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4 Easy Steps to Inner Peace

What is peace?

Peace is the absence of worry, conflicted feeling, anxiety, or stress. Peace is achieved by acceptance and letting go. It is possible to have an outer life which is filled with many chaotic situations, unresolved relationships, and a long “to do list” and yet move from a place of inner peace. Peace is a state of being that, despite the outer mess, is able to stay above it all.

Are you ready to experience a feeling of calm inside?

If so, try this:

Step 1.

Identify whatever idea you are holding onto that’s preventing you from feeling peace right now in this moment – name it. We’re not talking about naming your circumstance. We’re talking about identifying your BELIEF about your circumstance.

Step 2.

Become willing to let it go. Make believe you CAN let it go. What would it be like if that belief DIDN’T EXIST? How would you feel without your circumstance and the people involved? What would your life be like without that thought? Who would you be if you were no longer holding onto that limiting belief?

Now…. right now… do you feel a sense of relief? If not, then you have more to let go of!

Step 3.

Wash. Rinse. Repeat. Start from Step 1 and do it again with the next thing that’s disturbing your sense of well-being. First identify the belief or attitude, and then become willing to let go of that thought that is causing upset. Repeat the first two steps over and over until you feel a release.


Step 4.

Check inside again. Can you feel the absence of upset? That’s peace. Can you feel a clean, fresh feeling? Take a deep breath of it. That’s peace.

What would you be willing to give up to keep this feeling of peace?

What would you be willing to do to stay peaceful?

If you want to keep the feeling of peace, make a choice not to entertain those upsetting thoughts anymore. Just say, “I’ve had enough of you.”

I know what you’re thinking, “Paige, This is RIDICULOUS. How will erasing my upsetting thought give me lasting peace? There are still problems in my life! I can’t just quit life and sit on a mountaintop! I’ve got real challenges!”

The Fine Print

Every time you allow yourself a break from the anxious thinking (it has to be a true break), you rewire your brain and make space for more feelings of calm. Every rest you take is BUILDING UPON THE LAST. So, you are actually creating forward movement every time you remember to let go. Peace is built one moment at a time. Today, you might live without your worrisome thoughts once. Tomorrow, you may rest from your anxieties twice. The next day you might practice taking a break four times, and so on.

But don’t worry about tomorrow or the next day. Just sit for a minute NOW and imagine what it would feel like for your worry to magically disappear… as if you had a magic wand!

Poof!

WHO DO YOU BECOME without your fear, worry, anxiety or trouble?

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Paige Bartholomew

Paige Bartholomew is a licensed psychotherapist who holds a Master’s Degree from St. Edward's University in Austin, Texas.

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findint it difficult to move on after the death of my sister 18 months ago and the my partner, January this year, feel lost, empty and alone,, don’t want to talk to friends about it but know I should, so I just push people away, and waste days just wandering and over thinking,,,, I am crying inside all the time, even when out and have a smile on my face I want to be home , I know I cannot get today bac, but hate the thought of wasting my nights and days,

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Sandra,

Oh my beloved sister, I am SO sorry for your painful loss and continued grief. Losing two loved ones in just 18 months – I cannot imagine the pain you are going through.

It’s NATURAL to grieve like you are grieving. Please do not put pressure on yourself to go out or put a smile on.

Don’t think of it as wasting time. Grief is a PROCESS that takes a LONG TIME. You will come out of it when you’re meant to come out of it. Trust your Higher Self. It knows what it’s doing.

Love, Paige Bartholomew
Author of above article.

Melissa Rose Rothschild
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I have always loved the quote ,”Worry never robs tomorrow of its sorrow, but only saps today of its strength.’” It’s been credited to different authors. Regardless it is a great reminder.
I find that gratitude replaces worry or anxiety efficiently ❤️ Great article, Paige

Paige Bartholomew
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Paige Bartholomew

Melissa,
I am so glad you got something from my article. I do love your quote, as well. Thank you for being here on the planet and helping humanity grow.

