Confirmation: Self Confirming
Your child’s verbal emotions assist them in becoming a more confident young adult. Hearing what has them so upset, fearful, or angry can give them confirmation that you agree and are there for them. It allows them to feel your love and creates an environment for them to display themselves and learn to solve their emotional needs. It also let’s them feel safe in their feelings.
When we take just 5 minutes to listen to our children and their, what we may call, “silly,” we give them an authentic ear. We show them that we truly care about their stories, their lives, their ideas and mostly that we care about who they are. Knowing who they are is the biggest expression of who they will grow up to be. We as parents must first recognize them in their expressions in order to give them the permission to share themselves verbally throughout their lives.
Letting our children vent the way they feel about anything that is going on in their moment, from discipline, frustration, anger, crying, loneliness, grief and so many other emotions that come along with our children’s development, we give them freedom. Freedom to be open and validated. Validation will give them confidence as they move through their journey.
As parents, we must have these three things ourselves. This will assist us in raising our children in a way that will give them the freedom, happiness, joy, and self worth that we all deserve.