my wife’s grandfather. He was a retired police officer in San Antonio, Texas. Her and I use to take that pistol out to the gun range for some target practice. She was pretty deadly with that pistol. The first time I saw her shoot a tight pattern, I was dumbfounded. Well that night when I pulled the trigger of her pistol. It was under my chin. To me that’s not the bad part of all of this. The part that really tears me up is, my 21 year old son was there. Not there like my wife. Not there like my 8 year old son, which my wife made go outside. Or my 23 year old daughter and grandson. Which also were outside due to my wife. My son tried to talk me out of doing this. He begged me not to kill myself. He told me to think about what would they do without a father? What would Gavin do without you? I pushed him out and locked the bathroom door. Now I’m in a full river of tears. Wanting everything to just stop. No more reaccuring dreams. No more feeling abandoned. No more depression, and anxiety. No more snapping. No more pain. No more what if’s, and no more yelling at my family. My wife had already called 911. The police and ambulance we believe were already outside. My son was not going to let his father go down like this. He picked the lock on the door and came in. At that time the pistol was under my chin, pointing straight up. If I would have pulled the trigger at that very moment. My life would have been over for good. Instead my son rushed me. He tried to stop his father from blowing his head off. With the pistol still under my chin, finger on the trigger, and the hammer cocked back. I pushed him away. Well at the time of pushing him away with one hand. The other hand gripped tight onto the white opal grips of the .38, with the squeeze of the finger on the trigger. I can recall my mind subconsciously saying “Ahh it’s finally all over”. I actually felt some relief. At that moment as I lied there. I saw the only other person that knows my entire life. God told me that he had no room for me. It wasn’t my time, he wasn’t ready for me. He told me that my family needed me, now go back home.
My son pulled his shirt off of his back, and wrapped it around his lifeless fathers head. Screaming for someone to help him. The police and EMS entered the house with caution. They made their way to the master bathroom where I laid. The EMS did what they could to get me stable, called for “flight for life”. After they stabilized me, and got me to the ambulance. Police stopped the traffic at the entrance to the neighborhood. A half mile ride in the ambulance, and it had reached it’s destination. From there I was airlifted to San Antonio Military Medical Center (aka. SAMMC) This is the Nations best trauma facility known. It has a 96.4% survival rate on trauma victims. I was in ICU for a few days before I woke up.
As I slowly opened my eyes. I thought to myself, damn it’s cold here. I really didn’t know where I was at. I could barely move my head from side to side. As I lay there wondering what was going on. I saw the nurse and heard my brother. He said hey Ernie (my family nickname) how ya feeling? As I tried to say something, I couldn’t move my mouth. About that time a nurse looked at me and said “do you know where you are?” I tried to shake my head no. You are in the hospital, SAMMC. I tried to motion with my arms “what happened?” My brother said “you shot yourself”. Then the nurse replied “you were shot by a self inflicted gunshot wound”. I just started pooring down with tears. I believe I could hear my dad in the background. All I could do was look. I had tubes and wires all over the damn place. I could hardly keep my eyes open. I was pretty drugged up, and tired. I believe it was later that day as I woke up again. I slowly opened my eyes, and felt an ice cold hand. I knew it could only be one person. My beautiful wife. She always has cold hands, and is freezing no matter what time of year it is. I tried to smile the best I could. Kinda hard when you mouth is wired shut, and your head is as big as a basketball. I gripped her hand tight and tears were rolling down my swollen face. She said it’s going to be okay. She asked me if I knew what happened? I shook my head yes. She was a little upset. She felt that she should have been the one to tell me. She felt a little better when she found out my brother told me. I could her a voice in the background saying “hey pops”. I knew who exactly that was, my son Kaleb. He is the one that tried to stop me. At that moment I’ve never felt more relieved that he was there, and ok. He was supposed to head back to New Mexico that day. Hearing his voice, asking how I was doing gave me a warm feeling throughout my body. He grabbed my hand and gave it a little squeeze. Once again I looked up and the tears were flowing down like a waterfall. I went through a lot while I was in ICU. My stomach was very weak and couldn’t handle the meds to well. The first time I threw up, I thought I was going to drown. I couldn’t talk to let the nurse know. I couldn’t open my mouth as I was throwing up, due to my mouth wired shut.