Love, Paige

Robina fazal
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Thanks!Paige dear..Sir Bryant McGill and Mam Jenni..for Such..Nice topic..for the Soul and mind uplift of all….❤👑💐Peace of mind is the most imp.thing to lead a healthy life with strength and purpose…if we can learn the art to be peaceful ,we can enhance our own lives with passion and zeal…and can make the lives of others comfortable and with ease..inner peace is gained by ñaturing the Soul…and mind ..it needs practice…The best tips are…we should learn some yoga peaceful soothing exercises they are like meditations..that can be managed twice or thrice a day a day…doing such exercises…can make you calm….and relaxed ..to deal your own routines and your behaviour and patience for others…as to deal with others your mind have to be resistable and in patience..never always conditions or others behaviour or attitudes in your favour or according to your expectations and your well wishing….even Family members differs in behaviours and attitude..and while you have more exposure to outerworld there is a lot of different people with types of people with different opinions ,different mentalities,different manners.. some are soft..some are arrogant and sharp..some are positive,some are negative.. This world is a chaos…It is hardest and the most unpredictable,a lot uncertainties….unfullfulments..sorrows..worries ,hardships…on the other hand a place full of beautiful attractions ..great options,great desires and passions to be achieved,happinesess.Joys…one wants to be popular..want to gain a lot..money..fame…respect and honour…in this tussle.. a lot anxieties …fuss .depression…and eagerness..makes a man…in hurry..worry….and hustle and bustle.in which .Man is in confused…and forget the Gods lessons for mankind to be in peace and harmony.postive and do good for his or her ownsleves.. by living a life of patience and good will for all..to make this world a better place to live..to love all.respect all…to go ahead achieving for pleasure and comforties.
and desires to be full filled ..in short I wanna say..a peaceful mind can do miracles,and for that in our daily lives we have to practice peaceful mind ,body and Soul activities.. and exercises…to gain positive energies..to uplift ownsleves.. and to uplift others.and to make works a better place to live..and be in ease and be successful..in this world and in the hereafter…As life is short..so do your part of works as best as you can do that will make others…happy and motivated… Amen

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Paige Bartholomew

Robina,
I am sorry I am just reading your comment now. Simple Reminders does not tell me when they are going to publish my work, so sometimes it’s a while before I see people’s responses.

You are doing AMAZING work to uplift humanity! What an empath, loveworker, indigo you are! (Insert the label of your choice.)

I love you my dear sister.

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Love, Paige

Lalie Nieto
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Lalie Nieto

Hello Paige, Jenni and Bryant💕 I’m back for a more in-depth comment regarding this topic on Peace of Mind. This happened at work a few days ago. I was feeling out of balance (no peace) as a result of some unresolved issues. But I told myself to stop the pattern of negative thinking asap otherwise I will continue to suffer and be in bondage. So instead if focusing on myself and my emotional turmoil, I focused on my work and the customers in front of me. I pretended that I was feeling okay and happy. I greeted them with a big smile and started a conversation with them about different topics. I just felt so proud of myself for succeeding in overcoming my feelings of distress. I went home feeling at peace and happy. Yes Victory! Diversion helps a lot in regaining your peace of mind. keeping yourself busy and refraining from over thinking a situation is a must to survive the inner chaos.thank you😍

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Paige Bartholomew

Lalie,
Forgive me for just now reading your comment. I don’t always get notified when my articles are published, so sometimes I’m late in responding.

I absolutely LOVE the fact that you used your CONSCIOUSNESS to shift your day. One small change in our CHOICE can uplift us. Change our frequency.

Thank you for sharing your experience. I got a kick out of your story!

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love, Paige

Suzan
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Suzan

Very good steps to get inner peace I will practice them

Paige Bartholomew
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Paige Bartholomew

Suzan,

I wonder if you had a chance to practice the steps? And if so, what was your experience? I use these steps (only in a lot more detail) with my psychotherapy clients. We go really deep with them. Thank you for taking a moment to comment.

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Love, Paige

Nisha KC
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Nisha KC

Thanks for such a helpful articles.

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Nisha

You just made my day! Thank you, sister!~

Love, Paige
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Lawney
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Great steps to use for anxiety and more peaceful moments in your life. By repeating these steps daily you will get there. Almost like practicing an art.

Paige Bartholomew
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Paige Bartholomew

Lawney,

You must know from experience that using the steps of self-acceptance, self-love and radical forgiveness are the best way to heal. Thank you for sharing your wisdom with us here, and for being on the planet at this time!

