Sand·wich Gen·er·a·tion (noun)
A generation of people, typically in their thirties or forties, responsible for bringing up their own children and for the care of their aging parents.
1. Take care of you.
Whether it’s a drive, an exercise class, reading a magazine, a long bath… you have to remember to take care of you. We are not able to fully take care of others if we are not continuing to take care of ourselves. Make sure you are taking care of mind, body and spirit, now more than ever.
2. Accept help.
You can not do it all. If you have a child of age, this is a good time for them to help out with doing more for themselves. When friends and family want to help, let them. Tell others what you need. You will be surprised how this is a gift for everyone involved.
3. Have a support group.
There are Facebook communities, Elderly caregiver groups, Assisted Living meetings (if your parents are living there) that can be of great service for your mental health. It is amazing how sharing our journey keeps us alive and sane.
4. Ask for a financial advisor or accountant to help with financial planning for it all.
It is exorbitant, financially if your parents need medical assistance and you are planning college or any other children expenses at the same time. There are resources though. A financial planner or accountant can help you get things in order to know what options you have.
5. Keep your faith.
Whatever Higher Power you believe in, it is absolutely crucial to let the bigger plan unfold as it will. Know that it will be okay.
6. Speak with others about there circumstances.
A lot of times, we do not even realize that others have already gone through care giving of parents. Any advice should be welcome.
7. Make time for your immediate family.
Remember that your children’s future is depending on the present. Make your immediate family first priority. There is a good chance your parents have those wishes as well.
8. Give attention to your significant other and check in often.
You may both be helping with all that is going on and both of you are probably stressed and experiencing many emotions. It may be a moment a day but check in with each other and stay connected.
9. Understand there will be good and bad days.
Try not to have expectations about how things should be. Keep loving. You are doing your best.
10. Feel the feelings.
It’s okay to feel overwhelmed. All beginnings have endings. Life is a circular soul of love. Appreciate it all. One moment at a time.