At this time I only had one surgery done. The repair on my right side lower jaw break. The surgery team went in through my mouth. They cut between my inner cheek, and my lower teeth. The surgical team installed two titanium flat bars. One on the upper side of the break, and the other on the lower side. As that healed and the resin set up on the left side. The surgical team was concerned with my left eye. I had full movement of the eyeball. I could not close my left eyelid. This is a pretty big problem. The nursing staff had to put eye drops in every 30 minutes, and salve every 1 hour.They couldn’t tell on the vision at this time. This was due to the swelling of the head. Another concern was my hearing in the left ear. I had a lot of drainage, and blood coming out of it. The nursing staff had to clean the ear canal every couple hours. It would get so full of blood and liguid, that it came out like a river. After cleaning, they had to put drops in it. This actually felt really good. The drops would keep it from itching, and irritation from the blood. My feed tube hole needed daily care also. A good cleaning, and sterilize the area morning, and night. The trachiotomy was a constant cleaning, and dressing change. It would get to smelling so bad after a half day. The smell was from the build-up of gunk. The stomach acid, and vial fluids.
The medical staff had their hands full with my care. I always had two nurses at all times with me. I was told when I first came in as a trauma patient. I had 63 medical staff, doctors, and surgeons working on me. The care that I received at SAMMC was absolutely remarkable. They also kept me and my family well informed. They would tell us everything that they were going to do.
Eight and a half hours for the second surgery. This was all for the jaw rebuild, and the left eye socket. The eye socket surgery went through the inside of my mouth. Well for the lower socket. They installed a titanium flat bar on the bottom of the socket. I was then cut open from under the chin, bottom of the jaw, up the backside of the jaw, in front of the ear, up and over the head, and part ways down to the right ear. At this time the second titanium flat bar was installed. It is on the left side from the eye socket to the cheek bone area. The next titanium flat bar was installed on top of the jaw bone. Where the lower wisdom tooth would be. Now the lower jaw bone reconstruction. This titanium bar is built as one piece. It goes from the left side jaw joint, all the way forward to just pass center of the chin. Most of the bullet was removed. There were two larger pieces that they removed. It was lodged into the left jaw bone joint. This was mainly the steel jacket. There is still real fine shrapnel all over in my cheek, and general area. This could not be removed due to further damaging the area. The surgical team told me that these fine pieces will work their way out eventually.
I had to get some plastic surgery done to the left eye. After weekly visits to ophthomology. The doctor came up with a plan. They were going to make a 24karat gold bar weight. They did a dry fit on the outter lid. Had me blink several times, and to do some more measurements. During surgery, they cut the outter eyelid skin. installed they weight. They weight is sewn onto the inner lid. After that was done, the doctor did an eye lift. He picked up the bottom lid 2mm. The reason for the sagging lower lid was due to nerve damage. After everything is healed and blinking properly. Ophthalmology had to do some more measurements. My eye will blink normally, but still will not close all the way. I still have about a 1-2mm gap between the upper, and lower lid. I have to put eye drops in at least every two hours. I have to put moisturizing salve in every night at bedtime.
The nerve damage to my face is pretty sever. I have no nerve muscle movement on the left side of my face at all. This includes the eyebrow, and smile. I have no facial expressions on my left side. I can’t eat on that side either. The food just stays there, and gets stuck in my cheek, and gums. I have nerve feeling from my forehead, to my lower jaw. My chin and lip are completely nerve feeling, and nerve muscle dead. I have to drink with a straw on my right side, and can’t tell if I have food on my face. My mouth won’t open big enough to eat a regular sandwich. I have to smash it down. The surgical team is coming up with a plan to do a nerve graft from my neck. They will connect the nerve to the severed nerve in my cheek. Trying to get some facial tone back on the left side. This will help the eye closing, and lip movement.