(Sorry for the late reply… I only just saw this.)

Love, Paige
(Author of the article)

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Lalie Nieto
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Thank you for the great tips Bryant and Jenni. I will practice this💕

Paige Bartholomew
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Paige Bartholomew

Lalie,

Thank you for your kind words about my work. I hope you got something from practicing the steps.
Love, Paige

Janice Wayne
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Love it! I am going to have my daughter read this. She has anxiety and these steps will Definitely help her to find her inner peace. Thank you

Paige Bartholomew
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Paige Bartholomew

Janice,

I wonder if your daughter read my article, and if she got anything out of it? My personal experience with anxiety is that nothing heals it better than TURNING TOWARD IT. Anxiety is a place that’s screaming to be seen, heard and loved. When we love, accept and forgive these places, the anxiety stops screaming at us. Let me know how your daughter is….

Love, Paige

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Darlene Rese
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Letting go of disturbing thoughts and changing how you feel about something isn’t easy all the time But the best way to experience inner calm. The best way to stay calm is to set your boundaries and not accept those people that are causing you the distress to stay around your inner circle until they are ready to change their actions. Sometimes that in itself is hard too because that person may be part of your family but it is necessary if you do not want them to continue walking all over you. Thank you for sharing your insight on this subject. It is very wise. All things we must remember consists of developing useful habits that pertain to our well being.

Paige Bartholomew
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Paige Bartholomew

Hi Darlene,
Your words are spoken from wise experience. Sometimes we do have to protect ourselves from toxic people – even if they are in our families.
There are many techniques to manage anxiety, but my experience is that these steps are the only way I’ve ever truly overcome each of my wounds. Self-love, self-acceptance, and radical forgiveness are not easy, but they are key for healing.

Love, your sister, Paige

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I really love this article and can relate to it a lot just like your other great articles. Peace is very key in life. I love a quote I just read by Albert Einstein well actually two. “a calm and modest life brings more happiness than the constant pursuit of success.” ” a peaceful mind and a peaceful life is the key to happiness.” I live with mental illness to the point where I couldn’t work. I have been on disability for seven years. I have a panic disorder w/agoraphobia, bipolar two, borderline personality disorder and Ptsd. short after when I went on disability I was involved in a severe physical, emotional and metal abusive relationship. to get the big picture I had everything I had was five times worse. my anxiety, my depression, my suicidal, thoughts, it was living living a horrible nightmare but you are awake and constantly filler with fear. on his second jail sentence I had a nervous breakdown, I ended up in a mental hospital for twelve days each day the psychiatrist I cried uncontrollably. I was then diagnoised with Ptsd. I am a recovering alcoholic and drug addict. I took in back but after a great support group I was able to leave ihim which literally saved my life. then there were so many times I do not know how I woke up. let’s just say I lived my life even after with fear anxiety sadness anger rage shame guilt I never thought I would get out of this deep darkness. then the worst part of me came out to the person who is my everything my heartbeat my sunshine, child my daughter. I sad mean things over facebook and deeply regreted it very soon after. but I did so much damage I was so very sad I really didn’t believe I would be in my daughters life ever. that was the worst feeling I wanted to die. I kept making bad choices. December of 2016 my ex abuser knocked on my door I left him in april of 2015 and had not see him since. he knocked on my door and said he wanted to come and be my friend. my heart was pounding so hard I said omg after all this time 2 yrs he still thought I might actually try and be his friend I could tell by his voice he was drinking I had so many emotions in this few minutes I grabbed the phone to call the police I was crying and I could not believe it I told him I forgave him and if he cared about me he would leave me alone. he still continue to talk to me the police came in a few minutes he left and did not return. February of 2017 it was my daughter’s bridal shower I was so distraught about not being there. after a few days the apartment I lived in for four years where all my trauma was I left besides people knocking on my door in the middle of the night everytime I thought it would be my ex abuser. But the main reason I left is being in this sadness about my daughter I needed to get to a safe place where I was not a threat to my own life on purpose or accidentally. on a good impulse I called my mother up and just said I could not live here anymore she came and got me. at my moms I cared about saving my life. my thoughts turned over to how devastated my daughter would be without me and would carry that sadness for the rest of her life. and my other loved ones too. all my daughter ever wanted was to see me well, at least she deserved a mother that she could be proud of for once. I started to believe and have faith in God and put things in his hands. I was in an outpatient mental health group I had started it about a year before but stuck with it, and all this time I stuck with my same therapist, and now have the same psychatrists for years. they very much are my great support. I wanted to change and be a good mom I wanted to see my grandchildren grow up. my daughter was my greatest strength to be the best I can be. so I moved on my own which I lived by myself since my ex abuser for 3 yrs besides the five months I lived with my parents. when I started to really what to change I had faith in God, and started to change my thinking and thoughts. I had some bumps in the road but as I fell each time the fall was easier cause I knew I could get back up. I started to believe in myself and let go of my past, my mental health is my present it cant be cured but I am healing. it has improved so much because of the changes of my life and mind. and I have always stuck with great support. I let go of anger rage resentments and shame, I forgave myself and living on my own for the first time ever began to know myself. I love myself today. one of the greatest blessings that gives me peace today is I found my purpose and passion in life advocate and awareness for domestic violence and mental health. I go on a lot of support groups and I get the most joy out of helping others , when they send me a like, or a nice message it makes my day. I have such empathy and compassion for others because of what i have gone their that i can truly empathazie wwith them, i am far fro perfect but i am ten times better than i was i work on myself, keep learning and try to help and give people hope and love. me and my daughter are slowly working on a relationship, I let her go at her pace because that’s the right thing to do. when i saw her this past Christmas and she hugged me and told me she loved me it was the most priceless moment, my heart was filled with overflowing love and happiness and peace. I knew she saw to make my life better and that she loves me unconditionally just like i love her. there is no greater love I can ever feel. I am very blessed to have such a loving beautiful healthy daughter . I thank God all the time. I gave her life she saved mine. i might cry at times but there could cries and the don’t last. they used to stay stuck. I AM GRATEFUL AND BLESSED TO ALL THE GREAT SUPPORT I HAVE TO ALL THE PEOPLE WHO INSPIRE ME DAILY AND WHO I CAN HELP AND INSPIRE, TO ALL MY LOVED ONES, TO MY GREAT FAITH IN GOD AND MY GREATEST STRENGTH WHO GOT ME WHERE I AM TODAY, MY DAUGHTER ASHLEY. SO I HAVE INNER PEACE TODAY IT IS SO GREAT I AM MUCH CALMER, LESS ANIXIETY, I CAN LAUGH AND SMILE AND KNOW THAT I HAVE OVERCOME SO MUCH THAT I AM PROUD OF AND KNOW THAT I CAN REACH MY GOALS AND DREAMS. WITH THAT I HAVE PEACE WHICH LIKE ALBERT EINSTEIN SAID IS A KEY TO A HAPPY LIFE. EVERYTHING IN THIS ARTICLE I BELEIVE YOU ALL CAN DO AND CAN HAVE INNER PEACE. I AM SORRY THIS IS SO LONG I GET TO WRITING AND CAN STOP. BUT I HOPE I HELPED AT LEAST ONE PERSON BEACUSE THAT IS WHY I WRITE. GOD BLESS YOU ALL WISHING YOU PEACE AND HAPPINESS ALWAYS!!!

Janice Macleod
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Janice Macleod

God Bless you! You have overcome more than I ever could imagine someone being able to face! I have copied down here quote from Albert Einstein about living a modest life. That really struck home with me. I am so happy you have found peace and happiness. I am working on that now as I have to view Myself more positively with intent and carry through with
action. My depression and worthlessness thoughts Began when my husband was diagnosed terminally
ill and confessed he had a double life. A woman in the city where he worked four days week and me at home working full-time and raising our children. Things are getting better little bit at a time but I feel so much to playing as to what did I do wrong to make him Love someone else. This website it’s really helping me. I have gone back to my Christian Reading my Bible, practising what
God preaches and believing that he will show me the way.
Simple reminders is really helping me concentrate on what I need to get better. I never get out of bed but today I read positivity start with intent and then carry through with it. Today I’m going to get up shower dressed up with make up on and going to do Easter baskets for children in my building whose parents financially cannot do
this. I have always been charitable but today I am going to practice what I have learned through these PRECIOUS
MESSAGES!
Thank you for sharing your story and you have helped give me a new perspective! Happy Easter💕💕

Paige Bartholomew
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Paige Bartholomew

Janice, I agree! Thank you ALL for sharing your stories here.