I’m headed in today (April 2, 2015) for my facial nerve graft surgery. As I get checked into pre-op. I am not nervous at all. Laying there with my wife at my side. My nurse is taking vital signs. She says that the antistesiologist will be in to see me soon. She came in and said are you ready for some time? I’m always ready for happy time I replied. As I kissed my wife. The doctor but an injection into my IV. We were told the surgery will take three to five hours max. As I was being wheeled away. I don’t remember anything. I don’t believe I even made it out if pre-op, and I was out. All I remember is….. Oh his eyes are opening. There I was in the recovery room. As I woke up, they wanted me to drink. Well I couldn’t move my arms at all. It was like they were dead. They gave my wife a room number and to meet us there. I was so thirsty and my mouth felt like the desert. I got into my room and they transferred me into the room bed. I was given a pitcher of ice water. I think I drank close to half before my nurse stopped me. She didn’t want me to get sick. The six surgions came in and asked how I feel? I asked if they had me strapped down or what? I said my damn shoulders are killing me! They replied that the surgery took longer than expected. I was on the surgery table for nine hours! Laying there completely relaxed, and on a metal table is why my shoulders hurt so bad.

The doctor told me that I was re-cut back open along my original incision. From under my chin, up past my ear. They had to make an extra incision so my ear could be almost completely removed. My skin on my left cheek and under my eye was pulled away, and laid back. They took a nerve from my neck and attached it to the main nerve by my ear. The nerve that comes from the ear for your facial functions. Actually grows from your brain. The nerve from there is about 3/16 of an inch around. It’s like a bunch of rubber bands all in a tube. These nerve bands are about as thick as a piece of hair. Well I only had two strands intact. The nerve from my neck was not enough to make all the repairs. The doctors took about 4mm of nerves from my tongue. They went down in my throat when my face and neck were opened up. Took the nerve pieces that was needed. It was grafted into the nerve from the ear to my fasial nerve side. The results won’t be known for 6 months to 12 months.

Well the day before I went home. The doctors came in again and asked if I was ready for my drain tube to come out? Hell yes was my reply! There’s no easy way to take these out. Which I knew From my first surgery. Inside of my face at the end of the drain tube is a bell. It’s kinda like a funnel so the liquid will gather and run out the tube. One hard pull and a pop! The drain tube is out and feels 100 times better. The tube in my face, under the skin was about six inches long. Pain meds and antibiotics, and we are on our way home.

It’s now September 2017 and the reconstruction and recovery still continues. This month the dental repairs and implants have begun. I have had four teeth repaired so far, three more to go at a later date. Once all of the damaged teeth that remain are repaired, the implants begin. I have a total of five teeth to be implanted if possible? It all depends on how much bone is left, and how strong the bone is. If the implants can’t be installed, they will build a bridge for those teeth. I still have no nerve feeling in about 1/3 of the left side of my face. I have turned down other options that have been suggested. I do not want anymore facial surgeries done. At this point it is completely up to me as the VA and DOD have been respecting my decision. Not sure what else is in the future from this point on? The vision in my left eye has been deteriorating every year. It’s about three times worse than my right eye.

Beatrice Hernandez
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Truly inspiring and thoughtful.
Thank you for beautiful writing.
Written by someone who understands..

Debbie
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Debbie

Perfect timing!!!

Angeliki Anastasia
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What a heroic survivor you are Great Woman of Steel and miraculous Love!!! Congratulations for conquering the bad dragon!!! Smashing him to the ground, Amazon Barbara!!! Most of my family went to the arms of the Ángels!!! The bad dragon sent them into piece!!! He made little knocks on my door also, but I shot the door!!! My lovely loving Father and my only gorgeous Sister left the door opened!!! My Santa Mommie, is 90 years old, also is a bionic survivor and like the Spartan she is, she ordered the army of the 300 Spartans and pushed him inside the black whole Kaiadas, and shouted!!! This is Spartan Survival!!!

Angeliki Anastasia
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Excuse my big mistake! Peace not piece! Thank you!

Ruth
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Very well written article. Yes we all have at one time or another been shaken to the core. With scary health news, job loss, death of a loved one, end of long term relationships, and the list goes on. Acknowledge your pain. Keep faith and hope alive. Rest if you must. Remember to eat healthy. Remember to pray. Take care of yourself. And remember that love never fails. Love stays constant. God always loves you and will see you through. It survives through generations and dimensions. Whatever it is you will get through it. Keep the faith.

DeanneCampbell
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Life brings us all kinds of challenges and I have had mine. In May of 2008, my husband, my co-partner in this life, nearly lost his life when he suffered a massive heart attack. The way I remember it, is in sections. The whole year if 2008 was very stressful and very difficult. We had an ongoing problem with our eldest daughter and child getting worse, which added stress to my husband’s already heavy burdens. Then, the heart attack happened on the very morning we were supposed to get up and go watch our oldest son graduate from his university. Three weeks after arriving at the hospital, my husband left the hospital. I believe I was sort of in autopilot. I knew that I had to provide him with reassurance and positivity. I needed to pay the bills, care for the younger children, and run our home. My husband works as a business consultant so I had to figure out how to invoice clients so that we had money coming in. For the last part, we were blessed to have my husband direct me so that we could process invoices.
Then, later in the fall, my doctor called and said that I needed to repeat some blood work. Once my labs came back, we got word that I needed to be seen by a autoimmune specialist. I was diagnosed and found to test positive for lupus and possibly other autoimmune diseases. To say that I was in shock is a true understatement. Later, after additional testing, I was diagnosed with fibromyalgia, Sjogren’s disorder and IBS. It was a very trying time but I see it as a time that I saw—our family saw—what we were made out of. My faith was challenged and it got stronger as a direct result. Life storms are a part of life. Recently, my younger daughter survived the Las Vegas shootings on October 1st of 2017. To me, that trial of almost losing my daughter’s life, sent me reeling. I find strength in my relationship with God. He has ALWAYS gotten me through whatever has happened in my life. Until my arms were around my daughter at the airport, I felt like I couldn’t breathe. For me, it’s my faith. God is the one who gets me through anything this world throws my way. Because Christ overcame the world, I know that as long as He’s with me, I will get through anything.

Becki McDonough
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Fantastic article, thank you so much for sharing! This gives clear direction and teaches us skills in keeping faith and hope during times of extreme adversity. Giving up is not an option, especially when it comes to saving those depending on you not to!

LouiseClarke
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What an inspirational and powerful read this is. Thank you so much for these wise wise words. <3

Jackie Wilushewski
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Wow Barbara this article had my emotions running! This information is so powerful and can really give the strength, willpower and clarity to get through varying types of difficult situations. I absolutely love #4, thank you.

evelyn soneja trimidal
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evelyn soneja trimidal

i was abandoned by my husband almost 20 yrs ago…i did not have the luxury of grieving and feeling self pity coz i have a young daughter depending on me….so i just concentrated on my daily work…i just lived that time from day to day…and if problems overwhelmed me, i just watched a movie…that time, watching movies was my escape route…and crying every night when my daughter is already asleep…i’ve cried a lot…everytime i felt sorrow engulfing me, i cried…at first, every night, then just often, then the tears just dried up…it was harder for me coz of my daughter….now, my daughter is already working…i’m now about to finish paying up my loans….looking back, there was only one thing that made me going…the thought of not giving up because of my daughter, the thought that i had too much pride to be defeated by trials… if i folded up, i could not accept the fact that i was defeated by this problem…so i persevered,,,and i triumphed

JuliaPathfider
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Thank You Barbara for sharing these powerful steps, in your own insightful, and unique way.
Your story of great courage and faith, in the midst of such difficult and challenging circumstances, is so beautifully inspiring and life affirming.
This amazing article resonates with me in many ways, and is a wonderful example of how we can be accepting, and determined at the same time, in our quest to overcome life’s challenges.

Elizabeth Hemingway
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Elizabeth Hemingway

I started a job 4 a woman last Wednesday. She was diagnosed with pelvic cancer. She is a artist 🎨. She was suppose 2 be starting radiation on Monday she decided she wasn’t going 2 do that. She decided 2 call on God 2 finalize her appearance on earth. She stop eating and liquids r getting less and less. We started Vitas Hospice on Sunday 4 her. I had 2 leave on Tuesday and another caregiver took my place. I will return next Thursday GOD willing. I am home resting and getting things done that need 2 be taken care of. I’m going through a program 4 consolidated credit and and was forced 2 give up another card. I moved from CT. In 2017 and since I’ve been here have lost everything except 4 a roof over my head , my furniture and my job. I believe in a power greater then myself and my Angels without them I would be in trouble. LOL

Melissa Rose Rothschild
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Thank you Barbara….These are wonderful , mindful suggestions when going through difficult times.
This resonates greatly with me. I went through an ovarian cancer diagnosis at 28 among many other traumatic life events . It’s amazing what we are capable of growing through if we let go and Let God…
Beautiful article .

Catherine B. Roy
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Thank you so much, Barbara for these wise words. I can feel it. I’ve been there. In 2008. doctors told me I will live maybe just a year and aI half more. And I am still here :))) But how I felt in that moment and trough every next until I’ve been cured is something that only we who lived it, can comprehend. That’s why I know that your way works and I am grateful because you shared it. 💗

Uchenna Ilo
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These steps are truly empowering and very well thought out. I follow them subconsciously but I think I will start being more intentional whenever I face difficulties. Thanks for this.

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Shontag tanks

These steps are very important and you have to take time and smell the flowers.