Love, Paige Bartholomew
(Author of above article)

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Paige Bartholomew
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Paige Bartholomew

Thank you Patricia for your kind words about my article. I’m so sorry I only saw your comment today. Simple Reminders doesn’t tell me when they publish my work, so I sometimes read comments much later.

Thank you for your vulnerability in your sharing. You’ve been through hell and back. I commend you on keeping on getting back up. When we do our personal work, no matter what it looks like – no matter how hard it is – we are doing what we came here to do. Your work benefits MANY humans on the planet.

So, thank you, dear sister, for your contribution to the healing of humanity.

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Love, Paige

Sheri
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Sheri

I seem to just get to that peaceful state and then I receive that letter from the lawyer of the demands being made. I have come to more or less just laugh it off. I can’t do anything about it. I pray, a lot. I give it to God because I have no else to give it to. I know I have more peaceful days than when this process first started. Hoping when all is said and done I will find even more peace within myself. Thank God for good family and friends and I cannot forget my dog Ali, Blu, and Maggie and cat Tiddles.

Paige Bartholomew
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Paige Bartholomew

I can’t think of anything better than giving that pain to God. Self-love, self-acceptance and self-forgiveness are the bridges to allowing God to love us back.

I’m praying for you, Sheri.
love, Paige
(Author of the article above. 🙂

Carol Roberts
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Carol Roberts

My fear is that he never loved me and still don’t he is here for convenience. But thanks to this I am letting it go .I need to learn to love me first anyway then the rest will come. I appreciate a your inspiration .

Paige Bartholomew
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Paige Bartholomew

Carol, BOY, do I get it. Fear of not being loved runs soooo deep for so many. We just weren’t loved enough from parents to form secure attachments as adults. Thank you for your kind words about my article. Love yourself first, my sister. It is the only way to true freedom.

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Love, Paige

Jackie Wilushewski
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I love the way you broke down these steps, it;s very helpful and allows the mind to recognize that this is attainable this way.

Vasudevan Bhattathir
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Thoughts when once entered in the mind is very difficult remove it it always try to come out at an opportune moment these are stored in the subconscious mind and try to interfere with our peace. the human beings can observe our on thoughts .start observing the thoughts and due course we develop a faculty by which we can be a witness to our own thoughts by using this method we ,the witness faculty will be able to prevent the thoughts entering our mind without permission of the developed new faculty this method is to be practiced continuously for some time after till it becomes a habit . after all all thoughts are already existing in the universe and we are receiving it in the mind depending our habits and temperament . this is the method suggested by Kena Upanishads long days back we are all puppets of our thoughts why not stop it entering our mind? by doing so peace will come . otherwise we will play to wishes of nature.
the above article is suitable for people busy with lot activities and feelings but I do not think it will give a permanent solution.
thank you.

Paige Bartholomew
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Paige Bartholomew

Thank you for your commentary on my article. You are very honest about what you think. I appreciate that.

I agree with you about so many of your points. Thoughts already exist in the universe and we pick them up like an antennae. So interesting…..

As a psychotherapist, I have not found a faster, or more effective way of healing anxiety, depression, loneliness, etc… than these steps for self-love, self-acceptance and radical self-forgiveness. For my clients, they do report phobias stopping with just one or two sessions. It’s really miraculous, and I use it on myself in my own meditations every day.

Sending a big hug to you, brother of the love,
Paige

Paige Bartholomew
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Paige Bartholomew

THANK YOU Jackie!

Love, Paige

Kay
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Kay

Just recovering from surgery is tough enough ,but moving out of state also rough. Anxious about long drive,too. Just feel so down

Elizabeth Huntington
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Elizabeth Huntington

Love & hugs Kay. Your so much stronger and capable then you think. Lift your head high, move forward one step at a time. Love & believe in yourself because you are Beautiful. Prayers for healing. God bless.

Paige Bartholomew
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Paige Bartholomew

Sending you love, Kay.

Paige